i know her for 5 years. i use to hangout with her all the time. in college outside the college and almost all the time, people were thinking that we are in a relationship, but it was noting more than a friendship. 1 day she asked me if i like her and i said yes as a friend. after that she started acting strange all the sudden, and she stoped calling me and stoped spending time with me, when i asked her what is wrong she said she is busy with school. I told her that it is fine and I really understand her situation. any ways i stoped calling her and stoped spending time with her as she wanted me or as she was showing. after a month she called me the other day but I was at work so I couldn't pick up the phone, next day I called her but she did not pick up her phone. Today I saw her at school, she looked so sad and upset, and she was harldly talking to me. I walked her to her class and she was quite and she was not talking. why is she acting stupid? what should i do?
2006-11-07 05:48:03 · 21 answers · asked by Nick J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think she liked you as more than a friend and you shot her down. The last thing to do in a situation like that is stop talking to the girl because then she thinks that it's all her fault that you aren't talking to her. She's sad because she got her heart kind of broken by the person she considered her best friend. If you don't like her, you don't like her, but let her gently. She isn't the one acting stupid honey, you are. Especially since youcouldn't tell that she really liked you. I think she got embarassed whe you told her no basically, you didn't like her so she hid from you. Then, she thought she was a horrible person because you didn't call her. Then, when she gets up the courage to call you, you guys don't get a chance to talk. Just go up to her and say, I want us to still be friends and you're really important to me so I hope we can start talking and hanging out because I miss you.
2006-11-07 05:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually she got hurt by ur answer. May be she was not taking u in the same manner as were u as a frnd. perhaps she liked u a lot and didnt expected that u would answer her like this.she asked u that do u like her that shows she likes u alot and may be she is in love with u.she was annoyed with the answer that u treated her just as a frnd.so she didntmade u any calls.but one day she would perhaps missed u a lot and due to any reason u might havnt picked up the phone and thought that u have ended all the relationship and when u called uo she must be very fierce mood.thats all.
what u need is just meet her once anyhow and talk to her clearly about all misunderstandings and what u think for her. and u never took her like that way.and she should spoil her mood becox of all this.u have empathy that means u can understand what she feels.all the best
this is human nature especially girl's nature.
not stupid reaction
try to resolve things
2006-11-07 14:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by sonia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that she was hoping that you would say that you liked her more than a friend. She probably had a crush on you for a long time and now since she asked you and you said as a friend it made her feel bad because she really likes you. But I think that you should try to talk to her to get a good understanding. And don't stop calling her just because she stop calling you because that's probably making it worse than what it is. Good luck!
2006-11-07 13:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this account is accurate, she obviously wants more out of the relationship. If you want to take it to the next level and make it intimate, its now or never. If you don't want her as a girlfriend, try explaining to her that you don't have the same feelings but you would be very hurt if you lost her friendship. Do this in person, not on the phone. If she gives you the ultimatum of girlfriend or nothing, then she is not your true friend, take nothing, don't get trapped.
Good luck
2006-11-07 13:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not acting stupid, She' wants you more than a friend, but that is up to you. I have done that with my past best friend and it was a very long and hard journey. We dated off and on in college and now we both work. I graduated first and he's still in school at night and loves me still. I no longer like him like that, but he hooks up with another girl and I feel jealous! But we are still best friends. But I thinks she wants more attention than that. We both graduated high school together and became lovers after, but is hard now. I always want to pretend we are, but it will never happen: All because I wanted the same thing she wanted the ATTENTION! So, don't worry its a faze, but let her know that you'll always be their for one another and that its for the best cause you don't want to ruin your friendship. I hope everything works out!
2006-11-07 14:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by deadgrl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has some serious feelings for you. You obviously don't feel the same way but, you do care. Nothing a woman likes more than talking about her feelings. Take her out for coffee or something and talk. Let her get it off her chest and be supportive and kind. Good luck. I lost my bestfriend because I didn't feel the same way about him as he did me. Don't let it ruin your friendship by not talking about things. The question will linger on if you don't hash it out now.
Good luck
2006-11-07 13:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by ploobis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she had more in mind with you than friendship and you hurt her feelings. you told her what she asked,she just wanted a different answer, tell her that you are sorry that you hurt her and that you like her but not the way she wants you to,, so many times GOOD friends start dating and if things go wrong they never speak again,, tell her you value her friendship and wouldn't want to jeopardize it by being serious. hopefully she will understand and remain friends with you ,GOOD LUCK
2006-11-07 13:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by MissMonk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's disappointed that you told her you only like her as a friend. Obviously she likes you more than that and wants to be your girlfriend, but since you implied not, she has been avoiding you. Apologize to her and ask if you can help get things back on track.
2006-11-07 13:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should spend less time trying to figure out some girl's moodiness and more time on your studies. If she refuses to talk and goes around looking sad and upset, why is that your problem?
2006-11-07 13:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh man if you like her tell her if not explain it to her and again i think that your friend already like you when you say i like you as a friend it a shock for her. and again it normal just tell her that you was really busy no time to go out sorry about it, and no time you guy will be able friend. but first talk with her ok HOPE THIS HELP HAVE A WONDERFUL TIME LOL
2006-11-07 13:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by mike2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋