I'm a girl...my best friend is a girl...I think I've fallen in love with her...What do I do?

Question

What do I do?? I'm so confused...we've been best friends for years and now I think I've fallen in love with her...she told another one of my friends that she's confused about how she feels for me and she might be in love with me too. I'm not a lesbian, but I've fallen in love with her...what am I supposed to do??

Answer 1

well, if you both are each others best friends, than it shouldn't be all that hard to talk to each other about it. If it is...too bad,you guys have to sit down and talk about your feelings for each other, see what she says, heck you might even get to hear some new things come out of your mouth, stuff you didn't know you thought.
After a good conversation you can both decide, do we both want to date each other? Are there any reasons why not?
after you've decided just how possible a relationship is, why don't you both go on a date together
I'm sure you both know what you like doing together already, so try something new, something you would normally "do with a boy".
At the end of your date, after looking at each other with a different set of eyes, you'll have abetter understanding of "is she right for me"
try to end the day off with a goodnight kiss
the next day.....or after two days if you want a day to think to yourselves, try talking to each other again
after all of this has gone on, you'll both be at least sure of whether or not you want to give a relationship a try......who knows, maybe you'll both be satified by fooling around on the side....a very natural thing for some very close freinds

whatever you do, do not let this simply pass by unnoticed, you both owe it to each other to give this a chance....even if you just end up talking about it once.



or you could do what most girls do; go out, get drunk and lez out with each other.

Answer 2

Going by the type of question this is, it sounds like you're still young...and these types of things are not at all unusual with young ladies. I would really take some time to evaluate your feelings. It's possible that you've simply developed just an incredibly strong bond through your friendship that you're mistaking for romantic love. It's also not unusual to be confused about these feelings if you've ever had a bad relationship with a guy...or no guy is there for you like your friend is. You say you're not a lesbian...and that statement alone should tell you a lot about where your feelings truly lie.

Answer 3

If you have fallen in love with a woman romantically and you are female, then you are bisexual or lesbian - you need to admit that to yourself first of all. Maybe you two can not hang out as much just to give you some time to think with a clear head and be sure about what it is you are thinking or feeling. Does your friend also believe she is not lesbian or bi? Do you personally WANT to take your friendship to a romantic level. Maybe you should just ask her about her sexuality openly when it is just you two, if she says she's straight, ask her if she would ever consider being with a woman. Tell her that you think you might consider being with a woman and see where that conversation goes.

Answer 4

You two need to sit down and talk to each other. You do not say how old you two are but I am guessing you are around teen years. These are confusing years for most people; male and female.

If you think you are happier seeing females in a romantic light then you might want to read some books and talk to people your trust who are lesbian or gay.

One thing is for sure; if you act on your feelings with your friend and it is mutual and later you decide you don't love women "that way" then be careful not to ruin the friendship or make you friend feel used.

Answer 5

Talk to her, that's the best thing to do. If you don't, it will eat you up inside and you may miss out on the most beautiful thing in life which is true love. Don't let these other answers discourage you, it's normal to not be a lesbian and fall in love with a girl. We don't choose who we fall in love with, our hearts know what is right. Tell her how you feel and tell her that even if she doesn't feel the same, you will always love her as a friend. It will all work out and I hope the best for you :) Good luck!

Answer 6

Hey listen Crazier things have happened.

Your friends and have been in a relationship of sorts for a While.

If she's into it then Go for it.

Just make sure you wouldn't feel guilty about it later.

And If you think you'll be meeting a guy to replace her well then don't bother even starting something you don't plan to finish.

Plus Fyi-

You are Gay if your thinking about her romantically.
and Being BI is Gay.

Straight is Stricktly Dickly my friend.

So Use protection, Saran WRap.

And HAve FUn.

Its worth the Try anyhow.

Of you two could just Masterbate together , in the same room and see where it goes from there.

Who knows? Oh and Just incase make sure to get a Vibrator.

Tons of Fun.

Let us know what HAppens.

Answer 7

Okay, my son went through this a couple of years ago, before he knew he was gay. What I told him (we have a very honest and open relationship) is if this person is a friend, you can talk about it with them. Let it develop, see what happens. Turned out good for him. However, just loving someone of the same sex does not make you gay. I have a few male friends who I am in love with, but not physical love. Remember there is a difference.
if it turns out you both do love each other, in all senses of the word, congratulations to you both. Love is hard to find.
If, after talking you decide you aren't, please, don;t let it kill your friendship. Friends are also hard to find.

Answer 8

Well where i live i tell my friends that are girl i love them but not in a lesbian way like as sisters and they say the same to me well if you both feel the same about each other then you need to sit her down and both of you need to talk about how you both feel about each other and ask questions. But im pretty sure it will work for you and even though your not a lesbian you can still love each other. Just tell her you love her and if she feels the same way she might just tell you she loves you back.

Answer 9

I think u should talk to her and tell her how u feel. If she feels the same maybe something will come of it. Sometimes u can't help who u fall in love with. And if she doesn't feel the same then atleast u know and can move on and not be so confused and stressed over the situation.

Answer 10

Its because ur just realizing that she's really ur best friend. Yall spend alot of time together and u understand her and she understands you. I don't think it's the kind of love...like a romantic love...it's a love like...she's my best friend and that's all I need to get me through the day...It's kinda hard to explain but I know what you mean because it's the same with me. I dunno...it's not romantic feelings it's just a strong bond (sometimes u can feel something...)...maybe yall are meant to be friends forever. It's really confusing yes but I don't think it's falling in love with her. You just love her because she's ur best friend and u care about her alot and you don't want nothing to happen to her. Maybe yall been through so much and yall are really close. Just think hard on it and see if ur in love...or if u just love her as a best friend ya know. It's kinda complicated...