My husband and i got married when we were 18 and 17 right out of high school after a year of dating we eloped. My parents could not stand him at all thought he as a looser and spoiled brat. After being married 3 months it was hard the standard of living for both of us dropped dramaticly i found out i was pregnant he was fine with it till he saw the utra sound we seperated his choice.I went back home(to my parents) and gave birth to our daughter started working for my moms buisness that she owns and going to college. I will be graduating this year with degree in finance.My husband and i have yet to file the paper work for divorce. I started seeing someone else for the last 2 yrs an old friend from kindergarden who moved away when we were young.He is wonderful with my daughter and she calls him dad. Estranged hubby just got in contact wanting to be a family again after 4 yrs i said no.Now he is demanding to meet my bf and see his daughter?
2006-11-07 03:14:54 · 17 answers · asked by Isabel G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Estranged hubby threatened to take my daughter away and take half of everything i own.Can he do that?
2006-11-07 03:16:28 · update #1
He never paid child support
2006-11-07 03:20:38 · update #2
Go to court and get a divorce.
2006-11-07 03:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic. If your estranged husband hasn't seen his daughter in four years, he can't just waltz back into her life like nothing happened. Has he been paying child support? In some states, if he hasn't seen the child or paid child support in 2 years his parental rights can be terminated. You need to get an attorney right away. I doubt he can get custody and take her away from you, but he CAN get visitation with her. And you can sue him for back support. I would not let him meet your bf OR see his daughter until you've seen an attorney and know your rights. He may actually be entitled to half of what you have, but you are entitled to half of what he has, too, since you are still married. Hurry and make an appt.
2006-11-07 03:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is none of his business. You are married by a legal paper only. Your husband is that by title only.
As for your baby, contact a lawyer. Things are in your favor because your "husband" suddenly took an interest after 4 years but it helps to have someone on your side who knows the system and will help keep you from getting screwed by the loser.
While you're at it, file for the divorce. It's a hassle but the longer you wait, the bigger hassle it's going to become.
Good luck!
2006-11-07 03:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does have a right to see her, but you may not be entitled to chidl support. you are legally married, not legally separated or divorced, so you will have a hard time, i think, getting a decree from the court ordering him to pay retroactive child support. That is something you should have pursued from the date of your child's birth. Also, he is entitled to half of the marital assets, but keep in mind that the entirety of marital assets includes material and financial wealth that he has accumulated in the past 4 years. So it "could" work against him. He can play the adultery card, since you currently have a boyfriend, but that is a difficult thing for him to successfully do, based on the situation. You could also file for sole legal custody based on his abandonment of you and the child.
That would be your best bet, in my opinion.
2006-11-07 03:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Heath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go file for the divorce asap. Then you need to file for back child support. As ot him seeing your daughter it is important that you let him see her even if you dont want to eventually she will be old enough to see what kind of man her father really is and then she can choose if she wants to see him or not. As for him taking her away from you do not let her out of ur sight with him because if he takes off with her they will tell you it is not kidnapping because he is the father, trust me it happened to me, and you will be stuck in court trying to fight to get her back. So make sure all visitaions are supervised adn I would have your bf there just in case anything happens, obviously he is already a big part of your life so u should not shut him out of this part of your life because it looks like now you will be having to deal with this man for a while. GOOD LUCK MY DEAR.
2006-11-07 03:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he cant do is have his family back. If you go to the court house and see if you can get a restraining order on him if he is threatining you. You can file for a divorce and tell the judge that he was gone for how ever long he was gone. That is called abandonment and the judge doesnt take that lightly. If you have assets that are the both of yours you would probably get them because he did leave.
2006-11-07 03:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes he can depending on what state your in. My suggestion would be to file for seperation papers that will start it. He dose have the right to see his daughter if he on the birthpapers. But as for the BF no he has no right for that. If your worried about him taking her. then just meet somewhere like a resteraunt or a park.
Good Luck
2006-11-07 03:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot do that. That having been said, you should allow him to meet his daughter. It is important that your daughter get to know her real father, even if he was not there for her. That having been said, he does not have the right to demand things from you. You have raised her, while he took the easy road. You could sue him for child support, and back child support. Legally, you have the advantage. Do not let him bully you.
2006-11-07 03:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is the stupid area. He advised you he's what he's and left. yet you nevertheless call him up and get annoyed with the aid of fact he won't kiss your butt and beg or replace. in case you proceed it particularly is going to be over completely. Take a problematic look at your expectancies. What do prefer from him that he's no longer prepared to grant? Are those requests even obtainable? You greater desirable parent this out in case you have any objective to reconcile. i understand that I grow to be so lots greater immune to changing something while i'm the only one being hung with the ought to.
2016-10-03 09:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demanding to see your BF. Ha, I would laugh in his face. As far as his daughter, I would make him take me to court to see her, and when he takes you to court ask for child support. A court will not take a child away that has only lived with one parent their entire life, unless of proven abuse. He will not be awarded much of anything if he hasn't contributed to the household in years. Don't worry too much about it. But do document what he says to you and when he calls, this will be needed in court if it gets ugly.
2006-11-07 03:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋