Can you have sex with your friend and still be only friends?
2006-11-07 06:37:57 · 22 answers · asked by Wildcat69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, but they have to be on board aswell. In college i had a great friend with benifits and we would call each other for booty calls all the time.We were good friends that tried to date, but knew that it could not work, we did however enjoy the physical with each other. The funny thing is that i would call him over, then make him leave right after and he was totally cool with that. After i started seeing someone seriously we ended the sexual part but remained friends. I am now married with a child and he is friends with my husband and i. My husband knows about the relationship also. I kept things very open.
2006-11-07 06:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people know that they are better off being friends with benifets and know how each other feel then yes you can truely have "friends with benifets" Because emotions are different and they don't get in the way. Plus you can truly be honest with them.
2006-11-07 15:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex ,whether in a relationship or not, make some kind of connection with two people, whether its emotional or physical. Having sex with your friend obviously has a physical connnection, since you guys are friends there is also an emotional connection. You guys both have physical, emotional, and sexual connection. Why isn't it a relationship? Could it be that you want a relationship but is afraid of the damage it could possibly do to a relationship? I think so, a relationship is a big difference from a friend ship because you feel a sense possessiveness than in a friendship, you feel that you guys are free to do whatever. So it is very possible to haev sex and be in a friendship. It may be alittle weird at first but, so possible. Enjoy!
2006-11-07 14:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by peachyprincess07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly not! Sex between two people will change that relationship forever. You are only fooling yourself if you lie to yourselfs and eachother and say it won't change anything between you. You have to think past the easy acsess of "getting it on" and ask yourself is it worth losing a friend over. Because you will. Realisticaly in those types of situations one person really cares for the other person a lot more than one suspects or is willing to accept. Once the deed is done many issues, that once never existed, are raised. For instance one person will feel rejected when the other gets a boyfriend/girlfriend. Many difficult uncomforable situations arise that end up distroying the relationship AND the temperary sex spree.
2006-11-07 14:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly....
It is possible, but sex really does change everything. I had a friend with benifets for a while, and we still talk to each other. BUT... things have changed ever since I started to date someone else and not them. It has been 4 years now and there is still some tension between myself and the other person.... JUST BE CAREFUL AND USE YOUR BEST JUDGEMENT
2006-11-07 14:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really an old question. Nope, it just don't work.... and it has nothing to do with the friend giving or getting the benefits...Ultimately, either your or "fwb", are going to meet someone....exactly how long to you think it will be before your new friend learns about your F buddy....
I had a buddy..... we had a great time, the benefits were awesome....but she found another, and eventually so did I. three yeasr later My buddy got engaged.....at her bachelorette party....word got out that her and I were bang buddys in college... The poo poo hit the fan.....my girl friend was totally pissed, the groom got funky and his crew threatened to kill me if I showed up at the wedding. A lot of hard feelings came out of it....so if you're gonna have a fwb.....you gotta have total secrecy and trust....otherwise your are F'd
2006-11-07 15:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. I was doing it for over a year and as i speak we are still friends.....all you really have to do is just let eachother know that thats all you want. But also you have to not be wanting a relationship, because if thats what you are looking for then no it cant happen.
2006-11-07 14:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if that's all both want. Usually what happens is one likes the other and hopes for more. Then as time passes and they dont get what they thought they would, things start getting a little messy.
2006-11-07 14:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i dont think you can. Before you know it, one of you will start to have feelings for the other. then the friend as you knew it, no longer exsist. Think before you jump into bed with your friends. Ask yourself is this a friendship worth losing?
2006-11-07 16:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by luckypenny5295 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. I have a friend who we use to be friends with benefits and we both are married now and still are great friends just no more benefits
2006-11-07 14:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by andyramvzb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋