how can i tell a sister?

Question

my sis has me over for visit some times every time she get's something new she love to show it off i want to tell her so bad that her house looks like a 1960's thrift shop all her closet's are full with junk she has two are three of each every animal figurerine on the earth all her wall's are covered with picture from every garage sale in town she has no morer space on her wall's she lives in a two bedroom small house and when you enter the door you have to squeez your way in the door b/c of all the garage sale furniture she only have a little trail down the liveing room and hall way and you have to walk sideway's in order to get from one room to the next i fear for her safety b/c if a fire break out in her house she will be in trouble she think's her home is so much better then anyone's just because she has all this stuff how can i tell her that she is putting her life in danger with all this old junk?don't want to hurt her feeling

not asking for opinion on my spelling if you want to say something smart stop hideing behind the pc and please don't answer

Answer 1

You can start by talking about HGTV and how you love watching shows on it. Then slide in the the topic of design organization, how it completely changed the room. You can tell your sister that you'd be glad to help out if she wants to reorganize and redecorate.

Answer 2

I think some of these previous answers miss the point. Obviously this is your opinion (though if your description is accurate, it would probably be most people's opinion) as far as her "look" is going. Some people like thrift the store look and some don't (same even goes for clothes).

If your sister asks your opinion, then you can tell her that you like a different style better.

But I totally understand the safety concern. Not everything is safe, and sometimes second-hand is dangerous. She could be cherishing items that will make her sick one day. The figurines or older furniture items could have lead-based paint. Appliances could have electrical problems.

Is there anyone who's style she admires? Maybe you could try to use that person as a guide for her. Maybe she loves Shabby Chic and just can't pull it off on her own. So you could do a little research on the basics of that style. See what is said about maybe less being more. Then try to work that into a conversation.

This is a really tough one. Usually the only thing that works is for the person to somehow outgrow a style. Or maybe you turn her in to "While You Were Out" or to Nate Berkus on "Oprah."

Answer 3

tell her that her things are nice-but need to be care for and have a place otherwise the eye skims over everything and it just looks like mess.Tell her you think she has a slight shopping disorder-no shame-most of us ladies do shopping therapy,but the one thing she cant buy is room to move.Tell her you care for her safety-and just to picture what the place would look like in fire-where and how could she get out-what would be a burning ball in her way?too bad no neice you could send in with a "misplaced"ball to knock out a wall!

Answer 4

I think the problem is not your sister, it is clearly you? I don't mean to be rude but no one has a perfect house (or very few of us!) so I would not put your values and views on to anyone else. As bad as you may think this sounds, everyone has their own life so respect that. Look to yourself for the issue which you obviously have. For example, you may not like it if people who read this point out that you do not use correct spelling or grammar?? I bet you would take offense at that, like your sister would to your interference.

Answer 5

It's your sister's house so it's none of your business. Do you want her telling you how to have things in your home??? If she's happy, leave her alone!

Answer 6

If it makes her happy what harm is it to anyone else? Also, spell check, seriously!