Okay, I am past my due date by almost 2 weeks and I am going in tonight to be induced. I am scared out of my mind, because this is a first time for me. I am very excited to see my baby but SCARED of what is going to happen. Lol I know everyone keeps saying calm down, relax..but yeah, thats not happening. I havent slept at all for 2 days now because I cant stop thinking about it. I know women do it everyday and all but I dont know, I dont know how to explain it, Im just nervous about what is going to happen. I know that I am getting the epidural because I dont do pain..lol. My husband keeps trying to reassure me which I really appreciate, he is being a doll but I still cant seem to shake this nervousness. I am ready to get it over with though. Can you give me some calming words and experiences please that may help me calm down a bit? I know everyone is diff but it will be nice to hear what happened to you. I appreciate it!
2006-11-07 05:55:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can endure far more than you think you can. Anticipation of things are far worse than the experience. You do need to get rest though and conserve energy. Concentrate on the outcome not the labor.Prayer and meditation will help. You can do this and you are stronger than you realize.
2006-11-07 06:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was induced for my second baby. I went in the night before and they put something on your cervix to start it softening. They also offer you a pill to help you relax and sleep.
Do it! Take the pill and enjoy. They start you with pitocin, or whatever your doctor elects to use. This starts the contractions.
The labor is longer when induced, so good thing you are doing the epidural. You won't feel anything. It's great, but remember one thing. Keep checking to make sure you can move your legs and that your butt isn't asleep. If that happens, ask them to shut off the epidural medicine because you are getting too much.
The reason I know, in my first delivery, I tried to go natural, labor advanced so quickly I couldn't keep up. I took the epidural about 4 hours before I delivered. Baby was born after only 7 hours of labor. Not all of the 7 hours was painful. Mine all advanced very quickly from hours 3 to 5.
Very quick labor for a first time mom. But, since I couldn't feel anything and didn't know any better, I didn't think it was weird that I couldn't move my legs.
It took me a day and a half after the baby was born before I could get up and move my legs.
My lesson learned was that I was over-medicated, thus prompting me to have a serious conversation with the doctor and the labor nurses about cutting off the medicine if I couldn't feel my legs or butt early on.
They were happy to oblige and this last birth went great. I was up within a couple of hours of delivering my son. No problems.
You will be fine. I was terrified of the whole thing in my first pregnancy, but the delivery part is nothing.
Post-partum can be bad if you rip or don't stop bleeding, which I experienced in the first delivery. Both my babies were 8 lbs, 3 oz. and 19 inches long. The second one was 2 weeks early. :)
Just read your books on the delivery process and get educated before you go in. That is the best preparation so you can make informed decision.
You will be fine. Once you go through this, you will wonder why you were so worried.
2006-11-07 06:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can I say that you haven't heard before,It is scary especially if its your first baby, I remember when I had my first son, I was over due buy a couple of days, and my doctor told me that he was going on vacation, that was something. I thought to my self why is this happening to me, why is my baby not coming and why is my doctor leaving now. That was when I started to panic, The following Wednesday I went in for a check up and the doctor that was taking over for my doctor said that I was 2 cms dialated and that I should go home and that my baby should be here no later than tonight. I went home and called my boyfriend and told him the news, then I really got scared,but my mom told me that everything was going to be fine,and that I should not think about whats going to happen before the baby is here but I should look forward to how my baby was going to bring me joy and happiness when he gets here. From that moment thats all I can think about. You what my mother was right now he is 10 years old and he is still bringing be joy and happiness, I can't remember much about the pain of bringing him only what happened there after. This is an experience of a life time don't worry about whats going to happen, because all you know is that at the end of it all your beautiful baby will be in your arms. Pray and ask the lord for a safe delivery and a health baby. God bless and take care.
2006-11-07 06:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by BASHFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it does hurt, BUT the redeeming quality is that you get to see the most beautiful thing in the world today or tomorrow. When I went into labor I was unable to get an epidural which now I am so thankful for! I freak out a lot, but I got through it!! I wasn't able to have painkillers either but it was almost like it was the best pain in the world for me. A few hours later I saw my daughter for the first time! I never saw anything more beautiful in my life. Look forward to the pain because it bring the most precious thing in the world and it will be woth it all. But with your epidural things should go better than it did with me lol. I had to have her natural not by choice. But hey we are women and we've been doing this for thousands of years!!!! Good luck! Let us know how it goes. What are you having?
2006-11-07 06:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Laura H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very least, try to get some sleep, because after you deliver you won't be getting much sleep at all. Giving birth can be scary, but if your doctor says everything is fine, there should be nothing to worry about. Take along a book or soothing music to keep your mind off things, because the more relaxed you are the quicker the birth will be. Besides, once you get the epidural you won't feel much from the chest down. Congrats!
2006-11-07 06:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its scary. But the crazy thing is when it is all started and you have the doctors and nurses around it makes you feel better. They know what they are doing. Bring something with you that makes you feel at home. Your favorite pillow, a stuffed animal. Something you find that relaxes your mind.
Normal things that will happen:
Arrive, have normal vaginal check up.
Get you in a room, put in an IV.
Remember - both the pitosen (stuff to make you go into labor) and the epidural make you shake. Its normal but feels bizzarr.
If you can.(easier said then done).......take a nap, you will need the energy.
Just breath and know you will finally be coming home with your new baby. Congrates!!
2006-11-07 06:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reaction is very very normal. Its really not as bad as you are making it out to be, i promise when its all over you will think hey that really wasnt so bad :) ive had two babies and im pregnant with my 3rd. My first went pretty good, i had more back pain than anything with my first. My second went extreamly fast. I went in playing tetris when i was dialated to 6, i was trying to keep my mind off of it. But i knew in a bit i would be holding my beautiful baby and thats so exciting. It almost takes the pain away. Both my kids were born with NO pain medication and i did just fine and im sure you will too. Trust your doctors! They know what they are doing, and keep thinking to yourself about the little baby you will see TONIGHT!!! what a wonderful thought huh?!?!? Youve waited all this time and you are so close to holding your baby thats been growing inside of you!!!!! Make sure your hubby is there, make sure you have ice chips and a washcloth on your forehead. Those two things were my best friend with my boys lol and possibly a fan!!! You will do just fine.Its your first time so its understandable, but its not as bad as you think it is :) Its all worth it in the end, and you wont even really remember it once you have your baby in your arms :) GOODLUCK!!!!!!
2006-11-07 06:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! yeah calm down after this is all over you will be like,"gosh i worried for nothing" trust me,i have 3 kids the youngest is 4 months old,and i am glad to say he came into this world fast and furious so i didn't get any meds,which after the fact is a whole lot better than the epidural in my opinion,i just felt better after wards..congrats and be calm..lol...once things start rolling for you tonight it will be a surprise but you will calm down and go with the flow of things....and then...happy birthday baby!
2006-11-07 06:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by QUACKERS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fine! Don't allow this MOMENT that is a once in a lifetime experience, to be stolen by worry and anxiety! God never puts more onus than we can bear and while it does come with a little pain etc. The payoff is PRICELESS! Every cramp, every push, and every hour of labor is worth the end result.
Taking some comfort items from your home helps; a favorite pillow, socks, some candles, etc. Whatever will take you to a peaceful and comfortable place helps! It will make the moments more comfy and like home too!
I know people who have had Prince playing when they gave birth, or a favorite melody; WHATEVER WORKS!!!! Be blessed and congrats!
2006-11-07 06:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prepared myself for the worst..and made myself think that I was going to be in excruciating pain and that I was gonna be in labor for 18 hours...well- it ended up not being so bad...the pain was ok..and I was only in labor for 4 hours...I never had an epidural..but I've heard that they work great...so make sure if thats what you want then you get one! It's important that you are comfortable so do what you can to make that happen...I found too that and ipod full of soothing music works good too! It keeps your mind off of whats going on...
2006-11-07 06:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Labor and delivery are hard thats why it's not calleed peaches and cream. Remeber you have many options like an epidural if you are having difficulty with the pain. Otherwise when it is all over and the baby is in your arms and your crying likea baby yourself it is all forgotten. I have had the best and the worst delivery and when i saw my child's face it was all worth it. try not to be to scare just let nature take it's course.
2006-11-07 06:00:53 · answer #11 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋