he was checking his messages and i could har her through the phone... The start of her message was.."hey yooou".... She is reacently devorced and prob looking for a rebound..... should i be concerned? he says its cause she has a bubbly personalty.... I have not met her yet and its killing me that i have no clue what she looks like......
2006-11-07 03:48:11 · 34 answers · asked by wendywallet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What she looks like really doesn't matter. It all depends on how happy your husband is in his marraige to you, and how trustworthy he is. She could be a supermodel, but if he loves you, and is happy with you, he won't cheat on you.
2006-11-07 03:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity and lack of trust will kill a relationship faster than infidelity. Sad, very sad...I hope you husband is an understanding guy and not tired of your insecure antics, because it could drive him to be unfaithful.
And why do women concern themselves with what other women look like? Is your husband so shallow that he would only sleep with someone else who is prettier than you?
Honey, I don't think so. A man will sleep with any woman who can fulfill a need that his wife isn't fulfilling, no matter what either the woman or the wife looks like. At least to say if he's the kind of guy who would sleep with anyone but his wife in the first place.
2006-11-07 04:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she has recently divorced this does not mean that she is looking for a rebound. I don't think that you need to be concerned, unless you husband has started lying to you about where he's going. If you want to know what she looks like why don't you drop by the office at lunchtime, or just drop in and introduce yourself. Just because she has a bubbly personality this doesn't mean anything. I think that you are worrying over nothing considering that you don't have anything to base it on
2006-11-07 03:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. Is there any reason for you to not trust your husband? Has he ever cheated or flirted heavily to make you think he is untrustworthy? Also keep in mind...what makes you think that your husband doesn't love you enough to keep the new assistant at arms length? Most women don't realize that when they show doubt in a man's ability to say NO it makes the man feel like "what's the use...she doesn't trust me...soooo...."
You might try to feel a bit more positive with your husband. Let him know you trust him...not her...that you know that he will be able to handle the situation without any damage to your marriage. Also go meet the new intern...be happy...smile alot...(and if she looks like the blonde bombshell just mentally blow her up with grenades or pretend she is one of the dots for pac man) But Act positive around her. With some women who are on the prowl...if they meet the wife of a possible conquest and that person is likeable...well they are more liable to leave your man alone than go after him...because you see...they LIKE you. Good luck to you and personally I don't think you have anything to worry about.
2006-11-07 04:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are taking good care of your husband, it won't matter what this new assistant looks like or does. Ask yourself this, "Do I give my husband any reason to need another woman?", "Am I fulfilling all his needs?" If those answers are "yes" then where's the worry? What could she offer him that you, the woman he loves, are not already giving him? Conversely, if those answers are "No" then you are already in trouble irrespective of this assistant. BTW, this works from him to you too! Is he taking care of you and giving you all you need? If so, then he's got nothing to worry about either.
If I were you, I would not worry about meeting her or trying to be loving with your husband in front of her in some sort of female power play (besides, your husband will know just what you are doing). Just use this as a extra reason to concentrate on making sure you are supporting your side of the marriage. Re-look at what you can do to further satisfy his needs and put your effort into that and everything else will take care of itself. (btw - I'm not saying you aren't already treating him properly but it never hurts to make sure and/or try harder, right?)
2006-11-07 04:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by FortheFuture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think that any woman should call another woman's husband phone saying "Hey youuuuuuu!". To me that sounds like she's flirting...But that maybe her personality, let your husband know how that affected you and leave it up to him to handle. If she keeps doing it obviously someone is not doing their job. A person will only do what is allowed. If your husband puts her in check she will not do it again.
WAIT A MINUTE!!!
He's the employer and shes the employee there should only be a friendly relationship not a platonic relationship. Their just asking for a lawsuit
2006-11-07 05:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly that is not business like. That sounds a bit personal to me (bubbly personality or not).
I can't recall ever working any where where i can call in saying hey you and i have work in a few laid back work place. you could swing by his work unannounced (regardless of what see looks like you no some men). Should you be concern maybe about girl intention but do you trust your husband?
2006-11-07 06:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by 2b-nice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am curious as to why the most important thing for you is what she looks like. Would you feel better is she were 60 and hump back with one leg missing?
Now I am not making fun. Just a little joke. I know your concern but you really have no choice but to trust your husband.
Talk to him about this and how you feel. Sounds like you have a bit but maybe more would put your mind at ease.
Go meet her. See for yourself. But what if she is a knockout. Where will you be then?
Of course she may be looking for another mate....just normal....but it really is up to your husband and not her. Of course temptation is always their for any man but love of his wife will always override that.
Do another checkup on your relationship. If it is all it should be you have no more worries.
2006-11-07 04:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying if you see her and she looks unattractive you'll fear nothing but if she's drop dead gorgeous you'll be running on HOT? Most assistants work closely with their bosses so a platonic yet professional relationship begins. I don't think you should fear anything, it was all probably innocent but if you trust your husband don't worry because, if his assistant does look for something more, he'll handle it.
Maybe it would be a good idea to meet her or maybe not but don't let her physical abilities worry you, just make sure you're doing everything you can to continue to make your husband happy and you'll be fine.
2006-11-07 03:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by bettyspagettii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, she said Hey you! That is usually an indication of an affair, if you ask me.
No way. This woman may be friendly, there is nothing wrong with her leaving his a message that starts out with that, I would do it with my own boss, the days of starch are gone in the office.
Don't worry, she probably doesn't want to shag your husband, she just wants to earn a living!!!
2006-11-07 04:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that always puts in a tough spot. How strong is your relationship? That is really the best place to look. If you are strong and stand good together no other woman stands a chance. If there are a area's of discontent then yes you should be worried.
2006-11-07 04:00:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋