My freind is more inclined towards males,but he wants to get rid of this problem,please suggest how he can develops attraction towards female.Are there any tips or ways that would help him to get rid of this thing?
2006-11-07 04:04:56 · 15 answers · asked by sahil 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
He will only end up hurting himself and others in the long run if he doesn't accept himself for what he is. God made sexual attraction a very powerfull thing, and to try to bend or mold God's creation is a blasphemy. I know that you and he have probably been raised to believe that homosexuality is wrong. I firmly believe now that God made his creation good, so having attraction toward and sex with men is his plan. Please don't make the mistakes I and others have made by supressing this, allow yourself to enjoy sex the way God created you to.
2006-11-07 06:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Wanderer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being homosexual is not a problem, it's just how he is. As a gay person myself, I understand that it can be incredibly difficult to deal with accepting oneself as homosexual, but it's natural and there is really nothing that he can do about it.
Think about this: if you're straight (and I'm presuming you are), how difficult would it be for you to stop liking girls and start liking guys? Impossible. The same goes for him. He is homosexual, but remember that he is not JUST a homosexual... he is also a son, a friend, a student (again, a guess), and many, many other things that help to comprise a whole person.
By the way, I know that while he may have tried to play straight in the past, and may continue to do so, he probably will stop at some point and just accept himself as a gay man. It is very stressful to pretend that you are interested in people of a gender that you just don't find sexually attractive. Living a lie can really take its toll.
I heartily suggest that your friend visit a counselor if he's having a lot of trouble with this, or fears that he will be endangered if he comes out. Also, please remember (whatever your religious/personal beliefs) to be there for him. He will need you to be a good friend in whom he can confide and trust. He needs to know that he is normal, and that he is loved.
2006-11-07 07:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is not under his voluntary control - he didn't choose it - rather - IT CHOSE HIM !!!!!
he can always FORCE himself to have intercourse with women - but if they really don't turn him on - then that's not right to do that. You can only be who you are - and that's all. The same goes for the lesbians.
If your buddy finds guys attractive - then he will ALWAYS find them attractive - that's NOT going to change. he might learn to enjoy some vaginas also - but his BRAIN will always react with pleasure & joy when he sees a cute guy. And why NOT????
Young men are very handsome, desirable & alluring - and other men can't help but notice this. - unless they're blind or retarded.
If he wants to explore the charms of women, let him keep having sex with them, all kinds of sex and see how he likes it. He'll know where his inclinations lead him. but there is no magic wand or formula to get rid of his attractions towards guys. that happened cause of his parents & the family dynamic which surrounded him. It's not his fault !!!!!! he need not be ashamed or despair. God made many mysterious things in this universe - and homosexuality is one of them. and it will always exist. it is visceral and intrinsic and comes from within. It is not learned from a book or companions. It comes from his innermost nature & inclinations.
So your friend may learn to enjoy women, but he will never "get rid" of his attractions towards guys.
Now are you clear about this matter ??????????????????????
2006-11-07 06:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by blackbird 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wonder--does he really want to get rid of this "problem" or are you wanting to help him get rid of "it". Being more inclined towards males does not mean he is homosexual, if he is having attraction or sex with females, he is bisexual, not homosexual. There is nothing you can do, it is up to him to decide whether to act upon his own natural desires. Not having sex with men does not stop the attraction.
2006-11-07 04:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the answer you first received is incorrect. Being homosexual is not a learned behavior, nor is it a choice. SOME people do choose to be gay, but in general - and through research you can prove that people are born gay. The reason your friend doesn't "want" to be gay and change his sexual preference is because he knows that there are a lot of bigots out there and that life as a gay person will be more difficult than that of a heterosexual. He can certainly try to change who he is - and he may in fact even start dating women, end up getting married and having children - but unfortunately what will probably end up happening in the future is that his true sexuality will bubble back up to the top of the surface and end up hurting all the people he loves, including his wife and kids if he does end up married w/children. Seek counseling if necessary, but don't try living a lie or changing who you really are just because society tells you it is a sin to be gay. If you do further research in the bible, you will even find that being gay is in fact NOT a sin. Have your friend look deeper inside himself and come to terms with who he really is and not who everyone else thinks he should be.
2006-11-07 04:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by MissyChele 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Since homosexuality has genetic factors, you could even live among woman only and forever without changing your sexuality!
As usually, different sexuality is frighten and not comforting, I realize. I could advise you to try with a psychologist but so you could waste time and money. To you the last choice, accepting and living with pride your different sexuality - despite a continuous fight against prejudices - or hiding your state trying to change your natural inclinations - living a false life with no sexuality -
2006-11-07 04:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think homosexuality is something that you can "get rid of",either you are or you aren't.Usually the "problem" lies with straight friends and family who are trying to change someone who cannot.I was going to say "good luck" but it isn't luck that he needs,it is understanding.
2006-11-07 09:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend represses his natural inclination, he may become frustrated and unable to fully enjoy life or sex in the future. Consider your choice seriously!
2006-11-07 04:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there is anything you can do. I am female, and like men. There is nothing anyone could do to change that. Has he been with anyone sexually? I haven't ever been with another woman and don't have the desire to try it.
2006-11-07 04:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He's going to hell if he chooses homosexuality and also if he commits suicide, so I'd just tell him to whack himself now.
2006-11-07 14:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋