My girlfriend is very insecure and when I lost my job last week, I asked for some time to reflect on the situation but did not fully explain the situation to her. She thought I was out doing something bad and late that night when her exhusband called after a fight with his current wife, they ended up getting together. She felt bad and told me, and I now want him to fess up to his wife as well but he says that if she finds out that he will post pictures of my girlfriend (his exwife) on the internet of when she was posing naked back when they were married. He also threatens my professional license and any other dirt he thinks he can dig up, makes no difference if it is true or not. That is like stabbing me in the back and then continueing to twist the knife. OUCH.Forgot to mention that my girlfriend is 8 months pregant with my child. Triple OUCH.
2006-11-07 04:27:26 · 21 answers · asked by drbrian247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dump her and tell his wife. Then file for custody of your kid.
2006-11-07 05:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you are sitting on a minefield! If this is ever going to work you need to make sure your girlfriend severs all ties with her ex. I am assuming you already have severed all ties with this supposed friend. If it wasnt for the fact that she is about to drop your baby any day I would say just walk away. But I think you need to at least see her through the delivery. Then have the most serious conversation about the direction of your relationship. Insecure or not, she dealt the lowest of blows. Whatever his mess is with his current wife you both need to stay out of that. If he is the snake he totally appears to be, your girlfriend is not the only one he runs to. He will be found out for the louse he is eventually. Not your problem. In the mean time get yourself some professional help, as this problem is far from resolved and there will be repercussions for some time to come. You will probably need individual and couples counseling if you want to work through this and make this relationship work. For the sake of that unborn baby I sure hope you can somehow make sense of this.
2006-11-07 12:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your girl friend and believe the two of you can make a life together work give her the second chance. At least she was honest and upfront about what happened with the ex husband. The two of you should also try to get some help because there are some obvious trust issues, weather their should be or not. Second it's not your place to dictate the honesty of your friends relationship with his wife. Obviously he is dishonest, and has proven through his threats he's not really your friend. Walk away, mind your own business and focus on what matters your current relationship. You don't need a friend who will lie, and destroy your own, to keep what he is already destroying from falling apart.
2006-11-07 12:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has issues and she is still obviously not free of her ex-husband. They are still playing games with each other and you are being dragged into their drama.
Personally, I'd find a new girlfriend. But, if you want to stay with her she has to cut-off all communication with him other than what is needed for anything to do with kids (if they had any together). And don't try to extract revenge by telling his wife. That's his problem, not yours. His true self will eventually reveal itself without your help.
2006-11-07 12:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow we should save this letter and send it to every guy/girl that is thinking of stealing a married person from their partners. It is also living proof that what goes around comes around. Oh yes as for your problem, seems you just keep digging your self in deeper by your own actions
2006-11-07 12:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her and make sure the child really is yours. Then you can arrange custody in court. Send an anonymous letter to the guys wife about the affair and to check on him. It sounds harsh, but that affair is already messing all your lives up. Be the first one to take action.
2006-11-07 12:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite a mess got yourself into when you hooked up with you friends ex-wife... a man deserves a woman who will be faithful thru better or worse - obvious she can’t handle the bad…. Get out and demand a paternity test ... I wouldn’t be so sure it's your child... I’d tell his current wife to… she deserves to know…
2006-11-07 12:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by string1dm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would say that u and your girlfrined should not talk to eachother and that u and ur best friend should still talk to eachother and hang out because he probably knew u had a girlfriend but ur girlfriend knew she was with u so i would be mad at her more than the friend.
2006-11-07 12:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a mess. Talk to your girl friend look her in her eyes and tell her what you feel about her getting together with her Ex husband
Rest of it is all crap. Empty barrels make a lot of noise.
2006-11-07 12:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with her and get full custody of the kid. Keep all records of every single conversation and im willing to bet that the courst will decide to in your favour over someone who likes to blackmale.
2006-11-07 12:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by Brian T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try your best to work it out. If that don't work then you should break up with with her but in a nice way. then when she has the baby you should be the best parent you can and stay friends with the mom.
2006-11-07 12:40:06 · answer #11 · answered by Spongey G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋