I have been married for 2yrs going on 3 and my husband thinks I don’t trust him. I always compare our relationship to my parents and he hates that. My dad cheated on my mom all the time and I think my relationship is going to end up like that. He has never cheated but I can’t get it out of my head that there is a possibility. His friends talk about him saying that he has no balls but what the hell do they know there single. What should I do I feel that he resents me because I don’t like him to go out with his guys I am so confused.
2006-11-07 06:15:43 · 11 answers · asked by Short and Thick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you need to trust him and yourself. Look this is not your parents realtionship...This is yours. If he wants to go out with the guys that is fine..As long as you get the chance to go out with the ladies...It HAS to work both ways. You need to trust in what you have together and build it from there. I would talk to him about it...And then listen to what he has to say. Do not accuse him of anything just let him be aware of how you feel and make sure to get out of him how he feels.
Cheers
2006-11-07 06:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow are you trying to produce a self fulfilling prophecy or something. What an aweful thing to live with for your husband to be compared with a man who cheats on his wife. I would suggest that you seek out some form of counselling to help you better deal with these feelings of infidelity that you currently have. Have some faith in your man and if he is not doing anything to make you think he is cheating at present then please believe him. Communication, I'm sure your aware, is the most important thing in any relationship. So perhaps also if you were honest with your husband and told him why you carried these feelings he may be better able to put your mind at ease also.
2006-11-07 06:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents past is not your future. Get over it. Let him go out with his friends. Are you nuts if you don't he is going to go crazy and resent you and your relationship, you need to go out with your friends too. If you have trust issues than maybe you should reconsider the relationship you are in. Love is not one sole emotion it is every emotion there is out there to be had. It is also an act, how you treat someone and act towards them is a true testement as to whether or not you truly love that person.
2006-11-07 06:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by ploobis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We sometimes do this to ourselves, meaning confuse ourselves and sometimes for no reason at all. Has HE ever done anything for you not to trust him. If not you need to give him some slack on that leash. Just imagine He is a man and you treating him like a child will only weaken him and may end up resenting you. You should not hold him responsible for what your father did.
2006-11-07 09:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by oreo29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not trust him, then leave now. Stop waisting your time with someone you are not going to trust. You will both end up bitter, resentful and hate each other if you insist on staying with a man you always suspect. Or, seek therapy to deal with your trust issues if it is not just him you lack trust of.
2006-11-07 06:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by GreyGoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop punishing your husband for what your dad did. If you keep behaving this way, you will push him into the arms of another woman-- which sounds to be what you secretly want, so you can "prove" to yourself that you were right.
Of course he resents you for not trusting him and comparing him to a lying cheater!!! Stop punishing your husband for your dad's mistakes. If you can't, then get therapy.
2006-11-07 06:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with him.... tell him you would feel more comfortable that way and maybe you guys can loosen up and have a good time together. He should be happy to bring you out with his friends. Teamwork!!!
He has to understand why u feel this way but you can't back him into a corner or he's going to want out of the relationship.
2006-11-07 06:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,,,You definitely need to learn to trust this guy. He seems like a real great guy and you need to let him know that you do trust him. Please,,,for the sake of your marriage see a counselor to help you get over these feelings. Good luck Honey....
2006-11-07 06:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my wife compared our relationship to her parents I would be mad also. Every marriage is different. Her parents are freakin mental. It is bad enough that him and I have the same birthday. Go figure.
2006-11-07 06:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am dating someone right now and I have the same worries. I had bad experiences in the past, and I take it out on him. I worry it will ruin things.
2006-11-07 06:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋