why do wives make you feel like you do nothing and they do everything? i am busy all day and sleep only 6?

Question

hours a night. constantly cleaning up at home and working yet they never give you credit for what you do only complain about what is not done.

Answer 1

Let your wife know that you work as hard as you can, and that you'd really like her to let you know when what you do helps, when she's grateful and so on. You're right, it isn't fair that she does this to you. I believe that everyone should help, and she should help you with the house too. She also needs to be thankful for all you do, and to show it to you. I think it's great that you help her out so much! I wish more men would. Thank you from me for being a great example! :)

Answer 2

I am guilty of doing the same thing to my husband so I am going to tell you why I do it and maybe this will give you some insight on the situation. We have been married for a while, and between work and children we are to tired for each other. I don't feel like he even notices me unless his uniform's aren't clean or dinner isn't ready on time or the kids are making to much noise and he can't sleep. I miss the closeness and strong desire we once had for each other. the just because I love you flowers. He's there but I still feel alone. Well any way you get the picture I hope I helped!

Answer 3

If you are a hard worker and are the soul provider then your wife should be quiet and leave you alone. Now if she also works then the household responsibilities should be shared. Talk with her...communication will help you get your feelings off your chest. Some women do not realize that their mouths cause their husbands a lot of headache, which can add to more headaches in the home.

Answer 4

All this and you still have time to play on the computer?....I am sure your a very helpful husband.....Mine wants me to thank him every time he does something too......For example he will take the clothes out of the dryer and hang them up.....Perhaps even put them away.......WHOOPY that was finishing up one friggin' load out of the seven that had been done that day and the twenty that had been done that week.......So I will say thanks for ALL the help......Come on now!
He dos try really hard and I do actually thank him when he pitches in. I know he works hard but you know what so do I.....It's a give and take.....Don't expect thank you's for work that should have been done anyways.....The good cleaning fairy does not visit my house very often and I am sure she is not on your doorstep either....

Answer 5

Your wife is probably just feeling overwhelmed with all she has to do. It doesn't really mean that you don't do anything. She just can't really see what you contribute right now because she's stuck on how she's feeling.

When she's feeling overwhelmed say "I know how you feel. I get tired sometimes too. Just tell me what I can do to help you". Then DO IT. She can't and won't complain if you just do what she specifically asked you to do.

Answer 6

Do what I did. Just come home from work and sit on your *** for a few nights. Then she'll see how much ISN'T getting done because you're the one that takes care of it.

Answer 7

You mean why does YOUR wife make you feel like you do nothing?? Keep everyone else out of this. Sounds like YOU need to stop taking her for granted and show her YOUR appreciation.

Simple.

Answer 8

hmmmmmmmm, now do YOU give her credit for what she does? Perhaps you both need to recognize each other for your combined efforts. Sounds like it's time to stir your pot with communication, before it boils over. ;)

Answer 9

When someone does that they are either feeling like they don't do enough or they are looking for recognition of what they do.

Answer 10

don't yell to your wife... make her sensible to feel your presense in what you do at home. things will change.