Maybe a matter of self-esteem but for some time I do not like what I see reflected in the mirror. How to improved my own acceptance?
2006-11-07 06:33:18 · 18 answers · asked by Marmite Juice 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Create daily tasks to improve what you see and what you feel. Start with quick wins, then more difficult ones, etc. Have three different kind of goals: short term , medium and long term. Do not despair.
My question is if you cannot "like" yourself: how can you like someone else. I understand somehow that you feel lonely.
Good luck, mate. Be a winner!
2006-11-07 06:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Díscolo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self esteem .. that's the key my friend. a great poem for that .. is
The Man in the Glass
When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf,
And the world makes you King for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that man has to say.
For it isn't your Father, or Mother, or Wife,
Who judgement upon you must pass.
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.
He's the fellow to please, never mind all the rest,
For he's with you clear up to the end,
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the man in the glass is your friend.
Some people may think you're a straight-shooting chum,
and call you a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.
You can fool the whole world down the pathway of life,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartache and strife
If you've cheated the guy in the glass.
It took me sometime to achieve this, but reading this over a few times was a great start. Remember this too .. you are beautiful on the inside.. once you believe that .. it will shine on the outside .. good luck
bga
2006-11-07 14:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by bga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unlike most people, I don't believe that everyone should have self-esteem... I think it's something you should work toward. Take some time out of each day to work on yourself (even if it's not very much) and you'll feel better. Eventually, you will enjoy the feeling so much it won't feel like "work" any more.
2006-11-07 14:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i am a BBW 5' tall and over 200lbs i had the same issue for a long time. then i just started to dress up and strut my stuff. it did not take long for me to realize that i must be attractive since i had several men and women hitting on me. try it become overly flirty and see what you get.
2006-11-07 18:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people are critical when they look in the mirror. Try and focus on your best points, not your worst, but I know it is easier said that done.
2006-11-07 14:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some good answers already provided but failing that, track down Trinny and Susannah!
2006-11-08 14:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie Mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Windex
2006-11-07 16:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make love to yourself more often. Explore yourself with touch and not sight. Blindfold yourself if you want! You will love yourself a lot more ;-)
Also, believe in yourself. Imagine your inner core is made of beautiful, smooth, shiny steel.
2006-11-07 17:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself you are hot. If you hear it enough, you will believe it. Change all those negative thoughts about yourself around to be positive. Over time, your thought processes will change and you will begin to find yourself more attractive.
2006-11-07 14:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the mirror to mind his business; u r a busy person!
2006-11-07 14:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by seesunsuf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋