Help!! I have been feeling very fustrated with my kids, husband, I love them very much but...?

Question

lately it seems as though everything is depended upon me what can I do. My children are only nine, eight, four, and one my husband works 12 hours a day I hate to pour everything on him at the end of the day what should I do.

Answer 1

This is all very normal. I have three kids. Try to find a babysitter. Family or Friends and get some down time. Go out with your friends. A mini vacation on the weekend. You need to get out and get loose and vent a little with your friends. It wll do you a world of wonder.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I have told my husband about this many times. They work and stuff, but when they get home, their job is done. Being a mom is 24/7, no pay or days off. But, you do need a little down time, with him or on your own. I am guessing that a few of your kids are in school. Have a family member or friend take the rest, and go see a movie, or go shopping. Or have them watch the kids while you and hubby have a nice romantic evening. That will give you a bit of downtime. I know how you feel, it can seem overwhelming at times, but you wouldn't trade it for the world. Good luck! :)

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel. I have 3 boys ages 9,4 and 3. My husband also works over 12 hours a day. I am a housewife and a stay at home mom. And yes everything does fall on you. What you have to do is find some way to get some YOU time. You have to relax and take some time out to breath. If your life is like mine, you never get a time to breath. Even if you have to get up a hour early or stay up a couple of hours late, get that time in. I also just recently started knitting and that has helped alot because it is relaxing and when the house if FINALLY quiet and my nerves finally gets a chance to calm down, I knit and before I know it, I have a beautiful scarf or a stylish poncho to wear. I hope any of this helps. Take care.....OH DRINK PLENTY OF GREEN TEA WITH JASMINE!!!!!

Answer 4

The joys of being a mommy and a woman!! Sounds like you need a break. Do you have any family that can take the kids for a couple of hours so that you can have some "me" time? Ask your family for help.

And don't dump on your husband when he gets home. He's had a 12 hour day and he needs a break too. You don't want him to start dreading coming home...

Answer 5

It sounds like you're bringing issues at work home with you. You may need to see a counselor, to help you sort these issues. If not a counselor then try to set aside a little time to learn how to meditate, then set a little time aside and do it Preferably right at the end of the work day before you head home. At least try this: On your way home, picture their cute little faces and how they look when they laugh ( get a good sharp image), then (while you're picturing that) make note on how you feel and hold that feeling for when you walk in the door. Give every one a kiss and a hug when you walk in. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

Honey I agree with you. I am a single parent with three children of mine own. They are 10, 9, and 6! We are fairly happy and content all the time but I am tired now. I feel like I can't see my way at times either! I have found out that sometimes I just need a break and now is one of those times! I try to get away at least a weekend a month but since its Christmas season I have been saving my money but the first chance I get I am on my way out to the spa! Alone!

Answer 7

Well, being a Mom is tough but their love is your reward so just keep remembering that. Maybe set some rules, or more rules if you already have some. Im not saying to be so strict and whipping them into place . You're saying that they are acting okay but it is still too much to handle. So maybe get your oldest to help you out. Even if they are just 9, they can be abig help to "babysit" a little while you are doing the laundry or cooking dinner or other things too. Open up to your kids , even if they dont undertand what you're talkipng about. Good luck- God Bless =)

Answer 8

Learn to handle most things on your own. Things that need his attention should be told to him after he gets home and has had a chance to unwind. If he is working 12 hours a day.. so are you, and things need to unwind before all hll breaks loose. It is not easy raising 4 kids these days and I am sure he has to work all those hours to support the family as you have to go solo with the kids too. It will get better as they get older, don't give up hope.

Answer 9

your job is crazy......i know ! but try some alone time with him.....to go over things.....i learned the hard way that mom needs a break also......she had to sit me down.....talk to me.....about how & when her day starts....and ends.......id come home take care of kids while she went out by herself.....alone time......or a nap in peace!or id cook...feed kids....then wed have a somewhat peaceful dinner.....but talk to him.....your not pouring things on him......your just looking 4 a break......once he sees how much better you feel.........happier u are........he,ll do more.....see a different side of you........never let communication die! its the lifeblood to any relationship! talk....if you didnt b4.....start now.....dont keep your feelings in......thats what the 2 of you are 4! so a nap or going off for a little while wont hurt......no matter how long he works......hell love the refreshed new you........you need a break.......say so......if he loves you he will listen.......take one everyday.........youll b the person you used to be......try it..you have nothing to lose....only gain!

Answer 10

I feel your pain girl. I too have 3kids (12,9,14mon) and I also have an in home daycare with 16mon.,2,9. At the end of the day sometimes i just need time for myself. You will feel this way it is normal unless your a robot YOU NEED ME TIME. we all do including your husband. its hard sometimes talk to him let him know how you feel try to make arrangement to go out and do things. eeeenjoy yyyyour self a bit more.