Have you ever been bullied in your life?

Question

How did you get over it. I thought I'd be over it, it's been like a year. But the hurt is still there.

Answer 1

The trouble with bullying it can be done in such a subtle way that you are not even aware that it is happening. This was the case in a relationship I once had.

I my health suffered badly because of the bullying and once I had realised what had been happening, it took me a long to time to get over the hurt and to put my trust in anyone.

It must sound very naive of me but when you are young and guilble to someone's charms you can be oblivious to the obvious.

Time is a great healer and it is important that you not to give up on human beings. Often people who bully others are often a victim themselves..thus creating a vicious circle so that's why it is important to deal with it and then move on.

Answer 2

Yes I was bullied. I was working for local government about 5 years ago. They the bosses knew I was being bullied and they did nothing to help me, despite me involving unison etc. It destroyed me. When I asked for help everyone of the union guys told me to forget it as my council were too powerful. I took em to tribunal and they came up with 6 people against me.. including the guy who was bullying me. As you can see by my answer.. I am not over it. I have .. all my life helped other people. Was an outgoing character.. and was involved in a big charity for three years.. now.. I hide away on this thing. But next week I am moving .. getting rid of all the old ghosts that have been controlling my life, so .. no advice from me.. except.. if you are either in School or work.. take it on .. don't hide from it. Sometimes bullies win.. but look at their lives.. something almost always happens to bad people. Karma..

If you need to talk about being bullied.. email me - will be a good listener I promise because the more you share the better it is.

Answer 3

Yes, I didn't have any money and it never occured to our school bully. She just demanded it anyway, then when I 'wouldn't' hand it over she threatened all my mates so they stopped talking to me.
That hurt more than getting bullied. And you'll never believe this, but 20 years later I bumped into her. She hasn't changed much, she's still a deeply unpleasant person.
And I'm not, so thats how I felt better about it all in the end.
The bully will always be like that and you are a better person. You will make new friends and do things in your life.
They will always be filled with spite, envy and malice. Its a sad way to live.

It could take you as long as 2 years for the pain to fade away; its like a kind of grief when someone close to you dies. Also if you were humiliated that takes a long time to fade to a distant memory. Just be good to yourself and keep going, in time your life will move on and you will feel better.

Answer 4

It depends on how you define bullying.

Two types:

a) physical bullying and
b) psychological bullying

Certainly, one would come across both forms in most people's lives unless you live on an island on your own.

Type a) is common amongst males growing up. It is never really very damaging, and so long as you are not underdeveloped it can usually be easily dealt with by hitting the biggest bully very hard once only.

Type b) is common amongst females and older adults and the government. It can be humiliating, demeaning, frustrating, and isolating. It totally destroys your trust of everyone, and causes some severe personality disorders such as extreme withdrawal from society and also extrovert tendencies.

Type b) is also common within workplaces, where under the table bullying is rife especially within very sick companies that are dying and rife with fraud.

Type b) bullying also occurs from teachers in secondary school, parents, and older siblings.

In dealing with type b) bullying, one has to remember who your friends are. In particular remember who your best friend is. When you realise that your best friend in the whole world is yourself, then if you treat yourself properly and with respect, everyone else is largely an irrelevance.

Answer 5

So many good answers on here :) bullying is often a circle dad bullies son, son bullies brother, brother bullies kid at school they bully the little girl next door...its always power. The people they pick on are those who are different but mainly those with lower self esteem, who dont do something about the bullying. The better you feel about yourself the quicker and easier the bullying goes away, it takes time only if you doubt yourself and start to think what the bully says about you may be true. Dont let them take your self esteem from you hun, its what makes you a better person.

Answer 6

Yes i use to get bullied at school that was over 30 years ago when i was weighing in at a measly 7 stone i am now a taxi driver and i pick up some of the bullies that use to be at school how good it is now weighing 18 stone and extracting my own verbal taking out on them its took this long hope it does not take this long for you be patient it will pass

Answer 7

Yes, when I was in 6th and 7th grade. I was small for my age and got bullied. I wish I would have stood up for myself back then. I haven't been bullied since then b/c I hit a growth spurt in 9th grade and I started to stand up for myself. A lot of it is self confidance. If it is worlds and criticisms ignore it and do what makes you happy. There is a place for you in the world, even though you may not see it now. There are others like you and that have the same interests. Not everyone will like you and you shouldn't worry about them. If it's physical try to stand up for your self. You may get beat up but you don't come off as an easy target to the bullies and they will try and find a new person to bully that wont stand up to them.

Answer 8

Yes badly! It ended up with me losing my job and having to get redress in the employment tribunal. I won but this was a waste of time as the recompence is paltry!
The only way you can get over it is to compartmentalise these events and put them away. Don't try analyse or try to solve it - you can't.
Come to terms with yourself and learn to recognise the early signs of a bully and keep away.
Use it as a learning experience and feel sorry for the bully as they are in far more trouble than you. You will learn this as you get older.
There are plenty of web sites which discuss this and www.bullyonline.co.uk is a good place to start.
Life will get better, just learn to relax and let go.

You will note that there are plenty of bullies on line too. I have had some really aggresive answers to my questions. Has any one else?

Answer 9

I remember being bullied in primary school and the scars are still there, i think we have to realise it's human nature and also it's immaturity on the bullies side too they get a sense of power, if its caught and dealt with quickly then they hopefully will stop, often the bullies are the ones that are bullied themselves.

Answer 10

Yup. When I was in 1st grade there was a bully in school who'd rough me up every now and then.

The way to get over it is to know that you are moving forward. Feel compassion for the bully. He or she most likely acts that way because they are probably bullied by their mom or dad--or both--at their own home.

Don't let your thoughts linger in negative feelings. Feel good about yourself, always. If you are mentally and spiritually strong, that is something that no one can take away from you--ever. Cheer up! =)