I have or had a new male friend. We have been dating for the past 2 months. My ex boyfriend came over and gave me a new cell phone (my number my account just a new headset) My man is so pissed at me. He will not talk to me anymore. I am soooo hurt. He was a perfect guy. What can I do?
2006-11-07 04:09:48 · 21 answers · asked by Vell g 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No it's not 'cheating' to accept a gift from your ex, but it sure isn't a good idea. Think about what that looks like to your man. Give the headset back to your ex, or toss it, and tell your man you made a mistake, you are sorry, that you won't have any contact with your ex again no matter what. (And then DON'T!)
Hopefully your man will at least listen to you and try to understand the situation. Unless there's more to this than you are saying, your man has hurt feelings himself. You'll need to apologize and see if there's a way to help him understand you just made a mistake that's all. But if he won't listen, and still won't talk to you anymore because of this, then he's being very immature and just kick him to the curb, he's not as perfect as you think.
I understand you are sooooooo hurt. You need to understand how your own actions brought that on. Grow up a bit yourself hun. Try apologizing to your man and see if you can make things right between the two of you again. If it doesn't work, then chalk this up to experience and learn from your mistake so it won't repeat in future relationships.
Myst
2006-11-07 05:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Myst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your New Beau must be young, it is very immature to be angry or jealous over such a trivial thing, if you and your ex have maintained a friendship after splitting up that is fine. The call is on you on whether you should accept gifts from him or not, but I do not see why it should be a problem if he gives them, as long as it is strictly as a friend. Perhaps your Present BF feels intimidated or upset that he has not been the one to do this for you. Either way the call is more yours. Ask yourself if your ex still wants an intimate relationship or to be just friends. If friends start including him in doing things with your new BF and reassure your BF that there is no comparison and that your ex will always be your friend. It is mature and honest thing to do. In time the jealousy will pass. Mature guys can handle this friendship with exes. But you have to be honest with yourself first and know that friendship is all that is on your mind and his, otherwise you need to cut ties with him for any future relationships sake.
2006-11-07 13:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wheels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't accept gifts from an ex. Even if your intentions were pure your ex's may not have been. If I were your new mate I would feel a bit suspicious too. Return the phone to the ex and make it clear to your new guy that you returned the phone and you will accept nothing else from your ex and that you are sorry you unintentionally hurt your new guy!
Good Luck...I'm glad you found someone that's perfect for you!
2006-11-07 12:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, never call anyone 'perfect.' Secondly, I believe that exes don't make very good friends, so you may want to cut the ex loose. You cannot expect your lovers to accept you being friends with exes. It doesn't usually work out, someone gets hurt. Usually one of you is still attracted to the other, and even if you're not, your current lover most likely won't feel comfortable with your ex in your life. Hey, life isn't Burger King where you get to have it your way.
2006-11-07 12:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's cheating, BUT why is your ex giving such a gift.
I also think you ened to try to talk to the BF, he might have a few insecurities if a gift from an ex gets him all worked up that bad. I mean this guy is an EX for a reason right...........
2006-11-07 13:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! It isn't cheating. You have to turn that **** new cell phone!!! It sounds like your ex, is trying to get back together with you by buying love. Call your new friend. And explain him the circumstance. That's all that you have to do!!! Good luck! :)
These are trying times!!!
2006-11-07 13:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by ★•☆pяєSs ► þℓåЧ™☆•★ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't cheating.
But I wonder why he gave it to you? Is there more to it than just a gift? Was there a reason for it -- your birthday, or someone gave it to him and he just wanted to get rid of it, or did he buy it especially for you?
Nevertheless, I would be concerned that the new man is a bit too controlling.
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2006-11-07 12:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not of said that was cheating, if your ex wants to give you a present, whats wrong with that? you will have to tell your current male friend to stop being so jealous, and that there were nothing in it, if he can't accept that then I am afraid he probably isn't for you.
2006-11-07 12:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by hotbabes_tracey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of that phone and never talk to your ex again. Is sounds like your ex is trying to get back together with you by buying love.
2006-11-07 12:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have to agree you should give it back. Maybe the guy was trying to be nice but I doubt it. He probably wanted something for it. Tell your new man you are sorry and try to prove it. You could change your number and not tell your ex.
2006-11-07 12:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by miss allison 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋