lusting after someone?

Question

If you lust after someone or they lust after you, after the sex, do the feelings disappear?

Answer 1

I can only imagine that they get "stronger", especially if you get the chance to know the person a little more than lusting after someone you have never spoken to and only see every now and then, I am lusting after someone right now as i speak, the person in question seems to be a really lovely girl both on the exterior but most of all on the inside too, she has feelings that go far more deeper than she lets on, but the situation is awkward as there is a third party involed ( if you know what I mean ) !!

But given half the chance i would like to spend some quality time with her to get to know her, the way she thinks, the way she feels and the things that make her smile, Sex would not be the important thing right now as seeing her happy is far more important to me, but if sex was ever to take part between me and her i want it to be special with a lot more feeling than "oh well that was that" and "move on".....We have never met as yet but have gained a little warmth from each other via the "internet", "text" and a "few photo's", I know she isnt too happy in her relationship right now, which makes things a little harder for me knowing that she isnt smiling from dawn till dusk, but just given the opportunity to hold her close and make her feel like a princess just eats me apart.

Sorry but your question got me thinking about whats going on in my lonely life right now and back to the question "NO" the feelings would not go away !! x

Answer 2

The initial "lust" is a basic conquest for the things that we are not suppose to have. Once this has been achieved then, generally speaking, we would need something "more" to bring about the same feeling. The chemical changes that occur in the brain during our "lust" reflect the same chemicals as those found in Adrenalin junkies,and coke addicts. That "lust" is a rush or high. Once it is met, it usually will take 'more" from that same person or situation to get the same feeling. Example, your friends know what you did and advise you not to, this could add the next level of excitement necessary to generate the same (original) feeling.

Answer 3

Same as everyone else - depends on how good the sex is.... nevertheless just decided to finish with a bloke with whom the sex was seriously amazing on both parts and i have lusted after for weeks - was fantastic and he admitted this fact also many a time, said he hadn't had anything like it for ages. We were totally on the same wavelength in terms of what we liked...... only thing is i just found out he was lusting after several other girls also....so maybe it doesn't matter how good the sex is.... maybe it depends on the person and what they are looking for..... and in the end you just feel used.

Answer 4

After the sex the feelings can get really complicated. It depends on the situation and especially on the balance of power in the relationship. If the power is all in his hands, it gets badly unbalanced, and doesn't work out well. The balance of lust is less important, I reckon.

Answer 5

Sometimes it can just be lust and not love. Like you can lust over someone but you don't have to like or be attractive to him/her the sex is just good.

Answer 6

If you don't regret it afterwards, and it was good, sometimes.

It depends on who and how hard you're lusting.
Sometimes it's just the built up passion, curiousity, and longing make the feelings so strong. Then agian, sometimes if it's someone you LOVE, the lusting feelings usually don't go away unless they become a complete turn off. ^.~

Answer 7

Usually if I have a crush on a guy I go after him. Then when I get to know him a little better the feeling become stronger for me. I've only had one one night stand before but the rest were successful.

Have a Rainbow Day!!

Answer 8

I depends on how both people interact with eachother. If it is simply a physical attraction, there will be no feelings. But if you are attracted to someone physically, and have sex and talk to them afterward and enjoy them as a person, feelings could get stronger.

Answer 9

Actually, yes. Research shows that in adult women the emotional attachment after sex remains high, unless it is following a one night stand. Then the drop off of interest is dramatic.

Answer 10

try it and see...;0)


for me...if we are talking purely lust...depends how good the sex is...if its crap id be fairly certain the lustful feelings wouldnt sticka around but if its good...you should always be left wanting more anyways,lol...;0)