I have been married for 17yrs, have 3 children and have been living in misery for the past 5. I want a divorce, but my controlling spouse claims it will be the end of his world. He has some anger management issues among other things and just want let me go.
2006-11-07 06:31:46 · 9 answers · asked by agpilotsd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get out. He will manipulate you to make you feel at fault no matter what it is. Do it now and you will realize after time that you did the right thing. It took me a year to be fixed from the same thing. My ex-husband was very controlling and abusive. I went to counseling and read books. Ditch that Jerk is a good book. People with anger problems need long term help i.e. a few years of counseling. Say to yourself "I WON'T LET ANYONE CONTROL ME CAUSE I KNOW WHO I AM". It will not be the end of your husbands world. I will be the end of your if you don't get out. Let him life in his own mind set (which is corrupt) and think for yourself, be strong and don't forget who you are.
2006-11-07 06:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Just Because 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe of that is incorrect to go away in such circumstances. You sound like you stay in worry and are consistently giving up your existence to delight your hubby and the youngsters. you're someone too. besides the undeniable fact that the considered divorce is terrifying and that i in my opinion might want to hate to ought to make that determination, it appears like you really have solid reason to. your little ones will be high-quality. what's worse, growing up with an abusive guy who terrifies and degrades his spouse all the even as the youngsters watch and study the thanks to imagine it really is okay? Or going out and doing you, looking perhaps a tremendous guy who cares for you and treats you procedures you deserve? i imagine you deserve a lot extra.
2016-11-28 21:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no real right to keep you there. Get a lawyer and file those papers. He can contest, but there are ways around a contestation. Maybe call a lawyer and get their opinion. Good luck!
2006-11-07 06:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you need to be worrying about his hang ups or problems.
Just have your escape planned, and do it while he's sleeping.
You only live once honey, and you deserve to be happy.
FOLLOW A GAME PLAN AND GO FOR IT. dON'T LET HIS PROBLEMS WORRY YOU, IF THEY DO, JUST MAKE SURE YOU ESCAPE FAR ENOUGH AWAY/
2006-11-07 06:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either, call the cops to escort you to get your clothing, because legally thats all he has to give you until the divorce, or wait til he leaves for a while, pack up your stuff and leave with the bank account money
2006-11-07 06:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then so be it. You need to take care of your kids and yourself. You might want to see a lawyer.
2006-11-07 06:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just leave you are not responsible for his problem it is not the end of the world for him he is just saying that to make you feel bad you need to just leave!!
2006-11-07 06:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him any way. He's using this excuse to manipulate you.
2006-11-07 06:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer
talk to the police
weigh your options of were you have to go so he won't find you
2006-11-07 06:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋