me and my partner have been together for a long time and we are in a serious relationship.but there is one thing that troubles me...i cant orgasm when we have sex but i can in other ways...is there something wrong?
2006-11-07 03:33:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No there's nothing 'wrong' with either of you, a lot of women cannot orgasm during sex with a partner. Best thing I can suggest is for you to relax, relax, relax. Worrying about it, being stressed over it, esp. in the middle of making love is one sure-fire way of never reaching that orgasm. Because to do so, you need to be totally relaxed! Talk about your feelings on this with your partner, chances are s/he could be feeling as frustrated as you do. Try new techniques when you are having sex. For many many women, it's all about foreplay. To be totally frank, the more your partner gently concentrates on your clit, the closer you'll get to having one or more orgasms. Relax and enjoy how that feels, let all your thoughts be on what your partner is doing. It takes practice, both for you in relaxing and for your partner in finding just the right way that will send you over the edge. Don't be shy, tell your partner what feels good - right in the middle of it - s/he isn't a mind reader after all. lol.. Guide your partner, if s/he has just touched where it feels good, say so. If s/he has just moved away and is missing it totally, say so, and guide your partner back. Having an orgasm in the middle of making love CAN happen, and when it does, that's all you'll ever want to do for the rest of your life. :) One thing to remember tho, it can be very frustrating not reaching that orgasm, if you let it be frustrating, and if you continue to worry about not having one. The key thing is to relax, practice ways that might bring it on, and let it come (so to speak..lol). One fun way that can help is to show your partner how you bring yourself to orgasm. Yes that's right, masterbate and let your partner watch and take notes. aha ;) That can lead to all sorts of fun afterward. heh
Myst
2006-11-07 04:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Myst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk, Talk, Talk... If you can't orgasm that way... then oh well. I'm sure it's not torturous for you. Just continue to have fun with your partner and relax. Sometimes that all you have to do. Just be sure that you are communicating with your partner.
2006-11-07 12:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to your partner if you havent already and tell him how you feel. maybe you just need to try new, different things in your sex life. if you can orgasm in different ways then i dont thnk there is anything really wrong.hope this helps.
2006-11-07 11:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by carli_simone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him what makes you orgasm. Guide the way.
Good luck.
2006-11-07 11:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by honeb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no prbs girl, just keep practising foreplay is the answer, unless it becomes an issue, which you shouldnt let it, love is many ways
2006-11-07 16:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Croeso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i do not orgasm through sex but through foreplay and plenty of it!!!
2006-11-07 11:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by KeZzZza 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No nothing wrong that's normal but have fun trying that's what its all about!!!
2006-11-07 11:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Supersammy :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you do there is nothing wrong.
2006-11-07 11:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all in the mind.
try with a clear and stress free mind.
2006-11-07 11:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by fair-and-squire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-07 11:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by buldawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋