I just found out my wife's baby isn't mine, it is my brothers, what can I do?

Question

I am really angry at both and feel like going over to my brothers house and beating the living $h1t out of him and then kicking my wife out of the house because I pay for it. I'd take custody of the child and never let the ho see our baby again.

Answer 1

Unbelievable!=> what are you doing here posting questions? You have serious problems, deal with them - I don't like people who hurt women, it's not manly

Answer 2

You're pretty angry right now, & have every right to be. But beating the $h1t out of your brother won't do anything but get YOU into trouble. You can't take custody of the kid since (oddly enough) you have no parental rights to the child UNLESS your wife has already had the baby, & put you down as the father on the birth certificate.

I feel for you man, but stay cool. You can end your marriage peacefully if you want. Check with an attourney. I may be wrong about this but instead of kicking your brothers a** you can sue him for ruining your marriage. Yeah take them both to court & make 'em pay pay pay.

Answer 3

Well, thats the anger talking!! Not that i blame you!!!!! To truth is, you will never get custody of this child, if it's not you'rs. You didn't say the age, but since you said baby, i assume, young. If you love this child, you need to think of the baby first. If you kick her out, the child goes to. 1st, Where can they go, will they have somewhere to stay?? some where safe!!!! 2nd, can she support the child with out you, at least untill the judge can make the real father pay support? I know that you don't care if she's ok, but this poor little baby didn't ask for any of this. And if they can't be adults, and care for this child, someone needs to.
and as for the brother, well, i agree kick his @**.
How dare him, He deserves everthing you're going to give him.
I am so sorry honey, but please do you're best to put this innocent child first, you will be a better man for it in the end.
I promise!!!! Let her really know the kind of man she just lost!!!!
and remember,You desevre better then she can ever be.
Good Luck to you!!!

Answer 4

The anger part is quite understandable. Everything depends on how much you love the woman, and if you are willing to somehow accept that the baby isn't your's but you can love him or her anyway. As far a the Brother, if my brother knocked up my bird, I may want to beat his *** into the ground, but alas, I would not.
Better to get even by making him contribute to the support of the child, if you stay with the wench, that is your business, but I would make double damned sure both were accountable in some way.
Alternatively, I may kick the plaything out, quietly file for divorce, and consider that single life with my two dogs is quite enough. Sadly, it is women like your wife that turn guys into tossers. Better to toss off into a wet sock than to risk getting someone like that pregnant next round.
Is she worth anything at all?
Only you can answer that one!

Answer 5

Let's take a step back my friend, for one thing you are admitting to a crime online, second you don't have to do anything except start walking. Let your brother know that you will still love him and you will forgive him for this but you will never forget about the betrayal that he caused you..
The other part you do have the right to kick your wife out the house because you are right that is your house, but remember let her know that she must not come to you for any assistance whatsoever in this matter and tell her that since the father is your brother then that is the one who should take care of the child.
Don't put your hands on them at all you don't need to be in jail over something like this no matter how painful it may be...Just take the advice and go and live in peace wherever it may lead you!

Answer 6

Techinically you can't keep the kid. It's not yours. Now kicking your wife out of the house and kicking your brother's ar$e is one thing. Although I don't recommend it, you can do that. But unless you can prove yourself more fit a parent than your wife AND your brother, you have absolutely no right to the child. Sorry.

I'd say pre-marital counseling as well as a nice long talk with your bro. Wait a bit. When you aren't chomping at the bit to kick him straight to Mars, then have a chat with him as a civil adult.

But cheating is grounds for divorce as well. I don't know how you feel about it. If it were me I'd say it's not my kid and therefore not my problem. You slept with the bro, you can keep the bro. But not me. You can't have both. Sorry. Peace.

Answer 7

I can understand you being angry but take a step back for a minute and look at what you just said! You want to take a child that unfortunately is not yours from its natural parents? What they did was immoral and just wrong but don't take it out on an innocent child. Now if the are a danger to the baby I can see it...but you will have to go through alot to prove it! I am sorry for your pain..but two wrongs don't make it right.

Answer 8

Tough call. But one thing you must not do is take it out on the child. If it were me, I would love the baby as if it were my own, and work very hard to get over my feelings of animosity toward my wife and brother. It will be hard but you will be a better person for taking the high road.

Answer 9

Well, since it's not your baby, you wouldn't be able to get custody. However, since you pay for the house, you should most certainly kick her out. She didn't respect you. If she did, she wouldn't have cheated with another man, especially not your blood relative, and then at that, have unprotected sex with him. Now she's pregnant with his child. Kick her out and don't speak to either of them. You need time for yourself since you've obviously been very hurt and dishonored.
In the future, I hope you and your brother can reconcile... no girl is worth breaking up a brotherhood.

Answer 10

Surprise her...with divorce papers. Since you can prove infidelity(child), then the divorce should go smoothly. But, since you are not his biological father, then you would probably not get custody. Unless of course, she is a bad mother and neither can take care of the kid. I know you probably have grown attatched to the child, but there is no legality, unless you can prove the above. Don't waste your time kicking his a**, wasn't his fault she gave it up so easily. Your house, she needs to leave. Good luck! :)

Answer 11

Harsh, but i would do the same thing. Seriousley calm down sit and talk with your wife if you still think you love her and try to work things out, this child needs both parents.You should also explain the meaning of being a brother to your brother.