Why do Middle Eastern, college aged men, come to the US for college and then proceed to date every American?

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women that they can? Then they return to their country when their college is completed, and marry someone from their country? I've seen this happen to many of my girlfriends. They date these men who say that they love them (one of these relationships lasted 4 years), then as soon as they return to their country, they become devout Muslims and marry another Muslim. Why do they not respect their religion when they are in the US? Do they just follow their religion due to pressure from their families? I know that not all Arab men are this way, but I have seen this time and time again in my city. I am just wondering what Arab men make of this? Are the men just toying with the women? If so, then why let the relationship last long term?

Answer 1

I am from Egypt, and i really find it offensive to gather all the nations living in an area in the middle of the world to call it "middle eastern".
There are different cultures and nationalities and beliefs in this area, so i would prefer that you be precise.
Anyway, that is not the point. i understood what you are saying and i acknowledge that this happens a lot, but, i do disagree that this has anything to do with the religion of those men.
My Dad is a Muslim who married my Mom who is from the former Soviet Union (she didn't know much of religion back then)
and i know lots of my friends who marry foreigners, and living happily.
I tell you what i think, i think that those guys you are reffering to are ordinary assholes (who are present in every culture and religion) who dumped their girlfriends and lied to them for whatever reasons they have.

Answer 2

I enjoyed reading your replies from 'Yasmin' and also 'Kalooka'
Both very polite and to the point.
I have no religious axe to grind, because I'm atheist, but you cant just put this down to Muslims.
I worked in Egypt for a long time and they are very tolerant of tourists, in fact its one of the friendliest places I have ever been to, the people are great.
I have also worked in places like Saudi, I have actually seen 'religious police' with cans of black spray paint painting women's legs if they considered the dress too short. This applies to all women from USA or Brits or who ever. But not their own women because they don't 'flaunt' themselves in that manner. Also this is not a lot to do with religion, more to do with modesty.
So we have the Egyptians seeing how Western women perform and the Saudis seeing the same thing, if I say 'immodestly' I am trying to be very polite.
So who can blame them for taking advantage when they come to USA or Britain?
Why do you think so many Americans and Europeans visit Thailand? It's not to see the temples thats for sure.
I wish that Western women could see how they appear to Middle Eastern folk,( both to their men and their women)
A lot of folk on this forum have complained about the Arab veil being worn and say they should dress as we do, and act as we do!
These arab guys are trying to do just that, and your still complaining?????
When in Rome etc etc.

Answer 3

Where ever they are from, women are usually repressed and any contact between men and women in dating situations can range from socially unacceptable to illegal. They come here where we have freedom and they go nuts! They are sowing wild oats like there is no tomorrow and for them, when they go home, there will be no tomorrow. Arranged marriage, subservient wife, to more halter tops and free women.

Answer 4

why do people always relate everything to Islam when they are talking about arabs and Musilms?
they are humans too, they can do right and wrong stuff, and not all arabs are extremely religious.
so sharon why dont u look at it from the other side?maybe its because many american girls are simply EASY, so the arab guys have fun with them during the time they are in US.
the question is why dont those guys do that in their countries? its because girls in their countries dont allow them to, but many american girls put themselves in that position.
its bad i know, but its not always the guy's fault.
when an arab guy thinks about getting married, he goes for decent arab girls for many reasons, like he knows he can trust her, she wont go sleep with other men and cheat on him, she isnt easy, she saves herself to her husband and becomes devoted to him for eternity.
i'm not saying that all arab girls are decent or religious, we have bad and good girls.
and u should also take a look at the american girls who come to live or stay for a while in Egypt, many of them fool around sleeping with many men (which makes any arab guy loses his respect for the girl)
i dont mean to be mean but this is whats happening
and i'm not stereotyping as i mention only the word "many" not "all".

Answer 5

I hate guys like that...