How do you keep your relationships going? I am a military fiance and it's hard to deal with. My fiance and i have been together since 10th grade and i'm now a sophmore in college and now that he is going through basic and AIT it's becoming hard. I can't talk to him whenever i want to and i'm going through a hard time with my family and he is my best friend. It's kind of hard not to get upset but i'm dealing with it. How do you?
2006-11-07 07:16:24 · 3 answers · asked by NA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just want to encourage you that if you really love him and you want to be with him then it's worth fighting for. But also realize, that as long as he's in the military it's going to be like this alot...There are going to be times you can't speak to him, and you have to realize that he's frustrated as well that he can't talk to you. Are you ready for a relationship like this especially if the both of you get married? Depending on what branch of the service he's in you won't get to talk to him for months...this might be the first time you're going through this with him but as long as he's in the military it won't be the last.and it gets tougher than this....So you have to realize if this is what you want...My personal opinion i don't think the military is a good place for families. Why? well the spouse that's in the military is owned by uncle sam, whether he likes it or not. He does and goes where uncle sam tells him. Of course the military takes care of their troops & families financially, but is it worth signing over your life?
And the hurt and pain that is caused? The military is not the same as it was years ago, it has changed dramtically and will continue to.
But in the midst of what you're going through there's One who is waiting for you to turn and seek Him. You're worried about your boyfriend, but there is someone just as close to you and who is always there to listen to you and comfort you. But why do you overlook and not turn to Him? His name is Jesus..He sticks closer than anybody, and He will never let you down..Talk to Him and put your trust in Him and He will strengthen you. He loves you like no other man could possibly love you.
God Bless You and I will be praying for you and your situation with your family.
2006-11-07 07:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
i know exactly how your feeling and ik that its hard but if you both really love eachother you will get through anything! It might take alot of work since your so far apart but you both knew that it wasnt going to be easy. military fiances have it harder then anyone bc there are alot of obsticles that we have to get through. My fiance is in Tech school right now and i hate that i cant talk to him whenever i want to but should take the phone calls that you get and be happy with that bc there was a point that he couldnt call u at all and that will come again if he gets deployed. Sometimes i just think that hes going through as hard of a time as i am bc just remember he misses you to and you cant get mad at him because that wont keep your relationship going. Just hang in there and know that when u finally get to hold him again itll all be worth it!
2006-11-07 07:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a lifetime commitment, you have to triple your being patient, quadruple your love and understanding. He is also going through the same emotions as you are you just don't know it. If you truly love and adore your fiance, your love for him will surpass whatever it is that you are going through right now, just think of the time when you both will be together, and that just comfort you. I wish you both all the best.
2006-11-07 09:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by jinky l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋