I just found out that I am a month pregnant. I was not wanting to go through another pregnancy. I was ready to stop after my 2nd one. Even though I wasn't ready for another, I am still excited about this pregnancy. How do I enjoy it if everytime I look at my husband he looks like as if he doesn't even care?
2006-11-07 08:01:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My husband and I have 3 boys and then I got pregnant with our 4th. For the first 3 or 4 months, he acted like he didnt care. I would even ask him why he was not excited, because I am. He wasnt able to go to any appointments with me or anything because of work, but he finally got to go with my this last week. Im now 20 weeks and we found out we are having our first girl. He finally got excited about it. I think because he got to hear the heartbeat, and went to the ultrasound. Its probably not too exciting for him right now because he doesnt even really realize you are pregnant because your not showing yet or anything. Once he gets to those appointments, etc..Im sure he will be more excited. Dont worry about it.
2006-11-07 08:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Blondi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!, I know exactly how you feel with this one, my fiance was the same throughout my pregnancy, when I would talk about it, he acted like he didn't want to know, and he never really brought up the topic by himself, I even cryed because I thought he was depressed about it all!! Then I worked out he's just got allot to think about and need to get his head around it....
I am now 39 weeks and he has been very excited for a while now, I think he's more anxious to get it out that me!!
So I think your hubby will be the same.
Talk to him and tell him how you feel, even though your response will be "I am excited darling!". And make sure you tell him each week how the baby is developing, he will appreciate it even though it may not show, as he is probably just scared and worried about all the new responsibility it means for him!
Wait until he adapts to this huge change, and sorts out everything in his male mind :o) And then he will have time to be happy, in the mean time, it sux, but keep him informed and reassured, and don't worry too much yourself, he'll be happy before you know it!
2006-11-07 08:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by 0bnsgrl0 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband might be feeling a little overwhelmed right now. He is probably worrying about how he is going to support this child, he wants to be a good father and the reason he is not acting excited is because he is thinking constantly in his head about financial issues. Trust me, its a guys natural instinct to support and take care of a family "to bring home the bread". You might try doing something as a family. Maybe get a babysitter for the two children and spend some time just you (your unborn child) and your husband. Take some time to bond through this experience. And have open communication.....best of luck and congratulations on your pregnancy!
2006-11-07 08:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be several factors at play.
As a man (a married father, I might add), I don't want to make any excuses, but here are a few things to consider:
1. he's a guy...men just don't get as excited as women do over these kind of things.
2. maybe he feels left out. I did, until my wife helped me feel that I was more than just the sperm-donor.
3. hopefully, this was a joint-agreement to have a child...this is where you have to make sure he is a part of the WHOLE process...for example, men like to "fix" things so give him a list of stuff needed to do around the house before the birth.
Make sure any celebrations shed some joy and attention on him.
Give him credit where credit is due (even if you have to exaggerate a bit - men have BIG egos!).
2006-11-07 08:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by docscholl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do know a little bit of how you feel. My husband and I are having our 3rd child and he doesn't feel like he really cares either. I think that it's just some men don't like to show any emotion and maybe he think that he has 2 kids already, so what is the big deal about this one. But I'm sure as soon as he sees the new baby his heart will soften and he will be very involved. For right now get that attention you need from the women in your life, and besides who knows women better than women. Good luck!!! And Congrats!!!!!!
2006-11-07 08:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by COURTNEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck, some women aren't exicited about pregnancies. Sometimes it's just hard to get excited about something that you can't really touch or see.... There' s a good chance he really didn't want another child, and is just thinking about the cost and all the other negatives. However, when the child's there it will be much more real to him. It's like men and decorating a house. Most men really don't care, but when the final result is there they show thier happiness with it by inviting all their friends over for the game. people just react differently to different things.
2006-11-07 08:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by smm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to accept the idea and when the baby gets here just try to keep him from being excited. He will accept it with the same excitement the first two had. He did accept the first two didn't he? If he didn't then you should have dropped him long ago. When there are children in a relationship then the parents become number 2 with the kids being more important than either one of you.
2006-11-07 08:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 08:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I feel the same way..Sometimes I try and talk about the baby but he changes the subject or sometimes he flat out says he doesnt want to talk about it..I have cried about this what seems like a million times, but I just rub my belly and try to imagine what the baby will look like and tell her that no matter what happens that mommy will always love her. I think it has to do with them being nervous or scared about having a child. Good luck though, and congrats.
2006-11-07 08:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by evil_munchgin420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh that is very hard. If he is not excited now what is he going to think when you actually have a screaming baby? Maybe it just hasn't had time to sink in yet. Perhaps when you start to show it will seem more real to him. If you can, try to make him part of the process when you have sonograms and all that stuff...
2006-11-07 08:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋