if u have a gay family member or you are gay....?

Question

if ur a gay parent nd your child didn't know since birth, how did they react when you told them....or if ur a child with a gay parent how did u react when ur parent told you....or if some one in ur family is gay how did u react...or if ur gay how did ur family react...?

and i'm not gay...i am asking this because so many ppl in my family FLIPPED when my dad came out and i was wondering if everybodys family is like that or are mine just...welp..stupid

Answer 1

im not gay... but if i was (which im not) then i would tell my kids as soon as they knew what the word meant.

Answer 2

Let's see. My parents divorced when I was five and my mother took custody of the kids. My eldest brother didn't tell my mother he was gay, she found out through a cousin he had been having sex with. My brother was 16 at the time. My mother responded by beating him, throwing objects at him and picking him up and tossing him several times across the living room, into walls and furniture. He finally got away from her, all bloody, bruised and cut, and contacted my grandmother. Together they contacted my dad and he went to live with him. Despite want people say about religious people and their views on gays, my father (who was very religious) never treated my brother badly, in word or deed, nor ever said anything bad to anyone about him being homosexual. My father was the least judgmental and kindest man I've ever known. Myself, I didn't know at the time what "gay" meant. When I found I it really didn't matter to me one way or the other. I just figured it was part of what my brother was and my brother was an okay person, so how could it be bad or wrong?

When my youngest brother told my mother he was gay, she yelled and screamed at him but it wasn't anything close to how badly she treated my eldest brother. Of course, she was ten years older when he did so she had time to mellow out some, if you can call it that.

Answer 3

Dear Jazzi

Yes, I do know about this situation as I have been there myself.
I am 60 yrs old and came out to my family about 2 years ago.
Looking back on it I did it all in a rush and it certainly upset my children and my wife a lot.
The trouble is I had this immense need to do it at the time.
My wife and I are reconciled now, we love each other and I guess the love is stronger than anything else.
The children (all over 20) acted with understanding at first, but for a time only one of them would speak to me.
That has changed but one of the children still harbours resentment.
I can't say I blame her.
Even in our modern progressive understanding culture children want their parents to be normal and safe.
They don't want to have problem parents.
It's difficult to accept that your parents are as frail, weak and as human as you yourself are.
Most children only learn this when they are nursing their parents through their final illnesses.
As children we all need to go through this process of growing up. If only to prepare for death ourselves.
It's painful and you have to deal with it. Accept it and your life changes reject it and you don't have a family anymore.
And in the end it's only your close relations that really give a s..t about you.
Fortunately in my family we are not strongly religious so that there were no interfering pastors or priests working to their own agenda and trying to bust us up.
So try and work through this crisis and above all try to stay calm and collected and remember that all the people concerned are very close and dear to you.

Best wishes

Augusta

Answer 4

My family took it pretty well even though they didn't suspect it at all. I think it depends on how your family was raised, where they were raised, etc. If your family is open minded then it's probably not a big deal. However, if not, then it may be a tough situation for a while until everyone adjusts.

Answer 5

When my brother told me, I simply explained that
I knew all along. I love people for who they are regardless of their sexual orientation. I have gay, lesbian and straight friends. I also am accepting of transsexuals. No problem here. Not is it a problem in the rest of my family. Everybody simply accepts the next person for who they are. Hope you are having a great day.

Answer 6

because of the fact those all human beings is liars saying they love while they're searching for any excuse to hate. in case you're human and make errors, they'll throw you in rubbish mutually as ignoring their own faults! There at the instant are not genuine followers, no longer ONE. yet there are a number of liars waiting to harm you and rejoice that they could make you harm.

Answer 7

When I came out to my parents, my Mom and her family were not surprised. My Dad, on the other hand, never suspected that I was a lesbian; he now refuses to talk about it.

Answer 8

my oldest brother came out to me a few years ago and i accepted it completely ignorance and fear are the main reasons people wouldn't accept homosexuality and it has a lot to do with how people are raised so consider who you're talking to before you say anything or if you dont have children yet raise them to be accepting of every1 and inform them as soon as they're old enough to string together sentances

Answer 9

My uncle is gay. When I found out as a kid, it only confirmed my suspicions. It wasn't some mind-blowing discovery, I suspected he was for a long time.

Answer 10

My eldest child knows and she did not react well but she is getting OK with it she has not changed the way she feels about me or about homosexuals. She still thinks it is a sin but she still loves me. It is a difficult situation.

Answer 11

I raised two sons....At ages 14 and 10, they started coming home with "*****", "queer," etc. I let them have it! I told them I was gay, queer, *****! The look of shock on their faces was priceless. Then I told them that....don't they dare judge me on any count..that when they were old enough, I was NOT going to tell them who to sleep with, and they were NOT going to tell me who to sleep with. That ended the discussion, the shock disappeared quickly, and we got on with our lives within about 10 minutes. To this day, they are both VERY broad minded, do not judge others, and ..... thinking back, I think the way I told them was as good as any. And, you can bet that I didn't hear "*****," "Queer," "homo," or anything else like that again.