Struggling with transgenderism?

Question

I am a lifelong closeted cd/tv/tg. I began dressing at age 5 but having learned it is "wrong" ive suppressed, gone through the purge cycle,in general have had a negative self view and now that Im getting older, the feeling that I should be a woman is becoming unbearable. I can clearly envision having a female body as well as using it :). I am only seeking answers from others with experience.

The question is, how did you Know for sure that beginning Hormones was right for you?

Answer 1

Isn't this really an issue between you and your therapist?

Answer 2

That is why it is important to see a psychologist or (preferrably) a psychiatrist (which means he's also a medical doctor and knows about the drugs/hormones). Your shrink will refer you to an endocrinologist who will prescribe and supervise the drug regimen--if the shrink agrees.

To make the full and proper transition requires, according to long established process, a minimum of 3 months under psychological scrutiny before hormones, and between 1 to 2 years (6 months in Thailand) of scrutiny as a full-time female, learning your part and learning if you can deal with the hormones and, most importantly, you learning whether or not you really can or must do this.

Stuggling? Get help--that is what they are there for, and in the final part (taking your external gender equipment out and making an internal fixture) won't happen unless you go through this scrutiny (and the surgeons who do it aren't supposed to do it unless a psychologist and medical doctor both sign off that it is appropriate for you). You find out for sure by talking to a medical and mental health professional who knows these things.

Answer 3

i have only just started hormones and i am 26 i have wanted to change for years
i decided to go a head with the hormones after i was a little bit suicidal some think i have been like for many years
i thought i had two real choices in life live or die
if i was going to live i was going to live the way i wanted to find my true self and become the person i really am
three years later i decided to finally do some time when i read the hormones really do not work as well the older you get
by the age of twenty five i realized i had that new choice now or never
i decided to do it i read up on every thing again pieced my ears though out all of my male underwear, most of my male clothing and start to be a lot happier with my self
after a while i decided it was now i went to the doctor GP and told him what i was that in its self was not easy
he referred me to a psychologist and then to a gender clinic
i knew before i went to the doctor i wanted to at least try hormones i think starting them or at least the anti-anogens
being on them for months i new i liked it and wanted to go ahead with my transition
i am only really at the start of hormones but i am liking the progress i am seeing my next step that i have all ready started and that is my life test starting life as a women

so what made me change i looked into my self and seen i could not lie like this for the rest of my life
i read a statement called the what if factor pretend you are eighty-five years old looking back on your life and every thing you did not do or could have done and ask your self what if
what if i did this
what if i did that
the best answer i can give you is to be honest to your self educate your self and be your self
good luck

Answer 4

I doubt anyone will believe me, but I had what I believe was a message from God.
I was young, and like you struggling with my gender issues. I'd also been taught that it was wrong, and tried to suppress it... but without any success. I was feeling enourmous guilt over that, and couldn't sleep; I begged for God to help me, to show me what He wanted of me and grant me the strength to follow His will. As I said my 'amen,' I felt a great peace come over me. I had the best sleep of my life that night.
The next morning, I opened up the newspaper my Dad brought home - a very conservative newspaper, at least judging by the editor's words - and it flipped open to the lifestyle section, which was usually just recipes and home&garden tips. That day, there was a very positive article about transsexuals, and I felt that same peace I'd felt after my prayers. So to me, it was like God was saying "this is what you are, and I accept you."

Now, with the talk of the so-called 'god spot' in our brains, I've also considered the possibility that it was my subconscious triggering a 'mystical feeling' to help me get over my fear and repression. But either way it doesn't matter; that peace and acceptance I felt was enough to let me know that this is what is right for me.

Answer 5

I think the fact that it has now become unbearable for you should be enough to make you wanna do something about it. you need to see the appropriate people who know about these things. Please don't start to self medicate as this can be very dangerous, hrt has to be done under supervision, the last thing you wanna do is give yourself is a stroke or heart attack. As far as knowing that starting hormones was right for me, that came when like you it got unbearable. It's a massive step to take and not one to be rushed into. Please seek professional advice. Feel free to drop us a line anytime. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 6

i am on hrt...my surgery is scheduled for 8/14/07. i have known for years that this was my ultimate goal. its just a matter of following the road map at least it was for me.