Do u think spanking a child can turn into child abuse?

Question

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Answer 1

it could, but if a person is prone to abusing a child, then they will do it no matter what in some way or another.

spanking can also be a highly effective form of punishment for younger children. however, a parent must always practice SELF-CONTROL & not act out of anger.

Answer 2

In general a parent knows in his/her heart when they are abusing a child. If a parent thinks spanking is abuse or "hitting" they are the most likely to abuse a child when spanking. They can't distinguish the difference between the two.

What usually happens is that these parents run out of solutions and realize they do not have the respect of their child after the child is older, let's say between 6 and 8. They then question their methods and make an attempt at spanking. In their mind it is hitting and abuse and has nothing to do with discipline. IOW, they are doing it just to make themselves feel good. The child senses this and also feel they are being abused. Hopefully it will end up with the parent guilty and ashamed where they will not continue on with the abuse. However some will continue, and I think in most cases, never understand the difference between spanking and hitting.

The ones society most frown on however are those dysfunctional families where a slap on the bottom and a slap to the face are the same thing. They want something to stop immediately so they swing out in the direction of the child with whatever is easy or handy to hurt the child. Their idea is to hurt (same as those that identify spanking with hitting) the child since it will stop what they do not like. And it does, but it just makes the child feel abused and teaches that violence solves things they do not like.

The more traditional the spanking the better it is for the child and parent. Many claim that sending a child off to a room and wait allows the parent to "calm down" so they won't abuse the child. I think that helps just a little for the parent but what really helps is for the child to reflect on what they have done, what they could have done differently to avoid the spanking, and why they are going to be spanked.

On the other hand, while it does give the parent some time to calm down what it really does is allow the parent to put it all in perspective. Scolding is a big part of a spanking and when the parent has time to think what they want to convey to the child, they can put it in much better terms that the child can understand.

I can tell you from experience that a number of times I planned on delivering a mild spanking until I had time to think about what my child had done and decided a more sever spanking was called for. So in that case, if it was a quick spanking without much thought she would have received less. This also is where consistency is most important, regardless they type of discipline you use. To deliver a serious spanking for not doing as told and a mild spanking for stealing sends the wrong message and is as inconsistent as doing the same with timeouts or grounding.

I don't believe spanking harder is a more severe spanking but spanking "longer" is the key. I also think a traditional spanking is over the knee with the hand only and shouldn't be stopped until the child is clearly sobbing and not faking it. It is something to be remembered. I remember most of mine and if you can't remember yours, you probably didn't have a traditional spanking.

Spanking can be abused just like talking can be verbal abuse. It has to do with the parent and if they are abusive. There are many guns used safely every year and there are guns used for criminal purposes. It isn't the gun but the person behind the gun that matters.

Using a gun doesn't lead one to be a criminal as spanking doesn't lead one to be abusive.

Answer 3

Well, yes. Depending of course on the frequency of the spanking and the severity.
A light slap to draw the child's attention away from what it is that they are doing wrong is OK. However, spanking a child too often, or severely, leaves the child wondering what that was for and when will it happen again.
Often parents spank a child to release their own frustrations. The child on the receiving end had no idea why they were spanked. Yes, that is abuse.

Answer 4

First of all, there is a huge difference between abuse and spanking.
I was a very rebellious/belligerent child from the get-go. Suspension or putting me in a "time out" didn't work; I would just defy them and walk right back out. Because of this, everyone spanked me... my grandfather said that he spanked me more than all his children and grandchildren put together. I believe if they had not spanked me, I would have ended up in prison or worse. As it is, I have had zero infractions of the law in my life (not even a speeding ticket). But, they also gave me lots and lots of positive reinforcement (that is just as important). I love them with all my heart and I'm so glad they wailed on my bottom... I really needed it.
Those people who give those rubbishy arguments against spanking don't have a clue. I have a super high self-esteem and spanking didn't teach me to hit... I got spanked for hitting people. Look at how the children are ending up these days. Just how many school shootings, violence, rebellion, etc. have we had from children who were not spanked? As people quit spanking more and more, these things will continually go up more and more. Just look at the statistics from back in the days when people spanked.
And by the way, “Spare the rod and spoil the child” is a line by the
17th century English poet Samuel Butler, not the Bible. The Bible says, "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him" (Proverbs 13:24). But I definitely believe that both statements are true.

Answer 5

Yes spanking a child can turn into abuse but only if you let it. First if the person that is doing the spanking is very mad then they SHOULDN"T spank the child until they calm down. Explain to the child your to mad to spank at this time. (make sure the child understands what your telling them.

Say you were to grab a belt and start spanking a child and the child ran around in circle then your not spanking the child your hitting the child.

To spank a child...take said child bend child over your knee...spank child with open hand.....

Hope this helps

Answer 6

A spanking on the butt could properly be acceptalbe and not abuse IF it does no longer harm nor injure and no count if it particularly is deserved and effective AND if the be sure utilising it particularly is thoroughly sober and has heavily defined to the baby the WHY of a spanking. Any "spanking" or "corporal punishment" may be cosnideredd "ABUSE" in many jurisdictions. And a "thorough beating from head to toe" could be consideed via many or maximum if no longer all good mum and dad to be ABUSE ... excess of the right, with a view to speak ... and that does no longer incorporate "and returned returned". in case you're for genuine, GET help.

Answer 7

Sometimes spanking turns into child abuse because the care giver may mix discipline with anger. When this happens physical abuse can be intentional or even accidental.

Answer 8

I do think that spanking a child can turn inot child abuse. I personally dont like spanking my children It makes me feel bad there are other methods of disciplining children besides spanking them to where they are black and blue.

Answer 9

Depends on the parents. There is a tremendous difference between giving a kid a swat on the bottom and beating the c**p out of him. There are times when you simply can not reason with a child, although in theory it would be nice if you could. But if you habitually spank your kids, for minor offenses, yes, that can easily turn into abuse.

Answer 10

No, spanking a child cannot turn into child abuse... just know the limits