Why is the divorce rate higher today?

Question

Why is so much higher than the old days?or our grandparents days?

Answer 1

It's because people don't take personal responsibility for improving themselves and making themselves better partners; they only think that they can find true happiness by finding the "right" person. People these days are taught that happiness comes from external sources rather than from making oneself into a good person. If you make a good person out of yourself, and you marry someone who also strives to make herself a good person, your marriage will succeed.

Answer 2

i think there are two basic reasons. one is the equal rights of women and the other is the fact that women do so well in a divorce (financially).
when WWII broke out and so many men went to war the women were hired to do factory work. when some of the men did not come back some of the women kept the jobs and replaced men.
due to the equal rights amendments in modern times women started making enough money to care for themselves and their children with the court ordered child support. suddenly men became less of a necessity. in our grandparents days a woman that divorced her husband faced scandal, embarrassment and hardship. usually they just ran away with a new lover if they found one.
before the turn of the 20th century most people lived on farms and only a small percentage worked for an employer. running a family business such as a farm required every member of the family to due their share. women were expected to produce farm hands, children, keep the house up and help with the farm. as people moved to the cities fewer people were needed to maintain the household. the tightness of the family eroded and husbands and wives became estranged. when the honeymoon was over the marriage faced a rocky road. suddenly lawyers made it profitable to divorce. women wanted what men had. a home with all the comforts, custody of the kids, an income and the ability to have multiple partners.

Answer 3

If you have done much reading of the questions on Yahoo Answers, I would think you have your answer. So many questions about what girls want and what boys want and what do I do now that I have cheated for the 5th time, ext. ext.

This should be a microcosm of all relationships but I fear it is much more than that.Young people do not have problems today with giving up relationships like they use to.

There never was a time when marriage was easy. However there is a big difference between then and now as to what to do about it.

When you stand up and you promise your love and fidelity to your partner for the rest of your lives it was more than just words in what you call the old days. I am not sure it is even heard anymore.

Divorce is so incredibly easy now. Especially if there is no contesting. So it has become as easy to get out as it was to get in. It did not use to be that way.

Answer 4

Because society has made it look good to go out and have sex with everything that walks. Also, they make it look like we should follow the example of hollywood. There are not values or morals being taught anymore. It's left up to the parents. Society tells you that if you are bored with your sex life, go find another partner. Also, they don't tell you that marriage isn't all about the lovey doveyness of the dating part. It takes two people to make it work. There will be an even higher divorce rate 5 years from now and it's just going to keep getting worse. GOD will come down here and make things right again.

Answer 5

Well I think it's because people jump into the river of love a little too soon, and often confuse it with lust, but by the time this has already happened they have commited to one another, therefore the divorce comes in. Infedelity rates are higher as well, which causes some huge problems in marriages, resulting in divorce. Its really a sad thing.

Answer 6

Because the economics of things have changed. A woman with a job has options that a housewife doesn't have in terms of walking away from a bad marriage. Since two out of three divorce actions are started by wives, I think that's what it's mostly about. It's easy to say that people are less committed, but in fact I think it's that women are no longer trapped in bad marriages. It's a shame so many people are unhappy, but I don't think it's fair to just say everyone is selfish. It isn't selfish to want to be treated with love and respect. Not enough people get that from their spouses.

Answer 7

There are no morals nowadays. Divorce and separating is so easy, that no one really falls in love and means it to be a for-life commitment. Somewhere in the back of our minds we know that if this doesn't work out you can always move on. Our grandparents were committed to family and each other, no matter what.

Answer 8

Because in the "old" days people came together slowly. They got to know each other, respect each other, and created a history of experience before anything intimate.

Now people jump in the sack after a date or 3 and never really get to know each other on a respected playing field. They jump into marriage and the foundation of their relationship is sex - that isn't ideal.

First know, respect, and like the person. Really learn what they are like out in the world, how they think, what they feel about things. Fall in love based on this history - then intimacy.

Answer 9

We are the "me" generation! Take a close look at people. Sit on a park bench and just watch. People are self serving. Their needs need to be met before others can even be considered, and then it is still the process of "if I do this for you, what do I get?" If you are completely HONEST with yourself, you will see this in the vast majority of people(yourself included). This is a very tough thing for anyone to judge themselves so harshly, but WE need to do this so that maybe we can help the next generation. I am not proud of myself, and I have definitely made a conscious decision to make better and less selfish decisions.

Answer 10

One of the major reasons is that women are no longer bound to men financially in marriage. Women older than about 65 will tell you that they had to stay married because they had no job skills and could not support themselves or any children. Even if they had a job skill, they were paid much less than men for the same work.

The others are of course culture changes and the "me, me, me" attitudes. There is the breakdown of shame and scandal regarding homosexuality and adultery. People feel entitled to be happy and marriages are more disposable. There is even a movement that suggests that people wed once for children (starter marriage) and then again later for love and companionship into old age.