that when you're pregnant everyone around you feels the need to butt in and tell you what you can and can't do, even if they have never been pregnant themselves?
My friends who have kids actually tend to leave me alone more than the ones who don't, probably because they understand how irritating it is. The WORST is when you've got somebody who has never had kids and thinks they're an expert on it because they had a "friend who was pregnant who told them everything." I just love how these types of people tell me I'm being overly paranoid because I say I won't go tanning or sit in a hot tub, but are telling me I can't eat Chinese food because it has MSG in it.
I guess I'm just venting. Anybody else have this problem? Or perhaps a solution to it that doesn't involve smacking people?
2006-11-07 07:03:56 · 12 answers · asked by nate 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I went through the same thing and told them my pregnancy, my kid, my life. my way.
I also told them to but off, wetever was going to be the consecuense to what I did I was going to have to handel it not them.
Or if they want to have the labor pains instesad of you, then but in all they want other wise SHUT UP.
that worked for me.
2006-11-07 07:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Maria Felix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-07 07:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Brina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda did and do. With my first pregnancy I was working and anytime I lifted a box that was bigger than a bread box somebody would come over and take it out of my hands. The one person who kept scolding me does have kids and she just didn't want me to hurt myself when other people could do it for me.
But my in-laws kept telling me that I was just paranoid with what I ate because my mother-in-law ate whatever she wanted through all 3 of her pregnancies and her kids turned out fine, so there was no reason I should watch the types of foods I ate.
With this pregnancy, well not many people know about this one yet so I've been lucky so far but we will see when we finally tell people.
2006-11-07 07:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, if you see the person usually get a baby book with the baby's first 5 yrs and write in the book were the question says "what's the worst advice you received?' and write them all down and show the book to the person. That'll shut them up, My mother in law sure did. Or you can say that I only want advice when I ask for it, or when it is truly needed...Just between you and me, I ate everything I wanted...I'm a candy fiend! HEHE
2006-11-07 07:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flat out tell them you do NOT want their advice! why beat around the bush? dont let people bother you! you are the pregnant one they must bow down to you! and good for you not tanning or hot tubbing that is smart. do whatever you think is necessary! some of those pregnancy myths are just stupid! dont eat chinese food!? come on! what do chinese women do then? tell those people to bug off
2006-11-07 07:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I did. It bothered me sooo bad. This one girl kept telling me that her sister did this and her sister did that. Like me and her sister were the same. I told her in a nice and polite way that I didn't really care what her sister did (not in those exact words). Sometimes you just have to ignore people. Then, there are some people you just feel comfortable telling them that you really just don't want their advice. I feel your pain!!
2006-11-07 10:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by ErinMichelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that the best answer to reply to each and all was "thank you, I'll take that into consideration". The person who has given the advise feels heard, and you feel empowered knowing you haven't taken their advise nor hurt anyone's feelings. File all advise away, you never know, you might use it one day?!
Good luck.
2006-11-07 07:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet these are the same people who are always touching your belly. I'd just tell them to mind their own business that you got all the advise you need from your doctor.
2006-11-07 07:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i yell at them im big too and people are like when are you due oh your not making it that long i say what are you pshycic. Or when they say you sure you not having twins i say are you crazy have you ever seen a women pregnant with twins or are you just dumb. Just be a ***** you have a license to now.
2006-11-07 07:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you don't want their advice! Oh and I have another thing thats super annoying.....Why does everyone wanna touch the belly?!?! This woman I work with did it to me all the time, and finally I told her I wasn't comfortable with her touching me all the time.....AND she hasn't done it since! lol Good Luck!
2006-11-07 07:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by IT's ReSa bAbY! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋