You're a new mom and your husband tells you he doesn't change baby's diapers -what do you do?

Answer 1

I would tell him he better change diapers if he knows what's good for him. They say it takes two to make a baby but the mom does all the hard work so the father should make up for that by helping out after the baby is born.

Answer 2

The first thing I wondered about was - didn't you and your husband have discussions about things like shared responsibilities BEFORE your baby was actually born?

Putting that aside - have you asked him WHY he "doesn't change baby's diapers"? If it is because he is afraid of how tiny the baby is (a lot of new parents, men AND women, are nervous), that he might somehow inadvertantly harm the baby with his big, clumsy, man-hands? If that's the case, offer to show him how he can do this chore safely. Let's face it, this isn't rocket science.

If it's because he is sexist, well, then, I have a feeling that changing a baby's diapers isn't the only thing you have to contend with. Politely advise your husband that he can be that way OUTSIDE the house if he so chooses, but INSIDE the home, you expect him to be a caring, loving, and involved part of all the responsibilities that go along with having a baby/child. You are not asking him to change EVERY diaper, just his fair share, or as circumstances call for. Ask him how HE would feel if HE had to poop and pee in HIS pants (and I am praying he doesn't).

If, after discussing these possibilities with your husband, he STILL doesn't come around to being sensible, well, then, obviously YOU will have the burden of caring for your new baby pretty much alone, which would be sad - for ALL of you. I wish you luck...and offer congratulations on your new addition!

Answer 3

My fiance and his brother-in-law both used to insist that they would never change a baby's diaper. When his nephew was a few months old, I went with his sister (the baby's mom) to the spa for a day, and we left the baby with her husband and my fiance.

The baby's grandma refused to come over when he needed changing. They figured it out. They rinsed his butt under the sink instead of using a wipe (they didn't want to touch it), and put the diaper on backwards, but it got done. When he needs to do it, he will.

Answer 4

PUNK! lol

This is HIS baby, that you nourished through your BODY for almost a year (9 months), pusheddddddddddd it out! And HE can't change a diaper! PLEASE!

All jokes aside, that is part of being a "parent" and helping with the care of the infant. Let's be real, NOBODY gets a kick out of looking at or smelling S--T! But, it has to be done and he needs to help do it! After the major blessing you have just brought into both of your lives, he should really be willing to do ANYTHING where the baby is concerned!

Answer 5

Tell him that he made the baby to and he is responsible for half of everything with the child. My husband would change the wet diapers but would not change the crapped ones and I was happy with that cause he was willing to help.

Answer 6

Go out with the girls for a day and leave him with the baby. He'll have no choice but to do it! Or think of something to take away from him (like being intimate!) until he decides to be a man and change a diaper.

Answer 7

You explain to him that the baby is just as much his as it is yours. The mother will naturally change more diapers (in most instances), but you husband should be happy to do his part. Don't let him off too easy, and don't put up with any nonsense about it being the mother's job.

Answer 8

OK my husband did not change diapers until the umbilical cord came off and out kids were a bit bigger. He just felt clumsy because the kids were so small. Give it some time, that is all I did and now he has no problems with it. He may be just nervous because your baby is small.

Answer 9

Change your baby. If husband refuses to do it you have to. In this day and age it really is a shame that a man won't change diapers.

Answer 10

put your foot down! it is absolutely necessary for him to suck it up and do it. what happens when he's alone with the baby? is he going to let the baby just sit in it's own filth until someone else comes along to take care of it? that's the kind of parenting that get's CPS involved. it is the duty of BOTH parents to ensure the well being of their child. tell him straight up "if you don't change your child's diaper, then you are a bad father." it's the truth.