Let's say you're a hot babe and you have a good friend who gets put down by people for being unattractive. And she has low self-esteem and gets really upset about being ugly. She doesn't hate you but she is envious of your looks. How do you talk to her and cheer her up? Since you're a hot chick, you can't say "I know how you feel" because she wouldn't believe you.
2006-11-07 04:24:11 · 15 answers · asked by petals 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To people who accuse me of being full of myself. Well, I have to be as honest as possible in describing the problem so I can get the best answers, don't I?
*I* don't think I'm attractive and a hot babe. It's my friend who thinks that. *I* don't think she's ugly. It's my friend who thinks that. She doesn't tell it to my face but she blogs about it, and it makes me feel bad and I don't know how to talk to her about it.
How do you talk to someone when they say "I'm so ugly." And when you say, "No you're not," they say "You won't understand cos you're the pretty one."
2006-11-07 05:21:57 · update #1
To all others who have given me constructive answers, thank you. Please keep them coming cos they help. =)
2006-11-07 05:22:55 · update #2
Look, if you really care about her, take her under your wing. Help her. Make her your "project". I'm sure you've seen those makeover shows, just tell her you want her to look and feel hot cause she's a good person, so you're going to help her. Share all your best fashion tips with her. Help her make a plan plan to save money for beauty products, trips to the salon, and most importantly nice clothes, and just do your very best to make her look as hot as possible and feel good about herself!
And say things to her like, "You really ARE hot, you just need to do a few things so that everyone else sees it, cause not everyone knows you like I do." If she's overweight, exercise with her and help her plan a better diet. If she has bad hair, make a fun night of dyeing it or go to the salon together. And remember, a little carefully applied makeup goes a long way, especially eye-liner and mascara. Before too long, not only you will be hot, but she'll be hot as well, and even if she's just beyond help, at least she'll FEEL hot, and that's what's important. And good for you for caring! : )
2006-11-07 04:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You've described yourself as: a hot babe, hot chick, attractive, who's envied for her looks. You describe your friend as unattractive, low self-esteem, ugly and envious of your looks. Why aren't you running with the other hot babes and chicks? Afraid you'll blend in with the crowd? Apparently it's better to find an ugly "friend" to hang around with. Here's how to cheer her up - cut her loose and let her find a true friend who will like her no matter what she looks like.
2006-11-07 12:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember her of how special she is and that not all the time the physical matters, my own experience has convinced me of this, I've met handsome men and are real jerks. She has to see her best qualities as a person and be happy with herself, once she becomes happy with herself that self-esteem will raise making her more optimist and value the person she is not for her looks but for her personality. Good luck!
2006-11-07 12:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by placita91 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the truth is that you can do so much and no more. it really comes from within, she needs to be comfortable in her own skin and love herself exactly as she is and stop comparing herself to others. it is a fact that some are attractive and some aren't. just be there for her in every way possible. don't try to change her just help her to accept herself as she is.
2006-11-07 12:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anna Banana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let her borrow your clothes and makeup and if she still doesnt feel better than you guys should go out to dinner and play games and invite friends over cuz friends wont ever say anything! then if it still goes on tell her look....there's nothing I can do to help you so you ither need to get over the fact that YOU think your ugly or just become lesbo then you wont have to worry!
2006-11-07 12:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by Cool Chick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds that your the ugly one here. Stop getting up your own **** and become a proper friend. If you don't know how to, then bugger off and leave her alone.
2006-11-07 12:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your instance, you should get away from your friend because by the looks of it, you're so full of yourself; I won't be suprised if you caused her 'depression' in the first place.
2006-11-07 12:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by Maya 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
show him/her their plus points & tell abt ur negative points or limitations (think hard, u'r sure 2 find some).
it won't solve anything, which is bcoz there is no real prob here, ....but it will certainly help them feel better, & will soon get over it.
2006-11-07 12:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by hdavuluri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go down on her. She will feel happy that an attractive person in having sex with her.
2006-11-07 12:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a makeover might be a little patreotic, there isnt a lot you can do only listen and try to be yourself
2006-11-07 12:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋