My husband tries to deny the whole thing but I found an email he sent to her telling her its ok they can just keep everything to themselves. The other girl is married also. When I question my husband about his feelings for this other person he denies them but in his email to her he clearly states that he has feelings for her.
Since being caught he has done nothing or said anything to her to make her think that he doesnt care about her. He carries her picture everywhere. Im very angry and its hard to stay calm but I try so that I dont go into early labor. I want to leave but cant cause I have no money so Im stuck here until I can go back to work. I hate being here knowing that he is not being real about his feelings. I wonder if there is a place I can go to who can help me to get on my feet so I can leave now.
2006-11-07 03:22:27 · 16 answers · asked by red2lu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him he obviously does not have any respect for you if he can not be honest. You say you have no money but in a marriage what's his is yours and what's yours is his 50/50. He also has the other 2 kids to think about. Try staying with family or a friend. Good luck Some states have emergency help as well.
2006-11-07 03:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were me i would have called the other h*e's husband and spilled everything LOL.... but on a serious note, you should really try to go see a counslor. If you don't have insurence that will cover it go to access and try to get it there. You seriously need help. I"m going through my own delimma with my husband cheating (hes a marine who did it when (who would have guessed) he was out of town on another assignment) and guess what? he's DENYING it all the way too, even though i have proof just like you do. They always do and he's going to turn it around on you be careful. Go see a counslor, that's what i need to do too. and i'm going to start doing this wednesday. It gets harder you should talk to someone soon. Good luck and best wishes
2006-11-07 11:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by kellie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call a women's shelter but they usually only help women who are in danger. I suggest you kick him out and file the papers for divorce. Let him find a new place to live...you keep the kids and the house. Before it's too late you need to open your own bank account and start putting money away. make sure you keep all the bank statements and records so you can prove how much money was in there before filing. You can possibly put a freeze on teh bank account but I would take most of the money and put it in your own account and keep records of the bills you paid with the money so you can show you took the money for bills not just for yourself. Take the money before you kick him out...leave him enough to for a down payment on an apartment or a hotel room for one month.
2006-11-07 11:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make his life a living hell. he is a selfish unworthy pig. you and your children deserve better. i have kids and a bad marriage, the only reason i havent left yet is because i know he hasnt cheated yet. Cheating on someone is the single most disrespectful thing you can do to yourself and your partner. There is absolutly no reason to be with more than one person at a time. It will be extremely hard at first, but you and your children's happiness is worth it. Take everything!!! Kick him out, demand alimony and child support, he screwed up not you, make HIM pay for it.
2006-11-07 11:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by spacecadet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are not on your own. Contact an attorney and definitely keep the email. For one he will have to pay child support for 3 children and in some states you can sue his girlfriend for "alienation of affection". Does her husband know? If not he needs to know. Your home is in shambles and her husband deserves to know that she is unfaithful as well.
Since he obviously doesn't care that he has hurt you, seek legal advise. You will not have to leave your home, I can almost guarantee that. He will have to own up to his indiscretions and maybe then when it hits him in the wallet will it open his eyes. Don't fall for the I'm sorry story then.
Most importantly, take care of yourself and your children. Talk to family members or friends. That is what they are there for.
Best of luck to you sweetie.
2006-11-07 11:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by bonjovigroupie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of if you know the person real name send a printed out copy of the email,if you can to the spouse of the lady he is fooling around with. and print out a copy for yourself. contact a lawyer, and have divorce papers drawn up, have them served to him at work. on the day he is served pack up his clothing and leave it outside of the door. have a lock smith come in and re key the locks on all doors that gain access into the house. in divorce cases the court will not order the wife and kids to leave the house, even if the house is in the husband names. if renting contact landlord and explain the situation. they will take steps to ensure husband does not have access.
2006-11-07 11:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce, you will get support for you and your kids even during the separation period. I was scared to death when I decided to leave my husband for just about the same reason but everything eventually worked out and I was so much happier without the worry and pain he had been causing me.
2006-11-07 11:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local Department of Social Services and apply for a grant, they can also tell you where to find a shelter until the grant starts. Good luck!
2006-11-07 11:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first place I would try is local Woman"s Shelters. They should be able to advise you what services are available to you in your area. Very sad especially when there are young children involved.. Good Luck!!!!
2006-11-07 11:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Diablo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to give him an ultimatum.you and the kids should be his first priority and if you aren't then kick him to the curb im sure you can get benefits from the government to support yourselves i was a single mum and me and my kids were so much better for it if you guys can work it out even better but don't lose your self worth you deserve a faithful man and the kids deserve a committed father good luck
2006-11-07 11:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by tigerella69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋