im 16 years old and im 9 weeks pregnant, im going to keep the baby, and when i told my boyfriend he broke up with me. i was put in a foster home when my mom said she didnt want me. im getting alot of help but i still dont know if i can do it.
2006-11-07 04:25:16 · 21 answers · asked by 16 and pregnant 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I was pregnate with my first baby at 16 and gave birth at 17.,only I had a very understanding mother who loved and still loves me very much,and my boyfriend at the time which is now my husband was not against it at all! He is also 8 years older than me,I don't know if that has anything to do with it as to why he didn't desert me.
I am now 23 years old and have three children and am still married to my man. I don't know?...Was your boyfriend young like you? .if so maybe he just doesn't want to give up being a teen... I can't believe it though..your actually in a foster home ? e-mail me so I can help you out..melis3k@hotmail.com,then maybe you can instant message me.
2006-11-07 05:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by ~*meli$sa*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to focus on getting good care and learning everything you can about taking care of babies. That way you'll feel like you know what you're doing. It will make you feel much better to know that you can handle it the basics.
There are support groups for teen moms, i know justmommies.com has a forum section just for teen moms. Look there and talk to some other girls about how they handle everything.
Also make sure you get enough education; get your GED if you want to be done before the baby is born, or stay in school and graduate on time. That will help a lot in the future when you need to support the child.
After the baby is born, you can also try to get child support from the father. It doesn't matter if he breaks up with you or not; it's still his kid too.
When one of my high school friends had a baby, she moved in with another single mom. They both worked, and whichever one was off at the moment watched the two kids. Together they made enough to support everybody and got all the housework and childcare done, too. That might be an option as well.
Good luck!
2006-11-07 04:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you can do it. First off go out and get a full time job! When the baby gets here get child support, he helped make that child he can help pay. I moved out of my foster parents house and I have lived on my own well with my children since I was 15. If I could do it on my own hell anyone can do it! As long as you stay in school (or homeschool thats what I did) so you get your education and you get a job to pay for all of those diapers. You will be just fine. Get that positive "i can do it" attitude and you can do anything..
2006-11-07 05:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from being scared about having a baby at 16 as i had a baby at 16 also. It is hard but you have to be strong to manage it all. My baby is now almost 16 and i love him with all of my heart and don't regret having him at all. My husband adopted him and we had 3 more wonderful children together so it really does all work out. If you need to talk please message me. I can help you alot on this subject.
2006-11-07 04:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well congratulations on keeping your baby .It takes alot of courage to do what you are doing.I have to tell you though I was a young mom myself and it is not going to be easy for you. You are not going to have much of a life and forget about dating anyone for a few years. You can always give the baby up for adoption there are alot of loving couples out there that can't have babies of their own. But whatever you decide to do you have to finish school and go to college. You need to get a good job to provide financially for this baby. I wish you all the best and you and your baby will be in my prayers .Good luck sweetie. and remember life is always a blessing it's a gift from God.
2006-11-07 05:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by mary3127 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do it hon. My mum had me at 16 and the best thing was that she was a young mom who I could relate to. I remember in high school other girls couldn't talk to their mom's about anything and I could talk to my mom about everything!! Be strong. And I'm sorry your mom didn't want you. Shame on her. I hope you never repeat the cruel things your mom has done to you on your child. You can do it. It won't be easy but you will have the greatest gift in life that you can get. A beautiful little baby. if you really doubt your ability to raise a child then consider placing the child for adoption. There are a lot of great couples out there who want to adopt a child because they can't have their own. Best of luck and God bless you.
2006-11-07 04:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be a very tough road for you if you decide to keep this baby. You are very young and haven't even grown up yourself. Have you discussed the possibility of giving this child up for adoption to a couple who can afford to raise it/love it/guide it. It is an option for you, it won't be easy but at your age it might be the best possible solution to this. You will have to be absolutely sure that you are willing to give up hanging out with friends, dating, etc. to devote all your time and effort to raising a child. No one can make this decision for you, but for the child it deserves the best chance to have a normal happy life and so do you. We all make mistakes and can learn from them. Good luck and please talk to someone who can help you determine what is best for both of you.
2006-11-07 05:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't do it then I really suggest you think of the baby and give him/her a family that can do it. Keeping a baby with no job, no education, no home is selfish. Look into open adoption so you can a part of the childs life and still finish school.
2006-11-07 04:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow.. well first of all good for you for keeping the baby... It shouldn't die .. it wasn't its fault you got pregnant.. and second of all.. please don't tell me that when your mom heard you were pregnant she ditched you right? Oh jeez i hope not. But anyways.. As long as you keep your eyes in front and don't look in past then i think you'll do fine.. with enough help and things then you should live through it..
Good Luck and Congrats on your baby! You made a really good choice..
2006-11-07 04:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by ValleyFlower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are even telling the truth, then I'd put the baby up for OPEN ADOPTION. Then when the baby grows up she/he will know that you just can't take care of him/her, but you still love him/her. If you aren't telling the truth, then you need to get a life.
2006-11-07 06:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋