it kind of makes me upset that he hasn't, he sais it is none of her business, they have a 2 year old child together already...i need help. am i being too pushy or should he tell her?
2006-11-07 10:31:41 · 32 answers · asked by heaven2hell2413 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He should not tell her. I agree with him that it is none of her business. This baby is between you and him....not her!
2006-11-07 10:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that your boyfriend is right. It is not any of his ex wife's business. I know you want her to know that you and your boyfriend is having a baby but, by exploiting the situation can have serious consequences. I do not know the relationship between your boyfriend and his ex but, she may not be any competition for you. Accept that your boyfriend and his ex has a child that is a bond that will never be broken by you or anyone else. Show him the true woman you are and get over your jealousy.
2006-11-07 11:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by VON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitely should tell her. Since they share a child together, his first child is going to be getting a new brother / sister. And yes, it is her business, because she will play a huge role in preparing the other child. Often, especially in split families, when new children are brought into the family, the older children will feel displaced. Since the child is only 2 years old, it's not all that important that he or she be told right away, but definitely before your baby comes. Talk with him about your concerns, and remind him of his obligation to his older child. As a parent, it is his job to let the other child know, but he needs to discuss it with his ex wife first. Together they need to come up with a plan on how to break the news.
2006-11-07 10:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by kari w 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yep. Too pushy. How has she hurt you? That's his ex, you're his girlfriend. As long as they share a child together she will be in his life. Maybe there's a reason he hasn't or doesn't want to tell her.
2006-11-07 11:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a B and a H-O-! First of all, your only a girlfriend and you got knocked up out of wedlock. You want him to tell the ex-wife that your pregnant? Is your relationship with this man due to him having and ex-wife??? The reason why you want her to know so that to prove that you love him enough to have his baby???? Is that why you posted question like this??? Congrats! I hope he'll rethink about you by the time you have that baby and when you do, and that man is no longer by yourside, the best of luck to you.
2006-11-07 15:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by KaPaul L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your boyfriend in that it's none of his ex-wife's business. Whatever happened between your boyfriend and his ex are in the past. You shouldn't worry about things like that in your condition. It's not good for the baby.
2006-11-07 10:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it may not be any of her concern. but that's a pretty lame excuse as to why he does not want to tell her. i think there is more to it than what he is telling you. i think i would dig a little deeper as to the real reason he does not want her to know. do you ever see this girl? if you do how does he think that your going to hide it once you really start to show? i guess you could always act like you need some advise from her regarding being pregnant.
2006-11-07 10:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this is a something that a lot of us want to do or to try it is a controlling game and you want to see if your partner will do this to show if he Love's you and if he does then you want her to get mad at you or jealous or something that make's you feel good inside. You are not looking for her to be happy at all. It is a dangers game for you so you need to be carful in this cause if he does care about her you maybe the one hurt.
2006-11-07 10:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO,
SHE WILL FIND OUT IN PLENTY OF TIME...WHY WORRY ABOUT HER....THE BABY WILL TELL HER...AND YES YOU ARE WRONG FOR WANTING HIM TO TELL HER.....THEY WERE TOGETHER BEFORE YOU AND MAYBE HE HINKS IT WILL HURT HER FEELINGS....WHERE MY EX DIDN'T TELL ME ANY THING MY DAUGHTER DID AND I TOOK IT BETTER FROM HER THAN I WOULD HAVE HIM.....SO LET THE BABY TELL HER SURELY THE BABY CAN TALK BEINGS ITS 2....I HAVE A 2 YEAR OLD AND SHE TELLS ME EVERY THING THAT GEOS ON AT HER FATHERS HOUSE....SO IT WILL COME WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT SO DON'T PUSH THINGS....IT IS ALL A PROCESS AND TIME HEALS OPEN WOUNDS.....GOOD LUCK:)
2006-11-07 10:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you wanting him to tell her but why force him to tell her she will find out soon enough because pregnancy isn't something that you can hide at least not for very long anyway so just relax and enjoy becoming anew mom congrats.
2006-11-07 10:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it so important that she knows? She is his EX...does that not mean anything to you? Are you trying to cause trouble between him and her and their child? Are you jealous that they have a child together? Get over it and grow up....or your baby may grow up before you do!!!
2006-11-07 10:37:07 · answer #11 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋