The past month, my schedule has been a mess, we have to be @ work between 10 AM and 3 PM, but as long as we get our 40 hours a week it doesn’t matter what time we come in. However, besides having many other problems I found out I was pregnant even though I was on birth control. I have an ectopic pregnancy which is putting me in danger so the doctor recommended having an induced miscarriage. I have been given a shot about a week and a half ago and some medication for this procedure. Things have not been going well, because nothing is happening. I am not in pain, but I constantly get cramps and have nausea; therefore, I have been coming in at work a little later than expected (between 8 and 9 AM). My supervisor’s attitude has completely changed since last week. I am a hard worker and I do recognize I am young, but I am learning and I have not missed one single day since this incident. I don’t know what to say to my supervisor, I can’t tell her about my situation. What should I do?
2006-11-07 07:22:27 · 10 answers · asked by Kiki 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Why cant you tell her whats going on. Get a doctors note or something. What is she supposed to think if she has no explantions. You are wrong not informing her. All she see's is your work proformance going down the tubes. maybe she would cut you some slack if she new ther ewas a medical issiue and you were going to lose the baby because its in your tube. This is a serious condition and if not treated soon you could lose your tube if it bursts and posiably risk your life and the lifes of any other children. I would talk to her right away and have some medical papers or your Dr. phone number to bacl you up.
2006-11-07 07:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by careermom18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - I am so sorry about your pregnancy and induced miscarriage. Whether you were prepared for a baby or not, it is still traumatic to your body and also your spirit. Take care of yourself...it's not selfish for you to do so right now.
Second - if you really are not comfortable explaining the situation to your supervisor, simly ask her if she has a few minutes to talk... Let her know you value your job, you are experiencing some pretty personal things right now and don't wish to discuss them because you are doing your best to keep your personal and professional lives separate. Tell her you realize you have been coming in a little later than what is normal for you, but still before the required and scheduled time of 10AM and reiterate the fact that you have not missed any days during this time. Be clear when letting her know you don't want this to affect your position. Then tell her you have felt some disapproval from her recently and ask her if you are understanding her reaction correctly. If so, then ask her to explain and reassure her you want to do whatever is necessary to correct the misconception that she is under...assuming your 'tardiness' is the reason. Ask her what she'd like to see from you and then be honest about whether you can meet her expectations. Also, maybe let her know you have always felt that she and you had a solid working relationship and that is why you feel comfortable coming to her and asking for her honest feedback.
If you are confident, honest and clear about the value you place on your job, this should work out well. Continuing to avoid the situation with her is only going to make it worse and you may never be able to regain the trust she had in you.
Best of luck - hope it all works out for you!
2006-11-07 07:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Grá 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you tell her about your situation? She is thinking you are just slacking and you have a real good reason why you are coming in late and I'm sure going through this isn't easy on you either.
Honesty is the best policy. If she is a supervisor and 40 yrs of age she should be mature enough and keep her employees personal life to herself.
I bet then she would understand and be more
tolerant of your situation.
If you are embarressed-her being a women I"M SURE that she can relate and understand your predicament. It really doesn't matter if she judges you thats not her place, but she can take your job away and thats probably what will happen if you dont converse with her on whats going on.
Even to take a medical leave is an option.
2006-11-07 07:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by ROOTER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your boss about your situation. Being up front with your boss will show her you are honest. You can also get up a couple of hours earlier than normal. If you have the nausia and cramping, this will give you the extra time you need to get it under control and still make it to work on time. Since things are not working well with the induced miscarriage, you might want to ask your doctor if you can have a D & C done. You can usually go back to work a couple of days after this is done. Then you will not have to continue experiencing the cramping and nausia. Good Luck.
2006-11-07 07:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't tell her the problem then I would say tell her something. Explain to her that you enjoy your work and that you will continue to give it your best but right now you are having some personal health issues that you need to take care of. Assure her that it will not effect your work with the exception of coming in a little later but that you will continue to do your 40 hours.
2006-11-07 07:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by Beam274 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can tell her that you're under a doctor's care just now and part of the new temporary regimen requires your later-than-usual arrival time. Assure her that its temporary, and that you know it might be causing a hardship, but it will change. Tell her you're aware and appreciate her patience. She should not question to much about the doctor or the reason.
Good luck.
2006-11-07 07:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only save on cutting him off if he comes to a decision to deviate from the factor that he called you approximately initially. each time he variations the subject count... DRAG him returned to the only which you have been the two on in the previous...it would take particularly some artwork initially yet i'm particular at last he gets the waft or he often is the only which hates conversing to you on account which you wont enable him communicate for 20 minutes LOL ... or you ought to easily lie and tell him you could desire to flow .
2016-10-21 10:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by goodknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't you tell her what's been going on with you? can you give her some details, but not all? if you did, maybe she would be more sympathetic to your situation. but if you don't want to tell her, ignore her. let her be mad. it's not like you're coming in to work late because you were out drinking with your friends the night before. you've got personal issues you're trying to deal with!
i hope you're okay though. that sounds like a lot to be dealing with.
2006-11-07 07:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sup is treating you like she shouldnt be. Talk to her, ask her if there is something going on that you've done.. If she says nothing, and then still continues to treat you like crap, go to her boss. If there isn't anyone above her.. Then you need to directly tell her she's being a witch. good luck on both job and pregnancy.
2006-11-07 07:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HER IF YOU CAN TALK WITH HER IN PRIVATE.ASK HER IF YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO UPSET HER.IT MIGHT BE SOMETHING IN HER LIFE THAT IS CAUSING HER TO ACT DIFFERENTLY.NANCY
2006-11-07 07:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋