we have 2 children together, I have just found out that he has signed up to a gay website, he is abviously looking for a man. Please let me know your thoughts on what I should do.
2006-11-07 09:54:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you even still there. You may stick around and die of AIDS next your children need a momma . This hubby will next start going to the gay side of town looking for "fun". Run for your life girlfriend!! Don't look back!!
2006-11-07 10:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's okay to hear what others have to say but ultimately the decision is yours to make. There could be various reasons as to why your spouse has signed up to a gay website- I say don't jump to conclusions.
You will definitely need to have a talk with him but before you do, have the children go to your parents or friends. Don't let them be present- there will be a time and place for them to hear what is needed. If you can't do the conversation bit alone, then seek out couples counseling. Find out the root of the problem or the reason for the behaviors.
Good luck to you. I wish you well and hope you get the answers you deserve and need.
2006-11-07 18:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of gay men are married, I think you should see if there is a group or something of other women married to gay men and discuss it with them. You better be careful you dont catch a disease if he is going to be catting around. Maybe you can hook him up with a bi guy so you can share and that might bring you closer together but this is really difficult - too bad he does not realize how badly his children need a family and a man that loves their mother - that is more important than anything he might want for himself. Maybe you can find another couple in the same situation as yourself and keep it between yourselves and it could be good.
2006-11-07 18:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by glen_loves_fun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is certainly not an easy task. However addressing the issue with your husband would be the first step. If he is truly looking for another man I would try to find a marriage councilor. If your husband doesn't want to go to counseling I would still go only to work through the next steps with an out side source.
2006-11-07 18:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by wilderness walker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitly confront him about the website. Not only is it wrong for him to be on the webstie if he is married, but if he is gay or even curious, then he could perhaps spread a disease to you too. There are so many men that are on the down low when it comes to being gay. Confront him immediately.
2006-11-07 18:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should ask him why did he sign up for a gay website. Ask him if he is interested in men. If he is then, I should suggest getting a divorce because it is hard enough trying to keep a straight man faithful let alone a gay one.
2006-11-07 19:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by VON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety,its time to move on!Come on,your husband likes -ocks why do you think he is so unhappy in the marrige!Do you really want him staying there just for the kids?Thats why he,s still there,I,m not trying to be mean just honest!And sweety,You deserve better,aman that will love just you!its time to do the right thing for you and your children!Leave him and give him he,s perverted life he wishes,you,ll be happier in the end,I PROMISE you!Hollywood
2006-11-07 17:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that would explain why things have been so unhappy. You should confront him immediately. It would not be good for you, your kids, nor your husband, if you stay married to a gay man.
2006-11-07 17:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not totally happy either. Time for couples counselling or maybe even divorce. You should try to work it out with him first.
2006-11-07 17:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and tell him to pick me or the web site. i Have been married for 21 years and to me it just gets better as time goes on. stand up for your self be strong and then keep going
2006-11-07 18:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by bowdean09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋