Ok so I am happily married and have a beautiful 4 month old daughter by another man(my ex)....yes all parties know and my husband knew i was pregnant when we married. And I just recently found out from my ex that he is not only getting married(a requirement by the air force) because he knocked up his ex girlfriend of 4 years. Now mind you we broke up mainly because he was still in love with her and was planning on joining the air force without making any committments to me (at the time i didn't know he could join with a child without having to be married first). Now lately I have had thoughts of pushing his ex down the stairs, (granted we now live in different state) hoping she has a miscarriage/deformed child, I have even thought of the horrible things I could have my own daughter say and do to her child when they are older. Are these normal feelings or am I still in love with my ex? My best friend seems to think I am still in love with him.
2006-11-07 10:45:14 · 7 answers · asked by Tanya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ahhh your young, or else you look that way. Your allowed to be a little bitter. However, you do have a very intense fantasy life! You know the old saying of a women scorned? Your getting pretty close to validating it! However, if we all get thrown in jail for our bizarre thoughts then the streets would be empty. Stephen King would be on death row, and I would be right behind him. Tanya, your O.K. I'm O.K. just don't dwell to much on it. You look to pretty to start getting worry lines in your face!
2006-11-07 10:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I am reading you story I am trying o put myself in with you and I would say you are really angry with him cause you do love him and he has cheated you and your family out of a good thing but what you have to remember he made his bed he needs to deal with it and you need to get on with your life. First you need to do is to understand that it isn't his new girlfriends fault so you are putting you anger towards the wrong one. The other thing you need is to get a counselor or a shrink and get him out of your soul trust me you can and start enjoying your life. If you are not happy with the man you are with then you need to find one that would make you happy and there are a lot of them out there I am sure the would love to line up. Good luck.
2006-11-07 11:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey look it's normal to be mad and bitter. Are you happy in your marriage? If you are happy in your marriage and all of you are doing good then I don't think your still in love with your ex I just think your a little pissed that he's doing this with his now g/f and he didn't with you. It's even normal to be a little jealous. Don't let it control you. Just tell yourself, your happy and he obviously has problems so his marriage probably won't last anyway. But anyway it is completly normal. Go and be happy with your husband.
2006-11-07 13:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by Amber W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 12:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think these feelings are normal but life is to short to worry about him and her forget about it move on your better off (make him pay child support) do whats right for the kids they are the only ones who dident have a choice also i dont feel its right to "punish others" thru the children dont be spiteful or hateful thats their father and they need to respect him as i would hope he would teach the same on his end
2006-11-07 10:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a very very thin line between love and hate ....you also have to still have fillings for some one to hate them
2006-11-07 11:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a soap opera.....
2006-11-07 10:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋