im having sex with boyfriendfor more than 7 months that's the time weve been going out how should i tell my parents about it with out freaking them out and them telling me i cant see my boyfriend anymore!
2006-11-07 02:55:08 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Use condoms and birth control, tell your parents you are using condoms and birth control, tell them that you are being responsible and safe when you have sex, it will be easier for them to hear that you are having safe-sex than to hear that you(their, as far as they know, daughter who has never had sex)is pregnant or caught a sexually transmitted disease. tell them the truth, emphasize that you are having safe sex, and hope for the best.
2006-11-08 10:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be no easy way to tell them. Not for you or for them. The best way is to sit them down in a mature way and tell them like an adult. If you feel your old enough to have sex then you should be able to be mature enough to tell your parents.
Don't go into expecting a positive reaction from them. That will only disappoint you. Being a mother of a 13 year old, I would want to know. Give them time to absorb the information and be prepared to answer their questions. They will have questions.
As far as them telling you not to see your boyfriend anymore, that shouldn't really bother you, because I'm sure they told you not to have sex before a certain age or to at least talk to them first but you did it anyways. So, you'll probably find a way to see your boyfriend whether they allow you to or not.
They are your parents and after the initial shock and disappointment wears off they will appreciate the fact that you told them. At least I would like to hope so.
2006-11-07 03:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by April L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How good of a relationship do you have with your parents? Can you tell them anything?
Be honest with them - especially if you're having safe sex - which you really should be anyway! Make sure they know it was your decision - that he didn't coerce you or anything. They're probably going to freak... Part of being an adult is accepting the consequences for our actions, and since you're doing an adult action, you have to accept whatever they decide. (In other words, if they forbid you to see your boyfriend or ground you because they don't trust you right now, deal with it. No sneaking around, because they'll trust you even less if they find out.)
Good luck!
2006-11-07 03:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them; because your parents are yet responsible for you and if ANYTHING at all happened to you as a result of this sexual relationship, your parents don't need to be blind-sided by the news. Anddddd, I guarantee you at least ONE of them are thinking you are doing it anyway; parents tend to figure these things out.
In the mean time, until you decide what you are going to do and how yo umay tell, STAY PROTECTED!!!! I don't care how you think it feels without condoms, what he says, etc. YOU don't know where he has been, if he is with someone other than you, you don't want an STD and you don't want a baby! Trust me Miss lady, I have been your age, and with all the dating and love in the world, boys your age are lil freaks and have horomones on edge!!! JUST BE SAFE...PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!
2006-11-07 04:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't underestimate the knowledge your parents have. Remember, they were 15 once too. They went through the same feelings and concerns you are. The important thing to know is that you don't need to have sex at 15. There are many reasons. Most of them are risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. One of the more important ones is risk to your self esteem. Ask yourself these questions....Am I having sex because it feels so good to me? Am I truly in love with this person and does he/she truly love me back? Do I feel completely happy and secure after having sex or do I feel empty and sad? I'm sure your mom will be able to help you answer some of these questions and take you to the doctor to get medical questions answered. Communication saves lives. You may freak them out (only because they will always see you as their little girl) but they will love you always.
2006-11-07 03:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by BCMEDIC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother of 4, two that are teenage girls, 17 and 14. Both have boyfriends. I'm trying to think how I would react if one of them (or even both of them) came to me and told me they're having sex. First, I'd be very upset that they didn't come to me BEFORE hand. I've told them if they ever do decide to go that route so young, to let me know, I can't stop them from doing what they're going to do, but I can help them protect themselves because the boy IS NOT going to care. Second, I'd need to make a doctor appointment for them with an OB/GYN so they can get a pap-smear and put on birth control. I know birth control is not always 100% sure, so I will also need to get them condoms for their boyfriends and insist the boy wear it, or no sex. I know my daughters don't tell me everything, they're not supposed to. But I've made sure to let them know I am here for them when needed.
How is your relationship with your mother? If it's anything like what I mentioned above, talk to HER, not your dad. He'll totally freak out. If it's anything like my relationship was with my own mother....well, I say YOU get yourself to a doctor, a family planning clinic that keeps all visits confidential, get a pap smear done and get on birth control. Get some condoms for your boyfriend and insist he wears them everytime you two have sex. You may opt to get the condoms with ridges on them to better your pleasure, too. Remember, this is for YOUR safety as well as your pleasure.
2006-11-07 03:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15 my boyfriend lived at my house my parents were very cool about it. If your parents are the type that would go crazy if they found out keep it to yourself use condoms so you dont catch anything and DO NOT GET PREGNANT like I did Im an idiot I know. Just be very careful and wait till your around 17 to let them know. If you really want to tell them start by telling your mom in your room alone have a talk and then let your mom tell your dad things will be better like that. Goodluck
2006-11-07 03:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the better idea would be to quit before you have something else to tell your parents.... stop ruining your life... its not a joke... if you "just cant stop" well you most be all grown up and mature so just walk right up to mummy and daddy and tell them what are you so afraid of?????? once you tell your mom and dad have them take you to get some birth control....
but really the best answer would be STOP HAVING SEX
you know all the things you depend on your parents for? well those are all the things your baby is going t o be depending on you for.: food shelter warmth a bed to sleep in... there are a million things you have that i am guessing you take for granted why dont you walk out your door and see how much you really have to offer.... THINK ABOUT IT!!!!!
2006-11-07 04:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Do not tell them, it will only lead to trouble. Your parents might not be the understanding type and only see you getting pregnant and then be really protective and not let you see him, or let you go out without all the details and back up. Do yourself a favor, dont tell your parents. And having sex with your boyfriend, do you feel your ready to be a mom if one of his little boys gets pregnant?
Good Luck
2006-11-07 05:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by Horselover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest with them.. As a mother of a 15 year old I would rather know what is going on in her life than to be in the dark..
2006-11-07 03:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by CheeCha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋