Do people really understand Transgendered souls?

Answer 1

I am sorry, but I suspect that the general person does NOT understand the problem, and it is a very real problem. I cannot imagine hating my body...but that is exactly what happens to these unfortunate souls, and then they are ridiculed, hated, etc. because of stupidity. The day has come for all to put down this bias and realize that there ARE others who have real problems that, in general, we do not have, and will not have. This problem is born with us, it is NOT something that is a choice. My heart goes out to all those who are so unhappy with themselves as they were born. I only hope that they can change to whatever they really need to find happiness...we all deserve a chance, don't we?

Answer 2

i have read as much as i can about this trying to understand
what i am, what is wrong, why i feel this way, how come it happens to me etc
for the past three years or more i have been studying every thing i can find to work it out
but feel i will never really fully understand it
i just except it and try to live my life the way i feel i should have always started it
i know this may simplify everything but i just feel
i was born a girl with a penis and that to me is a big birth defect

how that happened
i don't really care
but i would like to know
but it is not the most importantthing to me
i find a lot of people have no idea
what a transgender person is
more alone what or how to understand there souls
so to answer you question no people don't

Answer 3

To be very honest: I doubt most folks do.
As someone who, at one time, thought along those lines I didn't even understand myself. I was in my late teens to mid twentys at the time and it really was giving me a load of problems. Being that I am 61 now you can onlt imagine the problems I was having. In this day and age things are a bit easier but not by much.
If you are a transgender person my heart goes out to you.

Answer 4

I don't think anyone really fully understands the experiences and perceptions of one who does not share their situation ... Gays, Lesbians, Bi-sexuals, Transgender - all our lives and cultures and our treatment by the world are very different. The solution? Telling our stories to one another, it is in learning from one another that we begin to nurture real compassion and understanding.

Answer 5

I doubt it.

I assume you're correctly using 'transgender' (someone who blurs gender lines without hormones or surgery)versus 'transsexual' (someone who changes his/her sex with hormones and surgery); either way, I'll address both.

I think for transgender individuals, it depends on the degree of 'non-assimilation'. When a girl says she wishes she can do manly things, we all vigorously nod our heads and agree with her, because that is what feminism has instilled in us: women can and should be able to do what the boys get to- we should be allowed to be tomboys and wear pants and be sexually independent and on and on. Even with boys, although to a much lesser degree, we're having a revolution that lets them explore aspects of their femininity- a sort of by-product of feminism that has us questioning the socialization of hypermasculine males. Yet if the person goes 'too far' in either behavior, physical appearance, or whatever, then most people just don't get it. In some ways, I think 'extreme' transgender people have it tougher than transsexuals, because people can understand someone wanting to be what they are not (the other sex), and they can accept him/her as the new person. But transgenders blur and mix, not only offending our sensibilities (one of the first classifications you make of someone is determining their gender) and our capacity to acknowledge them (dichotomous language pronouns that make it impossible to address the middle without resorting to 'it'), but our general desire for things to 'line up', so to speak- if a 'man' is going to dress as a woman 24/7, we say, 'he' should go and chop off the non-corresponding parts. We refuse to let it be as is, and that leads to all sorts of misunderstanding and hatred- people unable to categorize transgenders the same way they can easily categorize post-op (or even pre-op) transsexuals as 'he', 'she', or 'tranny' (and other worse names like 'she-male').

For the transsexual soul, I think people are still amazed that someone can be so uncomfortable in their body that they will go to the lengths of time-consuming, expensive, emotionally, physically, and psychologically draining surgery and hormones just to fix it. But it's happening more and more often, and has gotten quite a bit of exposure- not necessarily positive exposure, but enough (Jerry Springer, Dr. 90210, Nip/Tuck, etc.). Most people still barely know about FtM's, but MtF's are quite well-known, and, if religious/moral opinions aren't on hand, most people say 'more power to them', even if they personally find them gross or wacky. So I think there's more understanding for transsexuals.

There are still all sorts of misconceptions to fight, however, from trying to impress upon people that gender identity and sexual orientation are two different things, to assuring people that an FtM isn't trying to get 'male privilege' by transitioning. Some people really do understand, or at least try to, and that's all I ask.

Answer 6

as a Tgirl myself, i have grave doubts as to whether the average person understands what being transgendered really means to the trans community and what we have to go thru to be who we really feel we are. speaking for myself, it was so difficult in the beginning to deal with the emotions, etc. dealing with wardrobe issues, makeup issues, hormonal changes, family issues, not to mention JOB issues ( i was lucky here, i am self employed ). as time has passed and i have learned to "throw" my voice, do my makeup better, dress nicer, walk like a woman (not like a guy wearing heels and a dress), etc. it has gotten so much easier. i cant wait for january of 2007 and i have my facial feminization surgery and then in august....the BIGGIE.....SRS!!!!! and the long road will be over (as far as the "transition" is concerned, the daily struggles will always be there.).

Answer 7

I don't believe so. I am a crossdresser but I could not imgine hating my body so much that i would seek surgery to correct it. I always say to those that mock the tg community to spend a week as one of us and you would understand a little better.

Answer 8

no they just don't understand, it's like going up to someone whose just lost an arm and saying sorry about the arm i know how you feel, well how can you know how they feel you've still got 2 arms. Some People say they understand us, but they don't, their not going through it.

Answer 9

not too many it appears. times are changing for those who are tg/ts/tv/cd though. the future is better than the past as well.

Answer 10

No such thing, just confused people.