i am a 17 year old who works for my own money, and my mom is telling me what to do with my money. She wants half for my cell phone bill (respectable), money in the bank, and for me to buy clothes. Its my money and i dont need clothes, she just doesnt want me to blow it on my boyfriend im not and she doesnt trust me, should i tell her to mind her own business or should i do what she wants with my money?
2006-11-07 07:44:07 · 17 answers · asked by needs help 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
YES she can tell you what to do and YES you should listen. You live in her house, and she buys you everything. You should save up your money til you are old enough (or moved out) to know what to do with it. It's not like she's asking you to pay rent. Or buy her clothes.
If you show her you can be trusted then she will trust you. Think of it from her end... :)
2006-11-07 07:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by the_proms 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You probably shouldn't tell her to mind her own business. That's pretty disrespectful. It sounds like you are being responsible with your money. If you are paying for half of your cell phone bill and saving some then she shouldn't really tell you what to do with the rest of it. Just don't go asking her for money for new clothes when you've spent it all on the boyfriend. Ask yourself why are you spending money on him. He should be spending money on your or better yet, you should both be spending money on each other.
2006-11-07 07:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a long list of reasons why this is a bad idea... here are just a few of the top ones I have heard in the last two decades... 1) Friend looses job, sticks you will all the rent, and moves in boyfriend leaving you holding the bag and destroying your credit. 2) You find that you need more money so you take additional jobs to make ends meet and never finish school. 3) Your friend/ or you finds that some of their friends are stealing/staying over and adding household expenses you cannot afford to absorb. You loose your friendship and house. You can move out when your 18. Sure, it is your "right." You can also get ready to make a long series of stupid mistakes that cost you more than you ever dreamed. Or, you can suck it up, live with your mom and ride it out as long as you can. B.T.W. thanks for paying rent now. You don't have to by law, but I am sure your mom appreciates it.
2016-05-22 08:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay the cell phone bill. As for the rest you can do whatever you want with it.
Just understand that your mom just wants you to be responsible, have money to fall back on in the bank for when you are in college or if you need money to fall back on before then you never know what will happen. Car breaks down or who knows what.
2006-11-07 07:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely your money, you earned it, its your bank account, and she cannot tell you how to spend it. It is right that you take over some of the "extras" that she has been paying for however, like the cell phone or part of the cable if there's a T.V. in your room, or some of your clothes. The rest (if there is any) is totally yours to spend how you see fit.
2006-11-07 08:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go ahead and tell her NO, you earned it and you're keeping it. Let her know that you are going to pay your share of the food, PGE, cell phone, water bill, cable & internet, buy your own clothes, gas, car insurance, car payment, make-up. doctor and dentist bills, and if you have any left over you promise, promise to put it into savings. OR just do it her way.......its called responsibility and she is trying to teach it to you. Love her for it.....some parents steal their kids money for themselves......if she didn't love you, she wouldn't try so hard.
2006-11-07 08:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by koko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you work for the money; it's yours. I agree with the person that said you should show your mom that you can be responsible, that way she'll trust you and let you have more freedom. The cell phone thing is alright, but you shouldn't have to buy your own clothes! You aren't 18 yet, the money is yours to spend however you choose, as long as you aren't hurting yourself or others.
2006-11-07 07:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by NoLa 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She needs to mind her own business when i got a job during the summer my mom was telling me what to do with my first paycheck and i told her to mind her business after that she stopped. Tell her to get off your back its YOUR money.
2006-11-07 10:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unfortunately until you are 18, she can tell you what to do with it. Putting it in the bank is a good idea. You will be glad she's making you save it. Just put the money you were going to spend on clothes, and save it too. As for spending it on your boyfriend, how much can you be spending on him for her to say no? It must be more than you should other wise I couldn't see her getting upset. He might be using you, and you don't see it, so she is trying to help you. Besides, it's OK to spend a little money on your boyfriend, but it's a guys job to spend on us, so let your guy do the spending for a while.
2006-11-07 07:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You need to respect your mother because she is trying to instill values in you. IF you get in the habit of being responsible with your money then it is a little easier when you are old and on your own.
2006-11-07 08:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋