I have been in 16 year realtionship and a 6 year realtionship. One resulted in divorce. I have met this wonderful man 2 1/2 months ago. He treats me special. He wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I have never met anyone like this before. I really feel like he is the one for me. Is it to early for an early engagement and maybe get married next year. He makes me complete in ways that I hadn't felt in years. What shall I do?
2006-11-07 03:41:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I got engaged early and We both should probably of waited a lil longer.. We don't regret it now...
But we both do look back and think we needed to grow and learn a lil more about life and being together as girlfriend and boyfriend.
I'd say wait it out if you both feel like you should be together forever then it's worth the wait.
Anything is possible and you should weight it all out... Should I rush or should I take my time?
Ask yourself that because in the end your heart knows what's best not your inner-voice.
Just take it one day at a time and see what happens!
Good Luck!
2006-11-07 03:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by TashaLynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel as though when you meet that special someone you both will know.I believe in love at first sight.There are people out there who knows what they want in life regardless if they been with someone 10 years or 2 months.If both of you feel that's what you want then I say go for it.The bible says when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing.Just remember,if you do get married you got to take the good with the bad.There 's gonna be good times and bad times.For better for worse,in marriage you're in it for life.It's not like a regular relationship where things may go wrong and you can just up and leave.Trust me when I say there will be bad times,you just have stick in there and work through them.Now after saying all that if you still feel he is the one then go for it.I've been married for 5 years and it's no walk in the park.Follow your heart and not others opinion.Good luck!
2006-11-07 12:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by smithnelson99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were 18 years old, I'd say wait. But since you've been married before and been in relationships, you probably know what you are looking for. I'd not rush into the marriage yet, but it's okay to get engaged and wait 9 months to a year to marry. Use the time to get to know each other better. Best of luck!
2006-11-07 11:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in no way are we able to tell you what you should do here. you have to follow your heart but never ignoring your mind. use you your head because sometimes the heart gets us into trouble. you need to really know this guy before you make that type of committment. you don't know if he is an abuser, cheater or anything right now because it's too soon. be careful there are alot of weirdos out there and come off as the greatest guy in the world. don't be so niave. we all want to be happy in life but don't get careless trying to get there. good luck, learn more about him. maybe you will still feel the same or maybe you will be glad that you found out he was a prevert, or a jerk before you made a major decision like that.
2006-11-07 11:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should marry him because you only known him for 2 1/2 months. What if you marry this guy and a year from now he starts to put his hands on you. A side you have never seen before and you don't know what to do. You better wait and don't rush in to this. Take it slow, if he really loves you then he will respect the fact you would like to wait.
2006-11-07 12:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been out of the game for awhile after your divorce, if you've had time to really think yourself over, re find yourself from the other relationships, then if you truly believe you want to be with him get engaged, it's not a permanent thing, it's a way to extend your relationship, kind of a practice at marriage. So if you truly believe you love him, go for it, get to know him well before you actually go through with it though, I'd most defiantly wait at the very least 2 years before actually walking the aisle.
2006-11-07 12:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by psychotic_milf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your choice if you want to get engaged or not but id hold off on the wedding it has only been 2 and a half months and chances are things will change give it some more time and make sure he is who he truly says he is its always good in the beginning and if its too good to be true it almost always is
2006-11-07 11:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by anon a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this special whenever this guy is around why wait? Your both adults and you both know what your doing. Heck my grandparents married after knowing each other only 14 days. (Granted that was back during World War 2) but they are still together and quite happy. I think you should go with makes you feel good and if getting married to this man makes you feel happy with no black clouds I say go for it. Good luck and Congratulations!
2006-11-07 11:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get engaged at anytime. This person whom was like one of my best friends in HS got engaged after a month!!!
the actor Donny Bonaduce(sp) got engaged on their first date!!!
just got with your heart
2006-11-07 12:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that rushing into marriage is the best idea. If the person loves you enough they will wait as long as it takes for you to be totally ready for marriage.
2006-11-07 11:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋