IM going through a really bad divorce,why when friends and family come over, i hide and scared??

Question

paranoid.

Answer 1

U feel so overwhelmed with everything going on.. I understand needing the family and friends by your side, but then again u really just wanna be by yourself for a while huh? I went through one myself and thats all i really wanted was to be alone.. I had a son involved with this so it was hard for me to do that, but i knew i had to keep movin on.. I had him to care for.. Good luck to u and godbless u

Answer 2

Why hide? I'm certain it's no secret you're going through a bad divorce. It happens. Sometimes that's just life. There's no reason to hide when friends or family come over. Stand up for what YOU believe in & let it lie at that. I wouldn't say you were paranoid, but more or less it sounds to me you're insecure. Affraid of what someone will say to you because of the divorce. It's none of their business, it's between you & your soon to be ex husband. My advice should someone bring up your divorce is to politely ask to change the subject. If you want to talk about it, then do so, but don't allow anyone else to make you feel be-littled or small because of it.

Answer 3

I was in your shoes 4 years ago when I was going through a horrible separation that led to a divorce. I felt like I needed to show a "happy" face even though I was miserable and depressed in the inside. Part of me felt ashamed that after 15 years of marriage, I was failing at being a wife. Even though it wasn't my fault the my husband left me for another woman, I still felt ashamed and guilty and I didn't want anyone to see that. After several months of depression, I finally broke free from feeling bad and ashamed of myself and I allowed my close family members and friends in. Once I opened up and showed them my fears, my hurt, insecurities and struggles, I was shocked at how much support I received from them.

You're not fooling anyone by hiding. Be real. Divorce happens and it's ok to let those closest to you see your pain and fears. It's ok to grieve the loss of the relationship. The more "real" you are, the more you'll get over it. The more you hide, the longer you stay in hiding.

Let those closest to you strengthen you and comfort you so that you can heal, grow and move on. Good luck!

Answer 4

There's no such thing as a GOOD divorce. There's no need for you to hide or be scared. If you're friends/family are coming over, they're probably wanting to help you thru this miserable time. Give them that opportunity. You'll all feel better for it!
Best wishes to you. There IS life after divorce! ;)

Answer 5

I don't know the circumstances behind your divorce. But when you separate your self from someone, it can take some time to feel whole again. You have to learn who you are on your own w/out your partner. Its a growing and healing process. And do you feel as though you have failed because you couldn't save the marriage? If so, get to the root of that and know it takes two to get married and it takes two to stay married. And if neither or either party isn't giving into compromise...it will take its toll on the relationship...regardless of fault.

Answer 6

Part of you might be afraid that you failed in their eyes. Another part of you might fear that they will verbally attack you for your divorce. If they are really your friends, they will stick by you. Open up to them, and give them the opporunity to be there for you. Yes, some might leave, but the ones that stay can be a REAL support system for you! :) I wish you all the best.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Yes you might feel you are doing something wrong, and that your friends a relatives are going to tell you exactly that, but you have to trust, first yourself, that you are doing what is best for you, and second, your real love ones to talk to them, and let them help you trough this
Best Wishes

Answer 9

You are going through depression. You may want to go and talk to someone quick.

Answer 10

paranoid, yes you are.