My husband has a job offer that will pay him 10 to 15K more a year. The catch is that the job is 4 hours away. This mean he would have to have small apartment and come home on weekends. Should he take the job?
2006-11-07 06:00:49 · 17 answers · asked by missblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he really wants the job and ya'll could use extra money then yes he should take the job. would you consider moving with him?
2006-11-07 06:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think this is gonna be a good idea. But there's a couple of things you can do to adjust to his new job if he you guys decide for him to take it.
1- if you haven't bought a house and are leasing- move from where you live and rent a new house or apartment closer to the new job. If you own a house- taking the job wouldn't be a good idea. What if things "happen" while he stays in a hotel or apartment rental?? you're gonna spend less time with him and he will have more time on his hands to do other stuff. I'm not trying to put ideas in your head but- when guys are lonely they tend to look for mistresses thinking the wife will never find out kuz she's so far away.
2- calculate how much more money hew ill spend on rent for an apartment
aparment $700-$800/month x 12months = about $8,400
gas to visit you and the kids for the weekend = about $640/month
i don't think it's worth taking the new job. If you guys aer renting- move and you'll be fine but if you own a house don't take the job. The ammount of money he will spend just trying to live closer to work and time to spend with you and your kids per year will equal out on what much more he will make. I think he should stay where he's working now and look for a job closer. If you don't work- i suggest you get a part time at least to help witht he bill. If you already have a job- you should try to see if you can get a nother job that pays more so you and him can bring in more money. Don't let the new job screw up your life. Not being able to see him is a bid deal!! it will cause problems in your marriage and all for money?? not worth it! cosider these things!!
Good luck to you!
2006-11-07 14:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do a comparison to see if the money he gets after taxes is still worth it after paying for an apartment. You also need to decide if being apart during the week will begin to pull you two apart.
Personally, I feel the best thing to do is to move and live together in the new city-area close to his work. The question is, do you make more money than he does?
Generally, the couple moves if the person getting the new job makes more money. You have a lot to think about, but I would not suggest you live apart from him during the week.
2006-11-07 14:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sirena 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I thought about this and here's what I think.
If the job is good, really good, and it shows a promising future, I say, move closer to the job. I know, I know. My guy got downsized earlier this year and we had to move 1200 miles (thats 6 states) to his new job. It sounds scarier than it is - I actually love our new town.
If he really wants the job, and you see your future with him, then I would look for housing near the new job. It can work out, trust me. Good luck.
P.S. Don't let him get an apartment then come home on weekends - that will exhaust both of you and absorb the extra money he's making. It won't work.
2006-11-07 14:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the new employer isn't picking up the check for rent and expenses then what is the point of making more money? He is just going to spend it anyway. My brother did that temporarily until a local position opened up but it was only for a few months
2006-11-07 14:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, for me I would say no, i cannot put a price on sleeping with my husband every night and seeing him for dinner and just being in the same room with him, i cannot imagine being with out him for 5 on and 2 off. I would say no. or just move in the middle or can you get another job close to where his is? Compromise that is the best bet, you can have you husband and he can have his job
2006-11-07 14:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a word of advice I would take the job if i were him because it gives him more money. but if the job is 4 hours away, maybe from his job he can make more money to buy a house closer so he won;t be so far away from you.
2006-11-07 14:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by damigurl05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the money can change your life for better is OK. but for relationship or family is disaster. What about get job for you there. If you have house you can rent it. The future is important
and money can change the life but is so easy to break up being a part.
2006-11-07 14:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless u are making comparable money, just move with him. If he likes the new job then that can only benefit both of you.
2006-11-07 16:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste the money paying for two different living spaces. It would make more sense to move with him, so you can both enjoy the extra money together.
2006-11-07 14:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you move? Its never worth money to break up a family. Plus, if he rents a small place thats gonna eat up half the raise anyway, right?
2006-11-07 14:03:01 · answer #11 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋