HELP - those who answered my last Q will know that I have a best friend (male). "something nearly happened" between him and another of his friends and i didn't know whether to say that I he shouldn't let her take advantage... new problem,
I didn't say anything ok...
Me and him have been saying for ages how we'd move in together in a few years whilst he goes through uni. She rang him last night and asked him to move in with her. In his credit he didn't say a) that she could move in with me and him or b) that he'd move in with her.
Now he's asking if she could move in with us, I don't really know her well - but i know her well enought to know I don't want to move in with her. But I dunno how to tell him this - and I'm scared that he'll take it the wrong way ... or prefer to move in with her over me. At the moment all that i really have to aim for is the thought of us moving in and I don't want to lose that
Do I say anything? its going to come up again soon and i dunno what to say/how
2006-11-07 04:55:46 · 7 answers · asked by Bella Donna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk about it! Let your feelings be known about not wanting her to move in with you. Don't be shy about it, or the next thing will be that she's in your home. Explain that you really enjoy things the way they are and ask if he feels the same way. The conversation will go from there.
2006-11-07 05:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that you don't know her well and you don't feel comfortable with her moving in with you guys.Tell him maybe if you knew her better you would but for right now you like the way things are. Ask him to give you a a month or two to think about it.
2006-11-07 13:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest! If he leaves you over that and goes and moves in with her then it is better now than after he has more time to break your heart. Have faith in yourself, if he chooses you, then you were right, if he does not, then he was not good enough for you anyway and would have ended up hurting you worse in the future. Fear only not being true to your self, not of others and what they think of you.
2006-11-07 13:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you like him. In that case tell him no.
Which is worse?
1) She moves in and you spend your nights falling asleep to the sounds of them having sex however muted it might be.
2) Letting him go live with her while you find another roommate and keep the friendship alive.
Break it to him nicely or you are going to be stuck with # 1. Not to mention getting caught up in all their drama.
2006-11-07 13:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of if she hasnt already moved in and you are having these feelings now then it will get much worse if you let her move in on your territory. Since you are in a mutual financial agreement then you should look out for yourself. Look for another roomie?
2006-11-07 13:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you really feel about him ? you should talk this out. If it going to be a problem then stop it now are you will later when you reget it worse.
2006-11-07 13:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i would capitalize on the problem and call Jerry Springer right away.
2006-11-07 12:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by texasflyer553 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋