Alright im what 16 lol berely figured i was bi...I have a gilfriend whos a lesbian...and my friends tell me im not sure of what i am since im stil a virgin in both ways...I seriously think im bi but since they keep telling me i wont know until i have sex with a guy im doubting it..what am i?
2006-11-07 09:14:23 · 24 answers · asked by babygigglez_09 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What you are - you are you - a unique individual - with feelings different from anyone else and experiences only you have had.
You need to do some thinking/soulsearching - You don't need to have sex with a guy to work out if you are bi/lesbian! Do 'straight' people have gay affairs to realise they are straight? No!
Firstly - Are you attracted to men? Have you thought, imagined longed to be held by a man, for him to make love to you? How do feel about penises? Testicles, firm muscles and chest hair? Think about these and note your reactions inside, what you truly feel.
Repulsed, intriguged, wanting etc. You say you have a girlfriend - but don't rush to label yourself - I've seen people announce they are lesbians then later regret it a few years/months down the line because they are attracted to both sexes.
I'm a lesbian I've never slept with a guy because a)it repulsed me the whole penis thing and b) I've never, ever been attracted to a man. I always preferred womens company, friendship and I was attracted to women before I knew what lesbian or gay even meant.
Is it your friends that have more issues with this? I know we are in the 21st century but sadly some friends can never accept slight degrees of difference, you need to be one thing or the other - you don't - you have to be what you want to be.
I advise doing an internet search on the Lesbian and Gay Switchboard finding the one local to you (they are everywhere Brighton, Lancaster, Birmingham, London, Isle of Mann etc) - emailing or telephoning them - perhaps getting some support from qualified staff and support group information. You stay strong and don't rush into anything - the most important question - What do you want? Who do you want to be?
2006-11-07 11:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If guys turn you on then you are bi. If not then you are a lesbian. You can be a virgin and be bi, the idea that you need to have sex to have a sexuality is rediculous, your sex drive is gonna work about the same way whether you are a virgin or not..
2006-11-07 13:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decidedly undecided and too inexperienced to know more. Why not just let it go and let whatever you are become what you are when it happens? If you are straight, bi, or lesbian, you will have lots of company and will be able to make your way in the world. There are many more important things to worry about---like what you will do for a living and what you will do in school. Your sexual orientation is what it is, and you can't change it.
2006-11-07 09:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by answerblaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u realy should wait to haver sex ( proud of u for being a virgin at 16 ) some ppl know if they r bi or gay when the attraction is too much. Maybe its just a phase ur going through. By all means dont have sex just to answer ur ???'s maybe kissing but no sex
if all gets too hot remember to wear protection!!
2006-11-07 09:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by serestmar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not sexuality is not always permanent! In spite of what people say....blah blah was born gay.....or blah blah this, sexuality is Not always permanent! I should know because I've met a lot of people who went from being gay their entire lives to completely heterosexual! Not by force, but for some reason they woke up one day and found themselves extremely attracted to the opposite sex, even though they never were in their entire lives. Weird huh?
Who knows why the mind chooses what it wants or tells you what to do.
You are still young, you won't truly know until you've had more experience in the world.
By the way I'm heterosexual but my culture is extremely gay and transferred friendly, I grew up seeing these type of people, so I know.
2006-11-07 09:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by ddDan86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its whatever you feel. Different people go through the process of this situation. If you often think of girls and you are physically attracted to both sex, then you are bi. Buts its mainly how YOU feel. Just ask yourself, "Who am I?" The first response will most likely be who you are. It doesnt matter on sexual experience.
2006-11-07 09:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by SmashJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need to have sex in order to tell which gender u like better.
obviously if u say u r bi then u r bi... even if u think u r bi u R bi
2006-11-07 09:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even lesbian also can had sex with a guy. Just that they like the same sex more then the others.
2006-11-08 00:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by Clive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an in between-er. You could go either way, so why worry. My wife is bisexual and I find her very erotic and sexy. So if you find a guy who loves you for who you are, then you will have the best of both worlds.
Good luck to you sweetie.
2006-11-07 09:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to ask yourself do you have a attraction to men and women or just women. if your answer is women only then your a lesbian if both then your bi. dont listen to your friends sometimes there out to get you
2006-11-07 09:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sub_Zero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋