How can I be more social and likable without always having to be drunk?

Answer 1

When you are drunk, you cross the border of what you think is ethical, moral or conventional. Being drunk doesn't mean you'll get naked in the middle of the street, but that you'll get to show a bit more of your personality, without really caring what others think.

It might be, that you're a very self-aware and self-conscious person, meaning that you tend to concentrate intensively on what you do or say, so that others don't get a bad opinion on yourself.

When you keep observing your actions and gestures, and become aware of this behavior, let it go. Other people aren't better than yourself, and if you start accepting and appreciating yourself, others will sense your healthy self esteem and appreciate you even more. Don't be afraid of making mistakes, we all make them. Try to think about life like a big bowl of soup, even if you avoid the stuff you don't like, they'll come on the surface, and at the end you'll have to eat all the stuff you don't like at once!

You're a good person, you're young and sociable, you have other qualities we don't even know about, that makes you a lovable person! But remember to accept and appreciate yourself before expecting others' appreciation.

Answer 2

Who the heck told you that you aren't likeable? I wanna know. And if someone did tell you such a hateful thing, why do you believe it? Do this, everyday when you wake up look in the mirror and pick out something about you and appreciate it. Im not being nasty or anything, but it worked for me. I used to think I had the most boring dark brown hair, but then found out that it was fire red under the sun (which came from my Irish roots) I thought I had boring dark brown eyes and realized that they really weren dark brown, they were a lighter shade of brown, like a tootsie pop and I eventually looked in the mirror and said. "Wow, I am beautiful". Dont get nervous when it comes to socializing, who appointed you the master of ceremonies? Be relaxed, if you say something goofy or stutter, follow up with a joke or just correct yourself and keep it moving and most importantly, draw other people out. Ask them about themselves and add in what might be similar with you, that's how you become likeable. Show interest in others and you take the pressure to seem interesting TO others, OFF of you.

Answer 3

Make an effort to remember peoples names!

With the very best people, remember a little more!

Especially the ones, you meet that you will be talking to most often and don't require that the meeting end in drunkenness!

People will be flattered if you remember there names and when you enter a room attempt to make eye contact with everyone!

All ways tell the truth, generally, it's the easiest way to show you care or do not care for some one!

It is difficult to socialize with your friends and not drink or whatever your friends are in to, but if you can't be with your friends without getting drunk or without them treating you differently if you don't want to, it's time to find some different friends!

Good luck!

Answer 4

Why do you need other people to praise you?

Being social and likable that important to you? Because if you need a drug to get this way, sounds as if you have bigger issues then alcohol.

Not being so social is not a bad thing.....This is who you are. Need to work on liking yourself better. :0)

Answer 5

Believe me, you might think you're more likable, but most people are laughing AT you, not WITH you. Pace your drinking, have a glass of water between drinks. You might be surprised at how well you'll cope with the social side of things.

Answer 6

Join a social group, ie, a book reading club, Toastmasters, etc. Volunteer your time. Gather life and learning that way then you'll become a great conversationalist.

Answer 7

whenever you are interracting with others, show interest in them rather than yourself. people tend to like those who show an interest in them. shouldn't be too hard to do and you will get results and spend the money you save by not buying alcohol on good clothing so you'll look better as well.

Answer 8

Yes, just act the same way you do when you are drunk and people will stop noticing the difference!

Answer 9

when people are drunk they tend to be jerks and stupid. without realizing it. if you want to be sociable and likeable grow comfortable around the people who you're hanging out with, and once your comfortable you'll be able to act however you want. if you want people to like you try not to be judgemental if you are, and try to be open to talking to people.

Answer 10

maybe ur just not a fun, social, likeable person. get used to it! dont become a drunk and die! just be a recluse the rest of ur life