Has anyone had a baby with a gay man? I was asked to have my best friends baby. (who is gay by the way) He is in a relationship with a man but we live together. He said he always wanted to be a father and he believes that we are a good match. I just need to get some advice on what I am getting myself into. He wants me to be totally involved in the baby's life, and wants me to be the main parent. Im just confused. What should I do?
2006-11-07 10:17:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think the best solution is to have him decide which relationship he is going to continue. If he is still confusing about the relationship between you and his boyfriend, then it is not a good idea to have baby at this time. However, it is time for two of you to talk honestly (remember you need to express your real feeling about his relationship with another guy). I knew that there will be some argument, however, both of you can't ignore the facts because it is going to come to hit both of you someday. If two of you can't really figure out the some solutions, find someone you can trust and ask them for opinions. I have been married with my wife for almost 3 years. We are always in a serious relationship. I love her more than everything although I have some confusion about sexuality (probably due to some childhood trauma). In conclusion, communicating each other openly is very important. Sharing you thoughts with him and people whom you can trust. In additional, he wants you to get totally involved with baby. That probably means he wants to have baby, but still want to be in relationship with another guy (gay couple can't have baby pyhsically). It is dangerous thinking of him. Please re-consider about the baby before it happen. Best wish.
2006-11-09 23:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Nate L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds really complicated to me. One of my big question was how are you going to become pregnant. Will you get artifically inseminated or will you two just duke it out in the bedroom? I would talk to his partner, see how he feels about this. I would talk to his partner and try to get a gauge on how serious they are. You could have the baby and then if they break up your friend may say this is too much for me and give the baby to you. What exactly does he mean by you being the main parent? Are you going to take care of the baby change its diapers etc? Or are you just going to be the "aunt" who is very involved in the baby's life. If he wants you to be the main parents aka he wants you to do half of the baby stuff, then that is something huge to consider. It would probably be hard to say to a date, hey i have a kid with a gay man. You also have to ask yourself if you are a good enough friend to put your body through 9 months of tumoil.
All these questions are things to consider. This is a big decision, that will inevitably affect your life. Hope I've helped.
2006-11-07 10:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by magooi1234 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUT IMMEDIATELY! This is real easy for him to say..YOU be the parent while he plays around! What are you going to do with that child when you find someone of your own? This guy may come across as hearts and roses, but trust me, you will never have a satisfying relationship with him...this is NOT Will and Grace..that crap doesn't exist. About the time you have a baby, he will meet the "love of his life" and off he will go, into the wild blue yonder. This is coming from a Gay father who raised two sons! Think again, dear, and don't even go there. You are NOT prepared for being a single parent..that is one hard job, trust me on that one. Good luck
2006-11-07 10:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friend is that? He's in "love" with another guy, but wants to have a baby with you! Come on, he obviously has no ties to the importance of reproduction. Asking you just like that to be his source to get a baby? Ridiculous. He could just adopt one. And how can he ask you to be the main parent for him anyway, especially when it's HIM not YOU that's asking for it. To me, it looks like he's just a sick man who cares about how much he can get from lust and pride more than he does about you. Is this honest? I mean, I can't believe anyone could be that insensitive, or that you would be even think about doing that.
2006-11-07 10:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by questionner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
particular, a gay guy can use man made inemination procedures (or perhaps the actual factor) to make a girl pregnant. yet once you're asking notwithstanding if a gay guy can supply start to a infant: Sorry no, we only have not got the required procedures. the only way we are able to have a infant (of which we are a organic and organic discern) is by a girl.
2016-10-21 10:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by kreitzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be a parent?
It doesn't matter what we think it matters what you think.
2006-11-07 10:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk away and don't look back
2006-11-07 10:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Cynic 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
what do you really want?
2006-11-07 10:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Ice Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋