Do you believe in same sex marriage?

Question

Today I voted against it.

Wow, some angry people.

How many of you angry people voted today? That's what I thought.

Why am I against it, you ask?

1. The bible says that marriage is for a man and a woman. In the bible there was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.

2. Yes, it creeps me out. 2 people of the same sex "doing it" is biologically incorrect. The penis is for a vagina. Not an anus.

3. It cheapens normal marriage.

No, I didn't post this question to anger people. I don't think the question was on the ballot today to anger people. I hope that it is voted against. This world is messed up enough. I think I have nice normal values.

I don't think that same sex marriage is comparable to issues such as if black people and women being allowed to vote! Please!

Answer 1

It was on the ballot when I voted this morning and I am proud to say I voted against it. Sure I read some of your answers and those who say I voted for hate and so on are the ones who are wrong. I voted for what I believe in. If God wanted two men together he would have created Adam and Paul, not Adam and Eve. Same thing for two women. So to all the gays out there, you have already made a life choice not to fit in, what does marriage gain you? How is a child affected by being raised by a gay couple? Marriage is the sacred act of 1 Man and 1 Women. You say we are discrimminating toward you? How does this compare to black people or immigrants and so on. Black people did not choose to be black, back in the day do you think a black person would have turned down the option of being white so that they could fit in? Gay people choose to be gay, you are not born gay. I don't hate gay people but feel they should not show any public affection and not push being gay on other people. Kids learn from watching and this is just not a message that I want my kids to be forces to see.

Answer 2

I think eventually you will change your mind.

Please tell me what specifically is wrong with same-sex marriage. I'll put a watch on this question, and check for your reply.

The only three reasons that I've heard is that

1) they are defending the sanctity of marriage
2) it's against their religion
3) gays creep them out

OK, point by point:

1) with the divorce rate at about 50%, what's so sacred about marriage any way? If you want to defend the sanctity of marriage, go help a battered spouse, or counsel people who are in the process of divorce.

And please tell me what specifically makes your marriage worse because two guys across town, or two women across your state are legally married. Does it make it more likely that you will cheat on your spouse if those guys get the automatic right to make end-of-life choices for their spouse?

2) There is such as thing as separation of church and state. Why should your particular religion be the one used to make public policy? Why not your neighbors, or the people in an inner city ghetto, or the truck driver who delivered the produce you got at the store? Or maybe we should rotate religions, once a year?

3) "Gays give you the creeps". Plain old bigotry and prejudice. Do you know any gay people? I bet you do - maybe they haven't come out to you, but I'd bet that you know several, even if you don't know their sexual orientation. The ones I know are hardworking and law abiding people. They pay their taxes, they hold positions of responsibility, they take care of their houses, they raise their kids (yes, that's possible). They're good friends and good neighbors. Why not let them have the same rights that straights take for granted?

Answer 3

You know what i am not against it. Im so for it! Why should we decide what is wrong. I mean come on so many straight people get married and end up divorced. I mean we dont stop them from marrying even if we want to because we know it is a wrong match. But who knows two guys can be so right for each other and they could be in a releationship forever but we as americans are saying no just because some people think it is imorale. What the hell do what you want to do. I mean if two guys are in love they will be together whether or not it is legal or not. They just want have to stupid piece of paper saying so.

Answer 4

Yes I believe in same sex marriage. Why you voted against it is your own damn reason. But what I don't understand is why same sex marriage is such a big deal to some people? I agree that it should be legal and hopefully within the next decade it is. Times are a changing people. Gays/lesbians are the new topic of discrimination because people won't open up there minds to something that they don't understand. It's reality, it won't be banned or become illegal to be gay/lesbian. Someday everyone in this country will have the same rights as everyone else because we as a whole will finally look past the hate towards what we know is equal, fair, and ultimately right. Women voting, check! Equal rights for blacks, check! Same sex marriage, someday, check! Look past your own personal hate and finally let everyone live their lives with the same respect and rights that we deserve.

Answer 5

Your vote, your business.

But it's also your Bible, and not mine, so please don't be too upset if I'm underwhelmed by your theological reasoning. (Shrug.) Believe what you like; my Goddess has no problem with same-sex love.

"Creeps you out"? --- people eating raw oysters make me shudder; I do SO not want to see people eating something that looks like I just suctioned it from a patient's airway. I don't like?---so I look away; let them enjoy, but include me out. Personal choices.

"Biologically incorrect"? Like to think that biology isn't just the only thing driving people; same-sex choices may be atypical in the overall statistics, but I believe we thinking humans can deal with variations. And I have a number of potential and actual roles that can be fulfilled, as a human and as a female: was it "biologically incorrect" for me to reject childbearing?

"Cheapens normal marriage"? Other than the fact that "normal" is a setting on my dryer, or describes a condition in statistics....
have you seen the current "straight" marriage rate, and condition?????? Whatever happened to the good old days, where you committed to somebody, and then tried your doggondest to make it work? And if you had children, you were married first?
I think gay folk, given the legal chance to marry (or otherwise form a publicly-recognized, validated, LEGALLY PROTECTED and SANCTIONED bond, with the full powers that marriage gives to spouses), would probably put a lot of us "straight" folk to shame.

Answer 6

OMG I totaly agree with you on everything that you just said.I believe that god made man and women to be the only ones together in a marriage and etcetra not the same sex.I also use that "god didnt create adam and steve he created adam and eve"thing to when answering questions about making gay marriage legal!!!!!!But I totally agree with you and if I was old enough to vote (which im not cause im just 17)I would have voted against it also!

Answer 7

I more than believe in same sex marriages. I live it.

Thank god I'm Canadian!

Marriage rights are basic human rights.

Remember: There was a time in recent history that only Christans could be married in North America, which means all other religions were entirely excluded. Jews etc.

Until an individual is judged instead of a group, then human rights are in question.

Answer 8

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Get a living will, power-of-attorney, will, and put your assets into a living trust, and you've got yourself a "marriage". You are as legally bound by those documents as you are by marriage. If LGBT folks want to be bound by law as married heterosexuals are, the means to do this are as available to them as they are anyone else. RIGHT NOW. No need for a change in law or voter initiatives or pointless and endless debates. Just go do it, and may you live happily ever after.

Answer 9

Go Radagast!
I believe everyone should be able to make that choise and not by voting on it. Those that are mentally challenged get to marry, as do physically challenged folks so why the big problem with the Gay issue? Radagast, I believe, has hit the nail on the head-2 religious views going at it.
Put the shoe on your own foot and then look at your conscience-then go vote. Opps! You already have. Lets just hope your future does not depend on a vote.

Answer 10

The gay marriage battle is a fascinating one -- and the battle itself frightens me, though not for any reason you might expect.

The gay marriage fight is really a battle between two groups of religious denominations - Christian and other in both cases. That battle is being missed by the media, and I believe that the battle threatens democracy in America.

One of the reasons for the Revolution, in which ancestors of mine fought -- was to establish freedom of religion in the new nation. Now, we are throwing that away, because contrary to what those on the Right would like you to think, this is not a battle between "people of faith" and "atheists" or some such -- this is a battle between two groups of people of faith, using the government to establish one sides views -- the EXACT THING that the anti-establishmentarian clause of the Constitution is there to prevent.

Of course no one should "make" those whose faiths oppose gay marriage perform such marriages, and no one ever would. So ministers from the Southern Baptists and Assemblies of God and Ultra-Orthodox Jews and Fundamentalist Muslims should never be asked to perform gay marriages, and certainly not forced to.

On the other hand, why should faith groups that support gay marriage -- such as the United Church of Christ, the Unitarian/Universalist Society, the North American Spiritualist Church, Reform Judaism, and the Correllian Tradition of Wicca -- all recognized Churches and 501c3s be barred from practicing their religious faith, which says it is ok to marry same sex couples?

The first group of faith groups is realistically using the government to prevent the second group of faith groups from practicing what they believe. The founders tried to prevent this, for the stability of the country. It doesn't matter that everyone "thinks" they are right and others are wrong -- it matters that we are plural as a society and the government should recognize everyone's ceremonies the same -- which means that gay marriages committed by churches and faith groups that believe in gay marriages, should be honored by the government regardless of what groups that don't like it say.

Everyone's beliefs can be honored, thus preserving the values that my 12 times removed Great Grandfather died for -- but not if we allow one side to legislate away the rights of the other side.

And that's what I think.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
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