I have a issue as of lately I got in touch with my mom a few months ago i had not talked to her in a long time and me and my kids have been to see her a few times and my oldest son seems to want to stay there last time we went down and my husband who i have problems with came to pick us up he did not want to go he wanted to stay it takes forever to get him in the truck to come home why is this and if he wants to stay should i let him...?
2006-11-07 04:08:08 · 10 answers · asked by ncgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
should i move with my kids to my moms so he can be happy and if i stay where i am will if cause him to have emotional issues?
2006-11-07 04:09:24 · update #1
ok the reason for me not communicating with my mom had nothing to do with her not wanting to talk to me i was taken from her when i was very young and my dad did not allow me to talk to her .....
2006-11-07 04:19:21 · update #2
I think it's a good thing that your son has a connection with his grandma... I think if your mom is happy to see you and her grandkids and wants to be there then let her, and let your son stay the night with her...There is nothing wrong with that...Let your relationship grow stronger between you and her..I don't know all the details but I'm going by what your telling,,,So I would definatly let my kids spens time with their grandma, But not all the time, Only sometimes...About moving in with her....Don't know about that....It all depends on what your home life is like with your husband..If you and your husband is getting along, and not arguing then i would not move , But if all you two do is fight and argue..yeah i would probally leave for a little while and decide what's best for the kids..Good Luck!!!
2006-11-07 04:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in??
Kids sometimes need to be told no, and moving in with her only to please him is not the answer.
he loves her because she probably treats him well while he is there. Its a visit. Hes there for a while then he goes home. You have no idea how she would treat him if you all were living there. She may do things (discipline, etc) that you dont agree with and then the S H I T would hit the fan.
Besides, your relationship with her isnt the most stable, since you have only been talking for a few months. There was a reason for your fallout in the first place, right?
2006-11-07 12:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first ask yourself some questions. Are you neglecting him at home because you're too preoccupied with you and your husbands problems? Does your mother spoil him? Does he have more freedom to do as he pleases at your mother's? Does your mother give him constant attention? Is there abuse between you and your husband? Does your son witness either verbal or physical abuse? Is he verbally or physically abused? you need to consider all of this. Does your son want to live with 'grandma' because she constantly gives him what he wants and lets him do as he pleases? or does he want to stay because he feels safer there than at home with his father? Do you feel safe with your husband? If your child is old enough to express himself through words, talk to him. Children understand more than you think. Ask him what it is about 'gramas' that makes him want to stay. communication is key. But if there is no doubt that there is verbal or physical abuse, leave now. That type of behavior, even if it isn't directed toward the child leaves emotional scars. Good luck.
2006-11-07 12:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ophelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one to call.First,you need to weigh the reason for no contact,was that your choice or hers?Is there a reason your son feels more comfortable there?Are there troubles where you live now?If your mom wants you to move in with her,and she has the best interest of the children in mind,and you are not happy where you are at,then I say go for it.If you are comfortable with your life as it is,maybe your son could move in with Grandma
2006-11-07 12:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by chanet_rogers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just misses her!There might be a void there that he feels only his grandma can fill.Maybe keeping in touch with your mother and seeing her on a regular basis would smooth everything out.I also think that a mother shouldn't give up her child to no one unless she can't afford to take care of that child.
2006-11-07 12:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by smithnelson99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you n ur husband fight in front of the kids? If you do, he's acting dat way jus so he doesn't hve to go through all dat and witness his parents quarelling.
Or maybe there's a hot girl next door.
I say you talk to him abt it.
2006-11-07 12:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bond girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, there are these amazing things in the English language called commas and periods. Maybe if you could use some of these your question might be a bit more comprehensible.
2006-11-07 12:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Zach S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had issues with my daughter not wanting to go with her father and I later found out it was because she was being mistreated by her step mom. I never forced her to go and I did try to get her to go with him before I found out she was being mistreated. Maybe there is things going on that your child is scared to tell you. My daughter didnt tell me what was going on, it took my oldest son telling me what was happening.
2006-11-07 12:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by cNm114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you kid knows about your problems with your husband, and prefer to stay with new grandma, than to keep witnessing his parents fights
2006-11-07 12:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids ALWAYS want to stay with grandmom and grandpop...they are spoiled there. it's that simple. they can get away with more.
2006-11-07 12:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by flashpro 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋