I separated from my husband, the love of my life, because he was too afraid to be a father, as his own Dad treated him very badly. I left him, because I was desperate to be a Mum. The dream of my own baby came true, with the help of an anonymous sperm donor. The donor and myself have corresponded, and he is now open to meeting myself and the baby - quite keen actually. He is married, and has two older children of his own. I'm curious to meet the person that half my baby's genes come from, and want to have another baby next year from the same donor, but I wonder if it is appropriate at this time? Also, I worry that because I am a single mum, the donor might think I want him to play a part in my baby's life, but this isn't the case at all. It would just be nice to meet him, oneday, for my childs sake. Where I come from, a donor can only donate to two families, and there is no monetary reward.
2006-11-07 06:04:39 · 12 answers · asked by angelique 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe exchange pictures and phone numbers for now, I wouldn't schedule a person to person meeting until after your second child is born. I would then make it absolutely clear that the meeting is a no-strings-attached type of meeting. Also I would request that his wife and children attend. That way there is no mistake about your intentions. (or his)
2006-11-07 07:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Meet the donor father. If for only TWO reasons:
1. The donor might want a relationship with his offspring at some future date for any of a number of reasons.
2. The offspring might want a relationship of sorts with his donor at some future date for any of a number of reasons.
2006-11-07 06:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that - my brother did the same thing, and he is married, it's called being a selfless person - his wife thought it was wonderful. You should meet him, there are some donors who have absolutely no interest in the biological children they have helped create, so he sounds a good person. Good luck to you!
2006-11-07 06:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lucia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom might comprehend what sperm economic organisation she used. you will possibly then write a letter on your ability father and supply your call, telephone huge variety and handle. And, a quick word approximately why you prefer to touch him. make absolute to furnish an enduring handle and get in touch with huge variety. then you definately might flow to the sperm economic organisation inclusive of your mom and you will possibly ask in the event that they'd the two bypass the letter alongside to the donor or save it interior the form he contacts the sperm economic organisation. you could desire to bear in mind that he would have signed a clause forbidding touch of any variety. if it somewhat is the case they'd hold close directly to that letter for you so as that if he variations his suggestions he can flow there and that they'll supply him your touch information. in case your mom is utilising the time era sperm donor basically to show she slept with somebody she did no longer comprehend or particularly knew and then have been given pregnant with you, you will possibly % her to furnish you each and all of the archives she will. alongside with the place she met him (bar, gas station, notwithstanding) and something she recalls him pointing out. Even the call of a canines or sibling. after which you will possibly take that information to a private detective and enable them to attempt to locate him. yet you will possibly % to coach a letter inclusive of your touch training for that too. and not utilising a DNA try any guy that a pi unearths matching the define and information given via your mom is only that, any guy. And he might would desire to be the only to realize out to you. then you definately ought to the two deliver in DNA for matching. At your value, no longer his. If she is utilising the time era sperm donor because of the fact she met somebody and asked them to impregnate her and instructed them she might advance you on her own then she might would desire to be the only to touch him and supply your training. All you're able to do is try. It the two works or it does not. and you could desire to have your mom draw up a criminal record affirming that there'll be no request or criminal duty for any economic help. This letter would desire to be drawn up via an lawyer relinquishing this guy from any criminal duties. because of the fact if she used him as a sperm donor he won't touch you for concern of baby help. contain a notarized replica of this with any touch letter you depart for this guy everywhere. save the unique and make notarized copies.
2016-10-21 10:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think more about it because the person who donated the sperm can be a bad or a good person. And you should think if the person who donated wants to be known.
2006-11-07 06:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Gabi Morena 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldnt see y not. if theres no negitivity there, then, i think it would be totally on how every1 felt about the situation, and as long as theres not too much uncomfortablness. good luck and pray about it.
2006-11-07 06:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds weird i wouldnt want to meet him i would just want his sperm and call it a day!!
2006-11-07 06:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by notyochic 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i can't believe he is married and is a sperm donor....what does his wife say about all this????? sheesh
2006-11-07 06:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by BOOYAH 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be careful, ignorance is bliss....
2006-11-07 06:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you should
2006-11-07 06:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋