so me and my girl were arguing. i just wanted to end the fight but she is like taking everything wayy to personaly and way too seriously. she is saying some really mean things to me and it hurt my feelings. i was just trying to get her off my back and didn't want to fight because i missed her because i was at work all week and weekend now i just wanted to spend time with her. i mean i'm a man though so i'm not gonna be apussy about it so i just suck it up and take all the really mean **** she is sayin. but what she says is really mean and it really upsets me and she just kept laying into me. she has to know what she says to me hurts. how can she not? any way she just wont let it die and she finally broke me down and i just exploded. she says i'm sorry i wasn't trying be mean and piss you off. but now i just want to be left the **** alone. what makes her think that just by apologizing is going to make me want to forgive her for the hurtful things she said to melike now everything is OK
2006-11-07 06:06:14 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
damn all you B*TCHES do that for attention! don't wonder why your boyfriend beats you cross eyed afterwards. hell i can't blame em
2006-11-07 06:29:12 · update #1
i would like to thank the ladies who left me serious and helpful answers. however the man-hating needs to stop. you w*h*o*r*e*s need to reallize to every action there is a reaction and if you think that you have a good idea of what the reaction is and you wont like it and you do it anyway then YOU are to blame. you think you know everything? I SAID DO YOU F*CKING THINK YOU KNOW EVERYTHING? cause you F*CKIN don't the 10 pts is going to the dude on this one
2006-11-07 06:45:13 · update #2
okay obviously you people don't understand this:
argument=yelling from both sides
hurtful things=telling me i'm a peice of crap for working OVERTIME to take care of the bills, telling me that I'M leaving the door open for her to cheat onme, telling me that she wants to leave me because i'm a shitty b/f because i leave her at home alone on a friday and saturday night without a car.
also we live together taking a breather for us requires me staying at a friends house which leaves both of us questioning what the other is doing.
and when i mean explode i don't mean yell back the whole argument was yelling. i broke alot of stuff(tv aquarium table sliding glass door george forman grill plates and some other stuff) last night made a big mess
this was like a fight to end all fighting and we always end up being sorry and staying together and just trying to get over it but there's always something else life never changes it just stays the same just under different circumstances
2006-11-07 06:58:25 · update #3
Maybe she was stressed out as well, (or having one of those "crazy" moments that happen every now and then - guys get them too) .
Take a moment, take a breather, and talk to her when things calm down a bit.
The fact that she's trying to appologize says that maybe, just maybe, she didn't mean half or whole of what she said in the heat of the moment. Sometimes in battle the tounge becomes a double edged sword of sorts. (and forget what they told us back in grade school about "sticks and stones - but words never hurting) .
Again, take sometime when things calm down and talk to her. Let her know it hurt you and watch her reactions. Unless she's crazy and manipulative she'll understand and remain remorseful. Sometimes just communicating it out in calm makes it a lot easier.
Just don't go to bed "angry" . That can open up a whole new can of worms and tears.
2006-11-07 06:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she is realizing what she did now and now that u are pissed its a little to late. tell her what u wanted like spending time with her without a fight. really who needs that after working all week and just wanting to be with the person u love. I think honestly she might want to fight some ppl strive on it and plus it makes for a lot of attention so she could be just lashing out because she misses you as well and if u guys didnt have alot of time during the week it could be getting to her as well. i hope this helps ya. im not saying to say your sorry but maybe when u arent so pissed and want to be left alone u will want to talk to her so just cool off and let her cool off and then both of u just try to spend some time together that might be what it was all about in the first place. good luck. and u will never understand a woman lol just like we will never understand a man lol. smile and try to cool off.
2006-11-07 06:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by nuzzihuzzi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you must first do before anything else is stop calling us women bitches and hoes. That might make your load a little lighter. Ok your girl, she's tripping- why not leave the house. You didn't have to stand there and let her tear you to shreds like that. Even though the way you talk you might have deserved it, doesn't matter. She went off on your ***. Breaking things did what? Made a mess I'm pretty sure she's gonna leave for you to clean up. Women want to be heard. Just listen. Don't talk. You damn right she was angry and pissed, you should have just let her talk and get it over with. She would have eventually calmed down and y'all would've made up by having some really nasty sex. The end. And you're welcome
2006-11-07 07:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by klclmc1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, as a woman, I can say that I have done that many times!!! We are just kinda crazy people at times- especially when it comes around PMS time!!! She is probably frustrated with you for something- so listen to her, listen to her demands and requests and try and talk calmly with her. I am sure she doesn't necessarily mean those horrible things she said, especially if she loves you, however, there is something in her head that made her think those things and blurt them out in the heat of the moment- so that means those things are truly on her mind. Think about those things she said and see if there is a way to make things change in your end. If not, it sounds like she might just be verbally abusing you. Yelling at each other of course doesn't solve anyones problems. You should sit down and calmly discuss things and where your relationship is going... because it doesn't sound real wonderful.
-EA
2006-11-07 06:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a little breather from each other once you see her again, tell her that she hurt your feelings. If she doesn't care, then she obviously doesn't care about your feelings - lose her.
If she is sincerely sorry maybe she was having a bad day or maybe her anger had been accumulating, there's too many scenarios here that could be the problem.
Bottom line, sit down and talk with her, no screaming. Hope it works out.
2006-11-07 06:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off if it is that "time of the month" there could be part of the probelm, the other thing is she might just be high maintenance and really moody. Maybe by her yelling at you like that she was trying to get a reaction from you to see if you care about what she says...but I'm not sure, every female is different.
Hope that was a little bit of a help anyway, Good Luck!
2006-11-07 06:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kahlan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can just give you my opinion ... sometimes we females don't know when to stop arguing. We want to make a point ... and we want you to *recognize* and *admit* that you've gotten that point. Even if it's as little as saying, "I get what you're saying but ..." ... something small just to let us know that you're listening. But by the time we get all this stuff out ... it's probably pissed you off so badly that you don't care what the point of our arguement was.
I'm not putting this off on you though ... saying hurtful things is a horrible way to argue. You need to let her know that you're not just angry ... you're hurt too.
2006-11-07 06:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by Bonny K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is the same way with men. Communication is the key to any relationship. Sure, we all argue but if you cannot learn to argure fairly...it is a lost cause. You need to have a heart to heart with her when you are both calm and discuss how you feel. Maybe she doesn't realize that she is hurting you as bad as she really is. Good Luck!
2006-11-07 06:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
young women today are crazy self centered and emotional imbalanced. she has issues not you. there are people (men AND women) that feel a relationship is normal with knock down drag out fights. it's not, your mate should make you happy when you get home from work, you should be able to look at their face and walk into a nice relaxing home after a hard days work. if you are dreading the ride home because you know you're going to get jumped with verbal abuse as soon as you walk in, it's time to get out of the relationship.
2006-11-07 06:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by The Key Master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are very emotional creatures. I think she was just trying to get you to show some type of emotion too. Notice how you said she apologized AFTER you got upset. Women need to know how our partners feel. So if you don't say it, show it.
Also, with out getting all Dr. Phil on you, she may just be trying to control things. I wasn't there, but you need to rethink the whole argument. I'm willing to bet that she was in control the whole time. She was upset and she wanted you upset. You got upset and now she wants things to calm down. I don't know her, but she sounds really young and immature.
2006-11-07 06:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋