OK.
He is an online friend i've known for a while, sure we had a little argument but we're both cool now.But now he suddenly completely dissapeared. I sent him hundreds of messages and e-mails , but he quit responding to me. He told me that he just simply wasn't comfortable with getting close with anyone, due to his shy nature, so he asked me to just let go of it. But i can't!
How can i can this friend back bcos i really deeply care about him, he is a lovely, intelligent type, and make him understand that i do accept and love him as he is in kindness.
How am i suppose to change his mind?
He lives in another country so i only communicate with him through e-mails and such.
Please help!
Thanks Everyone very much.
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2006-11-07 04:05:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
actually the fighting bit is bygone absolutely.we're cool .
The thing i fear he doesn't feel comfortable getting closer to me, he's extremely reserved and shy.That's how he kindly explained it to me.......
Ironicaly i find that to be charming!!!
Makes me care about him more!
2006-11-07 04:12:37 · update #1
lola, when you find the answer let me know. i have the same problem. :(( actually mine's not shy at all. he's a model. he likes volunteering and helping people. he told me that he had to cut off things, not just me, because the volunteering and everything that his heart desires makes the ones he love suffer. what damn kind of logic is that huh? im just biding my time now. it has been approximately two to three weeks now. if i still dont hear from him, ill try the email.
you see the thing is, it has to be a conscious effort on his part. we can't take the steps for them. all we can do is be patient enough and be there when they do.
2006-11-09 03:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by abstemious_entity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a dead end street, STOP.
Never get attached to anyone over the internet let alone he is in another country. You have no idea what you are getting into just to have a companion online.
For Goodness sakes this person could be 60 for all you know. He could be from any country out there including Arab countries (many are looking for US friends) and you would never know. He can tell you he is from England and not be. This is playing with FIRE and you can get burned.
I cant believe you have gotten so close to this person that you can have an Argument. He can say anything online and you would never know it is TRUE. He can sound intelligent and lovely but it can all be an act.
Ask yourself, who gets online to find a friend or mate? Is it someone who can not find friends or people to love in real life? They can hide online and act just like acting in a Movie or Play. You are their audience. Once it is no longer fun for them, they move on.
Drop this person and get a life (at home).
2006-11-07 04:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u feel attached coz u think about him alot! stop it and do a real thing! put in ur mind that this person that u r contacting is a penfriend, that means he might not be as u see him online. u might hate him if u come to meet him oneday, believe me!
i'm not saying stop contacting him but look out of the box and put this relation in it's right shape.
2006-11-07 04:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by rularashid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It easily ought to intend that he has thoughts for you and is attempting to permit you already know.... even though it may additionally purely be a term of endearment that he makes use of. i think of this could properly be a style of circumstances the place you ought to ask him quickly out: "Why do you call me "love?" Haha... as awkward as that sounds, you are able to ask it jokingly or tease him approximately it to be sure how he reacts. Do you like him? My stoop is that he likes you:-)
2016-10-03 09:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a penpal for a while in grade ten, and then he started dating this girl who was extremely jealous that he would be writing to another girl. So we quit writing.
It's probably another girl.
2006-11-07 04:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that it can be annoying to fight with someone over the computer because they can so easily ignore you. i think the best thing to do is give him some space and eventually he'll come around. if you write a sincere email and explain that if he wants his space, you will allow it, he will feel and notice that you really do care.
2006-11-07 04:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kell Bell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let the poor guy go... maybe he needs space, or nasasakal na naiilang siya, i guess? Or it can be ayaw niya lang talaga sayo? But the real question was-- Girl, nagkita na ba kayo?! Hindi pa, diba? And you are the one who said that its only the ****** e-mails where you kept in touch... So my advice was palayain mo na yan. Hindi lang siya ang gwpo sa mundong ito, noh! Getz?
2006-11-07 04:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, but "he's just not into you"...time to move on! You can't force a relationship and it's obvious he's moved on since he hasn't responded to your emails. Time to let it go.
2006-11-07 04:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by LizBeth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little space, stop emailing for a little bit. Then send him another note, letting him know that you are still there, that you still care, whenever he is ready to talk to you again.
2006-11-07 04:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He clearly let you know that he does'nt want nothing serious. He just want a friendly relationship. You need to take it that way. You need to shill out. Try to get new friends and please do not try to get that close. You scare them....
2006-11-07 04:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋